Not LF topic,,but didn't no where else to go,,

alabamakim wrote: Morning Ladies,, I need to vent. I'm at work this morning(I work for the state),,  two of my patients are pregnant teen sisters, 13yrs and 15yrs. Now I've been seeing this more frequent lately, teens 16yrs and under, but these are not one but TWO of this women(the mother) babies. So I'm really looking at the mother like what happen, was their any possible way we could have prevented this. I mean, I know kids and  sneaky, think they know everything, but and this is coming from not a state worker, but a once teen mom, now mother of a teen girl, if you have  suspect please seek some type of birth control.  Do yall know that lady looked at me like, I had lost my damn mind. She said, very smart and igg-nant like "Well, I tol dem, no mo partyin and clubbin for dem. I aint stayin home to watch they babies. I had mine when I was young and I tol dem it's gonna be hard. But, I new they was up to sumthin, and when the 13yrs  old said her bleeding didn't come down in two months, I knew then.

. There is no point in even talking to her. LMAO at her saying I told them no more clubbing..... ummmm since when do you allow your 13 years old daughter to go clubbing? She is why they are in this situation. 

On the real though...we all need to start praying for those unborn children right now because they are about to be born into some straight mess !!

WHAT !!! wht i dont get is they hand out free condoms & birthcontrol is free  ... i have a little sister and the minute she turned 14 i told her if you need birth control let me know ... if you need condoms they are in the luichini shoebox at the bottom of the closet ... if not ask me for money to go buy these things cause too many diseases going round ...

ChynaLi, ITA! this is definitely a repeated cycle.

Shonita24 wrote: So sad, but unfortunately if things don't change....this is our future!  GOD HELP US

Really that is true.

One can only imagine the things you see working for the state. i recently got a job with the state myself, as an "income maintence case worker" READ "welfare case worker". I took the job becuase i want to help people, especially young women. I have a couple weeks until my training class, but hearing a story like this makes me feel just a bit discouraged. I'm thinking im propbrably gonna have to deal with stuff like that all the time, and how do you tell someone that they are not "livin' right" as my Nana would say. And you cant blame those poor gurls cause any mom that lets a little kid, go clubbin' should lose some of her parental rites. i mean for goodness sakes, abuse of children comes in ALL forms, not just beating on them, but not giving them the tools to live productive lives is wrong too. Thats THREE generations, that have gotten off to a terrible start.

MissHairGirl wrote: ShowStoppers wrote: ChynaLi, ITA! this is definitely a repeated cycle.   I have to chime in on that comment.  It is a repeated cycle, they are only doing what they see and have heard.  They are truly products of thier enviornments.......They don't know that there is another way to live!

That is true but there is always one child that will have enough will and drive not to fall in that cycle, like my husband. He grew up in a similar environment where there was nothing good around and just decided that he didn't want to live like that when he grew up. He is the only one in his family with a bachelors degree and will have his Masters in Nuclear Engineering in Aug. He is very driven, but it is sad because the other members of the family are just content on living like that. We both are college educated with and will have degrees beyond a bachelors. It just breaks my heart. We try to be the positive role models for his nieces and nephew, but there is only so much that we can do. Those kids see their mother every day and not us and hopefully they will not fall into the cycle also. 

LovelyLisa wrote: Wow! Ladies Ima tell you my true story. I have always tried to live in the suburbs.  Thinking it would keep my kids safe and out of trouble.  My now 18 year almost got caught up too!  I had no clue that the gangs were in our area.  You would never think by the expensive homes and area.  Well my Son got pulled into the CRIPS in his Sr. year and as a Mom I freaked out!  The difference is I quickly scooped him up and away! My Son now goes to college and is on the Dean list as a great student.  He got Str8 A's in school, but it was the crowd he got involved with.   So all Im saying is don't ever think it can't happen to you, because it can!  I am a very strict Mom and never thought one of my boys would go there.   So as a Mother even though they are doing very well in school and etc.  you still got to keep a close eye on them.  This world is just so dangerous!   I want to thank you for this topic because this was the hardest time of my life, but we made it!  But it took me as a Mother to nip it in the bud as quickly and agressively as I could!   My Son thanked me for being hard on him!  He said that he would either be in jail or dead if I would not have been on my JOB!   As far as the 2 young ladies, I blame the Mother!  It shows that she just does not care!  What the hell are these young girls doing at the club! WHAT!!!! Let alone partying!   I constantly preach to my Son and his GF that they must wear protection and she needs to be on pill if they are going to have sex!  I told them that if she gets pregnant, I will be very upset and I am not raining another child, nor will I allow them to come shack up in my house!   I know this sounds cruel, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do!   And I do not have a problem talking to the kids openly about sex!