From blonde to red to orange and now a frosty orange....please help!

I am a natural light dirty blonde and had been highlighting my hair for several years. I listenened to my husband and went dark red. Over 6 weeks it faded to an orange. I went to get professional help ( for the color not the emotional trauma I am going through) and asked if he could color it all a dirty blonde and highlight. He said the best thing to do would be to add highlights and lowlights. Well, he used a warm blonde because there is still alot of orange in my hair. So now it is a mess of orange, brassy blonde, and verry little light brown. I can't even see the light brown now. Oh, and my natural roots are starting to grow out so it is awful. I have to confess that a week after the highlights I was desperate and bought a cool blonde highlighting kit and was going to dilute it with shampoo & conditioner and wash it in my hair to see if it would take out the orange. Thank God I left out the highlighting cream by mistake. So all I washed in my hair was the powder and developer. I think all it did was damage my hair.
What could I do to fix this and how long should I wait. My hair is naturally curly too and feeling damaged. I am using protein treatments and thinking of chopping it all off which I don't really want to do.

Hi , I am going thru the same thing u are.except.. I went from light brown with highlights to dark black. then orange, then red with highlights, have been to 4 different professionals and all that has happend to me is ive lost alot of my hair/and its so thin its aweful..not to mention its back to orange,red,and blonde.. Im very embarrassed to be seen and i dont want to have to cut what little hair i have left off..so if u know anyone who can advise me on what to do please lemme know..IM desperate...:( thanks and hava great day.. pammie [/i

I have a question. I die my hair red, and I wanted to highlight it, so I went out and the closest they had to highlighting for red hair was a rich copper, but it is for medium to dark brown hair. If I used it on my hair, would it turn out a weird color?