i want to see how my hair would look blonde but...

I really like the first blonde option on makeoversolutions.com... although I find the rest, as you say, look too solid and fake.

Clairol's is GREAT too, it has tons of options and will give you a good idea of what the color will look like with your complexion... My only complaint there is that you can't fool around with your makeup too, and from my experience going back and forth from blonde to bruntette and back again, it's always been neccessary to change my makeup as well... rosier blush or whatnot.

Good luck! :)

all the sites ive tried with the virtual makeovers all look like someone just colored with a crayon around my existing hair in the picture i submitted. are there any site that have the VM with hair that actually looks like hair?