Fickle,
It is our pleasure. Glad we could be of assistance. You seem like a
delightful young lady! Best wishes in your desire for a new short
hairstyle. I know you will find a style that is right for you lovely
lady!
I'll pile on agree. Look in the magazine and pick out a bob cut similar to what the stylist recommended and the pixie you'd love to have. Go see another stylist and ask him/her what he/she thinks. Then whip out the magazine and tell him, "this is the cut I'm told I should have. This is what I want. What do you think?"
If she says the bob, get that. Live with it a while. If you like it, keep it. If not, go shorter. The only way to see if the short pixie works is to try it. If it doesn't work, grow it back out to the bob. I don't think either cut will look bad on you, but what you feel looks good is all that matters.
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Short in stages might be the way to go. I did that and ended up ultra short but it took me some time to get there. It gives you and everyone around you the chance to get used to you without the hair without such a drastic change all at once. I kept going shorter and shorter because I just really didn't like the inbetween cuts. I tried an inverted bob with stacked back and really hated it. I had to get used to the idea of what was actually right for my face, not just something I liked on other people. That is real important when you are going short. Try another consultation. If you get the same advise I would say that maybe they are right.
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I'm sorry you were disappointed with your consultation, but it actually sounds like she gave you some good advice. The thing is, if you start out with a bob, you can always go shorter. With your hair type and features, I think a chin length, layered bob would work really well. The fullness around your face would make it appear less long.
Definitely get another consultation, but I think it's a good idea to go short in stages. And you might just find that a bob is a great look for you.
Yes, try another consultation. And if the stylist told you that you
would look in a short bob cut, as opposed to long hair or an
ultra-short pixie, then maybe you could try that!
Best wishes lovely lady!
I would try another consultation (different salon)if you are undecided. My wife use to wear a longish pixie that one stylist gave her (I loved it). Unfortunately, the stylist quite to become a full time mom. When she went to another stylist, she said that she should never wear anything shorter than a chin length bob (her current look - boring). While I know stylist learn what styles work best with certain features, I still think they "side" with their personal preferences (just human nature). Good luck, keep us posted.
I'm so sorry that your consultation was, shall we say, less than desirable.
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I'm torn between going for it and not caring if it's less-than-flattering, and being extremely, extremely cautious.
I think this is where many people may get into trouble. You really have to decide what is ultimately more important for you, to have a haircut that is truly the most flattering for you or to simply cut it real short so that you don't have to deal with it. And the answer is....something only YOU can decide and no one else.
I went to a salon for a consultation yesterday. The whole thing lasted UNDER five minutes. The stylist lady was pleasant enough, but I felt like she was rushing me.
I told her I wanted to go short but that I wasn't sure what would work best with my hair type and features. She suggested I go no shorter than about an inch below my ears, and she also suggested layers. She held up the back of my hair and said "See this? I would cut all this off." (It looked scraggly, which is odd, because I get it trimmed regularly). She also remarked that I have a long face, and that really long hair will make it look longer, but too-short hair would be bad, so she re-iterated something bob-length would be best.
Then I went to Borders and bought a short hairstyle magazine for ideas. There are maybe 3 or so cuts I've seen so far that I love, but I they're too short. Possible short-hair hazard - hair could mushroom up. Ugh. I so wish I had a pixie face so I could just hack it all off.
I'm torn between going for it and not caring if it's less-than-flattering, and being extremely, extremely cautious. Contemplating seeing another stylist, but I won't be surprised if I'm rushed again.
Today was uber-humid. I wanted to shave my head out of sheer frustration. SOMETHING MUST BE DONE!!
Maybe when you are getting the consultatation you could ask the stylist about ways to style your hair to work with its natural texture rather than against it. I would think that encouraging the curl would be very beautiful but you would need the right cut and products to make it work. I think the idea of having more than one consultation is a brilliant one. You might just get a few good ideas that way.
I think I would hesitate to go ultra short if I were you. If you have been unhappy in the past with something that doesn't sound like it was really short you would probably be miserable with an ultra short cut. And ultra short does not necessarily mean less work. Long straight hair is much easier to deal with than short hair that needs some styling to look good (I found this out when I tried a very, very short spiked look a year ago). At least with the long hair you can put it in a ponytail or bun and keep on going. Short hair requires products that you cannot be without (at least for me).
Good luck.
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Oh, I hate when stylists act like that -_- ! That's one of the reasons I stopped going to them, myself.
Anyway, I don't see anything wrong with the way you look at all, from the front or side. But if you're self-conscious about a feature, you're right to do what you can to play it down-- you've got to please yourself before anyone else, especially a bunch of message board strangers.
Some people's hair goes wavier/curlier when short, and some people's hair goes straighter. Unless/until you know which one yours does, you might want to be careful.
Yes, I find that, unfortunately, people are very dense. And insensitive. (Can't tell you how many times I've been to get a trim and the stylist has remarked "Wow, you have really thin hair." Um, thanks so much for pointing that out. I had no idea! Grrr.)
Anyway, you're right that I should pay special attention to how the texture of my hair could respond to a shorter style. I have an appointment for a consultation tomorrow and I'll see how it goes. If I don't decide on a totally different hair style, then perhaps I can at least get my bangs/fringe fixed a bit (had them cut about a month ago, went for a trim a few weeks ago and the guy did a terrible, terrible job - too short and slightly crooked). Sigh.
Thanks again, everyone - have a good evening! Off to bed now.
It seems that there are two big issues here. The hairstyle itself to suit your face and body and equally, if not more important, is how your hair will react when it's cut shorter. Whatever you choose, you want to make sure you aren't cutting it into a style that will fight its natural texture, unless you want to spend a great deal of time each morning on it, and if I'm not mistaken, that is one of the big reasons for the change!
So, as well as how the style itself will look on you, I'd really make sure to discuss with the stylist how your hair will react when it's shorter. There's a good chance it will be much wavier than it is when it's longer.
The best thing you can do is bring to the consultation lots of questions and pictures of styles that you personally like and get an opinion on how they would work for you.
I'm very sorry to hear about the negative comments you've received on your hair. Are people so dense that they think you don't know how it looks and especially that you really want to hear their comments?!
If you're patient and do as much homework as you can and ask lots of questions to stylists, you will probably find something that is absolutely perfect for you!
Thanks, everyone. I don't dislike my features - I just think they're a bit difficult to work with as far as hairstyles go. I figure if I go with a really short cut, it will either be very unflattering or...very striking.
I don't think your features are bad at all. I think short hair would look good on you if you want to do it, you should go for it. Consult your stylist to see which one would look best on you though or pick out a few picks and go around to a few stylists to see which ones they think would look the best.
Thanks so very much, anne! Very good advice, indeed. I'll need to make a list of what my concerns are or else I'll forget once I'm there!
Some of your comments regarding my hair being wavy made me think. You asked, "Why fight it?" I've asked myself this question before, and I've gone through phases from time to time where I've tried to not fight it, to just do very minimal things to it to make it look more put-together. But it just never looks good to me. I've been through oodles of styling products to try to tame and accentuate the waves, and it always looks awful. And I can't even count the number of times I've gone into work "au naturel" and had people look at me funny and say "What did you do to you hair?!" (And they've not said that in a positive-sounding "gee your hair looks great!" sort of way....Just the confidence booster I need, right?)
I have no clue just how short I'd want to go. If I could get away with it, I'd go pixie. But that's probably not a realistic option for me. I'd love to have long flowing hair (that is, if my hair were co-operative!), but I'd also like to have a cute little wash-n-go short cut, too.
I think what I'll do is set up a consultation this week and see how it goes. Then, depending on how that goes, maybe I'll go another place for a second.
You're not being fickle; you're being smart by not rushing into something that may not turn out the way you like!
Just a few more comments. When you have a consultation, get to the real root of what you want. Is it actually short hair? Or, is it something that takes very little time? Since you mentioned convenience earlier, and if you don't mention that to a stylist, he or she may actually have some styles that would be most convenient for you that you would love, but the stylist won't mention them if they think that the style must be short. Make the stylist work for you and don't give suggestions at first, just what are your most pressing needs and desires, and let them figure out different options to present to you.
Also, I wouldn't go to just one stylist for a consultation. Stylists are human and have their own biases, so I'd weigh at least two, and perhaps three opinions.
No matter what you decide, I hope it all goes well! Please let us know what finally happens.
Go to www.clairol.com website, and go to the "Try it on studio". It's where you can upload your picture, and see what you would look like with a different hairstyle and color.
Thanks for that link! I tried a few other similar applications but I couldn't get them to work correctly. The Clairol one is much more user-friendly.
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