Need support from my friends at HB!

So, I've been feeling a little discouraged lately. I cut my hair back in
October, which was devastating BTW, I cried for about a week. But you
know what they say, life goes on, and hair grows. So, I joined this hair
board and have been enjoying discussions here with everyone ever since,
getting great advice and inspiration. Yet lately I'm finding as my hair
grows, I have been having a lot of regretful thinking...if I didn't cut it
back then...imagin how long it would be now... these sorts of
thoughts. Thinking this way is really not my style. I'm really all about
trying to make the best of a bad situation. But the hair thing, I have
trouble dealing with for some reason, it really bothers me! I guess it's
something that effects me all the time. If I'm having a good hair day, the
whole of the day turns out good, and visa versa. Maybe it's all in my head
(no puns intended). I don't really know what I want from you guys, but
you all have such great things to say here, and you all care about hair as
much as I do. So I thought maybe I could get some words of wisdom from
my pals at HB. Wow, sorry for the lengthy thread people.

Hi Sugaree..I am new here and I recently had a bad cut done on my hair.  I lost about 5 inches off hair that I worked on for over a year to get the length I had. Like you I cried too, but then I started thinking to myself " it will grow back before you know it ". Already in only 2 weeks, I have noticed a difference. I too keeping thinking about what I use to  have, but I know by summers end, I will have it again.  On a good note, as LadyFrog stated, any damaged ends I had is gone.  My hair feels great to the touch and I cant wait to feel it this good when it gets longer!  I hope you feel better soon.  By the way, how much did you cut off?

 for you Sugaree.  We've all been there I'm sure. I am there quite often   But just think about this: While you feel sad, your hair is growing.  When you wake up and look at yourself in the mirror and think "eek", your hair is growing.  While you look at photos of your old self with long hair, your hair is growing. While you do the laundry and vacuum the floor, your hair is growing.   I mean...it's growing!!!!  And you are getting such great growth too.

Best thing to do....try not to look at it, or think about it.  A watched pot never boils.  Put it up in a nice style, and then concentrate on other things in your life.  Your hair IS and WILL KEEP growing while your life happens.  Put the energy into your life

      Okay, Sugaree, I understand how you were sucked into a cut in October. It's easy to notice other women with great short cuts, and esp. on a bad day, start thinking how a change might lift your spirits. BUT, since you are someone who truly loves tresses, and your mental image of yourself is as such, any feelings of exhiliration YOU would experience with a new look would be short-lived.

     That's why many long-haired folks say that you should give yourself a minimum of two weeks before making any change. The important thing , Sug, is that you now know beyond any doubt, that your spirit is best nourished with long hair. You have a long life ahead, and this is a temporary setback. Tell yourself, "My hair looks good *now*, but for the rest of my life, it's only getting better!"

     Tack a photo of your present self in a prominent place to remind yourself of your current feelings, should you ever be impressed with a particularly nice short haircut on someone again. Pretty coifs will always be out there, tempting sensuous Rapunzels to join the crowd. But for you (and me, obviously), there is nothing in this world as ravishing as a woman with cascading long tresses. And mistakes need *never* be repeated. It's all up to you, Sugaree! Happy Growing, Bob

Edited by Bob S

We all support you and support the growth of longer hair, but you always have to keep in mind that it is only hair.  No matter what happens, you can't let your hair ruin your life - your life is more important, and the annoying hair days will pass.  Good luck, and hope you feel better soon. 

WOW. Thank you all so much! Everyone has such wise things to say, I
can't help but feel inspiried. I love this board! You are all good
peoples. I totally agree with everything that was said here! I am actually
feeling a lot better about it ( I was really having a bad day the day I posted
this, you all helped so much. ) I hope you guys don't think I'm some
weirdo that has no problems bigger than the length of my hair, trust me, I
do! But I feel my concern for my personal appearance radiates outward to
other aspects of my life ( like work, relationships and my general self
confidence. ) But, like Susan W said, my life is more important than hair,
and I'm just glad I woke up this morning. THANK YOU ALL, YOU ROCK!

Hey, that's a good question

You asking me about my sig just made me realize it's relevancy to this
situation. ( Since I'm having technical difficulties right now, the quote was,
"Lately it's occurred to me, what a long strange trip it's been".) It's one of
my favorite quotes. What it means to me is; looking back, and thinking
about how our experiences make life so rich. But they may have been
talking about LSD. Who knows!