How to get a girl to go short

Hi my name is Dan, I love short hair and everything about it. I like shaved heads to just above the shoulders on women. I have been dating my girlfriend for about a year now maybe even a little more and i have wanted her to get her haircut short for some time now. i finally convinced her to go shorter than her mid back haircut that she has always had. she got her haircut to a little below her shoulders. i would love if she got a bob or even shorter. she had a bad experience a couple years back with a bob but i have seen a picture and it is clear that it is from a bad stylist not that short hair doesnt look good. does anyone ahve any suggestions on how to convince her to go shorter maybe even to a buzzcut?

Dan

dont get me wrong i love her no matter what her hair is, and im still very attracted to her no matter what it looks like. but i like many other people here find short hair very attractive. i would settle with whatever she decided because in the end its not that big of a deal to me however if she were to do it i would be very attractive, and even more so a short bob would suit her very well as she has an extremely pretty neck

Dan

I personally am not in favor of trying to get people to change their hair but my advice for those who are is similar to what Debbie said.

Leave the subject alone. If you must ask her to change then give her several options including longer bobs and below the shoulder styles. Go get some hair magazines from the store and just sit down with her and look at them together. But don't say anything about her wearing those styles.

If she sees a cut she likes she might go get it but let her figure that out. Don't ask her to. She already cut it once. It doesn't matter if the stylist messed up or not she has already tried it. If her wearing a bob is that important to you go get a wig for her to wear. Then say something like, "Honey, I'm really sorry for bugging you about your hair before. I want you to know that I love you and your hair no matter what you do. But I want to be honest with you about my feelings. I really like short hair and even though I don't really want you to change completely I was wondering if maybe sometimes when we're alone if you'd wear this wig for me. I think it would look nice on you. Again, You are beautiful already and this won't make you anymore beautiful. I just want to have some fun and to share this with you. If you don't want to that's ok. I understand. I am glad that I was able to tell you this honestly though."

I don't know if that's right or wrong but if you're going to bother her about it you need to let her make the choices and accept whatever results. That includes the possibility of the answer being "No"

Troll- I donot think so. But I do think he likes short hair on women and there is nothing wrong with that. Alot of men do.  But I am just afraid that if he keeps asking her that she will cut it all off and then hate him for it.  Or get tired of him asking and they break up.  I am just a romantic at heart!  Dan I wish you the best of luck with this endeavor. 

I'm glad to hear that Dan.

In the meantime offer to help her with the hair she does have. If you think she'll let you. Maybe buy a book about braids and updos or share some tips you learn here. Buy her some pretty hairtoys like nice hairsticks or combs. Maybe learn how to trim it for her.

Some ladies might not want their partner helping out with their hair. Sometimes it's better for them to do their own detangling and such. They might have a memory of a parent or stylist who even just one time yanked on their hair. So if she says no that could be why.

The key word is support her and I think you understand that. Maybe instead of hair you could paint her nails for her or something?

why not do what i did:

i had told her several times that to me long hair is so ordinary then i printed out a few pictures and said i think you would look so hot in these haircuts do you think you would ever try them???

she said yah maybe one day   then i would show her haircuts in malls or magazines that to me (bobs) were sooo nice and say you should try that

then BOOM one day she said ok i think its time i cut off my long hair

and for a little over a year she has been getting great bobs and i am in heaven   DONT come on too strong though!!!!

i am currently tring to convince her to get the cut charlize theron has in aeon flux   thats sooo damn sexy to me

BY THE WAY IF SHE DOES CUT IT LET HER KNOW THAT IT LOOKS AMAZING LIKE I DO EVEN IF ITS JUST A TRIM!!!!!!!!

Edited by lovebobs

i usually know when she gets her haircut as its an exciting event for her. its something she gets nervous about choosing and will start by talking to me about how she will only get a trim and i say yeah thatll be great. and then a few days before she goes she asks again what i think she should do, i of course say well maybe you should try something a little shorter be adventurous as (we're both 19) we're young when your older you might feel that you cant do things like that because your in business or something of that nature i think its been working as she did cut it shorter the last time from mid breast to a little below the shoulder. she is scared that a bob would look bad on her but i can only imagine how great she would look. she has the perfect body for a nice chin length bob but is too nervous to even do it. but no matter what happens after she comes home from the salon i always say it looks great and it usually does. when she first comes back and its done perfectly it looks gorgeous, and i make sure that she knows, especially when she went shorter, i could barely contain myself. she had to tell me to stop kissing her i was kissing so much.

Dan

I don't understand the thing about people dating or marrying someone who's the opposite of what they want, and trying to change that person.  Isn't it easier to pick someone who fits your criteria in the first place?  If your criteria involve hairstyles, or some other changeable feature, once you find someone who has what you want, be sure you let them know all the time how much you like that about them.  It'll make them feel good to know you're so attracted, and maybe more likely to keep it up, or at least let you help make decisions on changes.

DarkHelmet wrote: I think you should find a girl on the side with the short haired look you like. Live out your fantasy, Make love to the girl and then see if it's all cracked up to be what you imagined. If it is tell your girlfreind you would really like to see her in short hair. It's obvious she wants your opinion.If she says yes, then get rid of the girl your having an affair with pronto. If she says no to it, then keep the short haired girl you would be having an affair with on the side indefinetly. Also there's great websites on subliminal messages and hypnosis. It's a known fact the best time to suggest things is while somone is sleeping. Particularly in there deep REM state and also when they are dozing off. Simply whisper and repeat the same sentence with your desired result and request, over and over about 5 times, low enough not to wake the person. It's well documented and used by husband and wives and bf/gf's. For example many woman have used this to get their husband to buy them jewerly, or go on a trip. Just search the net,there are web sites and books to teach you how to this ability.

Uh-huh. 

Kuroneko wrote: I don't understand the thing about people dating or marrying someone who's the opposite of what they want, and trying to change that person.  Isn't it easier to pick someone who fits your criteria in the first place?  If your criteria involve hairstyles, or some other changeable feature, once you find someone who has what you want, be sure you let them know all the time how much you like that about them.  It'll make them feel good to know you're so attracted, and maybe more likely to keep it up, or at least let you help make decisions on changes.

I think a lot of the sexiness is in the change. I'd rather go out with a girl(omg lesbian) who had brown hair and wanted to go blonde, than one who was already blonde.

Similiarily, I find the idea of chopping off hair more fun than the actual prospect of having short hair.

It's not the most important factor, but it can be worrying when the perfect woman doesn't quite match up to an image, it's a niggle, it gets at you, convinces you she isn't the one for you, I can kind of see why it would be like that. It's generally best to make an effort to broaden your taste, solves a lot of problems. I did and I have a few more options open to me I didn't before now.