My Least Trusted Profession...

Everywhere I go, I hear stories similar to those.  Even strangers in stores will comment on my hair and then mention that they or someone they know got their hair chopped against their will.  It's sad....

     Yes, Susan, the most charitable explanation for ALL of the stylists wanting to sink scissors into such phenomenal hair is utter lack of appreciation for the enormous time and effort that it took to achieve it. But I do know that most women would have killed to trade hair with her. Blessings, Bob

I hear salon horror stories all the time.  They almost all go something like, "I went to a salon for just a little trim, but the stylist talked me into cutting off all my hair, and now I really regret it."

I have wondered from some of the stories that I've heard if there is more bullying by hairdressers in the uk (and maybe also Australia?)?  I have heard that you can't shop in beauty supply shops (at least in the uk) without a license, so that limits the public's ability to do-it-yourself because the publicly available products don't give you a lot of info that you could use to make a good decision. I could see how this may make a percentage of beauticians who happen to be of the more controlling nature get a god complex.  Do you think this is true?

30isthenewblack wrote: I thought bad communication by hairdressers was a universal problem. I can only speak from my experience in Australia but I do find that a lot of hairdressers are arrogant and have a God complex. I don't mind suggestions but forcing an opinion down your throat is a different thing altogether. I do find this attitude strange considering that hairdressing is an industry where repeat business and word of mouth recommendations are very important.

When the sheeple have no self-confidence they get sheared.  Baaaaah.

This situation will end only when people stop allowing themselves to be abused.

It seems everyone wants control and power today. I rode my bike to work and a red Subaru forester, driven by a short haired blonde, woman nearly ran me into the ditch, while she looked at her cell phone. After I recovered, I discussed the situation with another bicyclist. She agreed, it is a power thing. Angry, frustrated people resent my bicycle and my long hair!. They pay $4.00 and more for gas and they are angry at my bicycle and my braid.. I peddle, I sweat and they feel resentment, because they are unhappy with their life, their job, and themselves. I peddle in the rain, in the cold, to save some dollars and they hate me. Yet they call themselves "green" , burn tons of fuelin their big houses and SUVs, they cut their hair off short to please their barber and the hate me! I like my waist length braid, men like it, and why do the global warming crowd think it is their duty to tell me to cut it off??? Their husbands compliment my hair and they are angry at me!!! Get a life.. Look in the mirror... Unhappy??? Too fat??? Get a plan..Walk .. Run.. jog. Put down the cookies and junk food. Want your husband to pay attention to you??? Speak intelligently!! He will ask for your opinion and listen to you... Women have power over men ... Until they get lazy and stupid and throw it all away. When a man is staring gah gah at you and waits on every word you say.. And is willing to to do whatever you ask or say.. And you stomp on his dreams and desires.. Who should you be angry at? Him for being infatuated with you?? Or you for blowing him off.. And then he pursues another woman that listens to him and decides to be a woman for him?? That arrogant attitude and short man-doo has serious costs.  When he decides too much is too much, don't blame the other woman who says she appreciates a hard working man who brings home a decent living wage, working 60 hours a week to put a roof over your your head. loves your children, coaches their soccer, and baseball team,  gets up in the middle of the night when they are sick and knows all the teachers by name and face. For that man.. You step forward and be a woman for him. You both win. If you won't.. There are plenty of smart woman who will eagerly take what you were stupid enough to let slip by you. are you woman enough to keep a man??  I am keeping my hair long, and demanding he respect me while I respect him, am not worried. If you are.. Then you need to stop being a child...Men do not want another child to take care of. They want a woman. Last night at 6:30 when my husband came home, looking grubby with clothes dirty and sticking, I sent him to the shower first,  gave him  a hot dinner, sent the kids to bed and enjoyed being a woman. Give me a real hot, sweaty, muscular man who likes a woman over any whiny, sensitive wimp any day. I am worth it!! Even tired and worn out, his muscular arms, chest and waist felt great!!!
Signed.. A simple woman who likes being a woman and loved!!! I pity you woman who listen to the TV gurus. Get a man! It is a wonderful feeling!!!

Oh this is what I am terrified of!! I'm about to go off to college and have been growing my hair out for the past 2 years. I love having my long hair back its about 2 inches past my bra strap and doing really well. I've been going to the same hairdreser for my entire life and trust no one else to even touch my hair. She knows I'm growing my hair out and only "dusts" the ends that have splits and thins it about 2-3 times a year. If I don't get it thinned a bit I can't get a wide toothed comb through it!! I don't want to risk going to some one else and have something like those tragedies happen.

Just do Feye's method, it works like a charm. You can get a trusted friend to help you if you are nervous about doing it alone.  Your hair is long enough, and that way you don't have to stress about what might or might not happen at a salon.
http://community.livejournal.com/feyeselftrim/

Thanks for the compliment!  Yep, every time I trim my hair I use this method, usually the U shape or straight across.  I have done it at least 20 times now.  I don't usually cut off a lot, most of my trims are 1/4 inch, but on occasion I will do 1/2 inch or 1 inch.  I have a friend who used it to cut off 6 inches (she's not the long hair fan I am!), it also worked well for her. 

 I'd suggest having a trusted friend there with you to check your ends and trim anything you find too uneven, but as long as you get your main cut straight across and are careful about not moving your hair in the scrunchy when you bring it around to the front to cut it, it should work well.  (Use a really tight scrunchy).  As a general rule, cut off much less than you want cut so you have some breathing room for any mistakes. 

I know the first time is scary, but it really is an ingeniously easy method, I forever thank Feye for it!

Edited by Susan W - July 16 2008 at 7:54am

I have bought some good shears and last night I "seeked and destoyed" my split ends. I'm not sure that I got them all but I'm waiting for my best friend to come visit so she can help me do an actual trim.