Goody supports Locks of Love

Dave,
I am a definately a much differnet person than the 'year of the tiger' person. I used to come in here much more often but college/work constraints put a hold on my time online! Plus the icon I chose, was the cutest one in my opinion But I have changed that now to help clarify any confusion!

As for my opinion for giving up my hair to someone, I had to cut my mom's hair off when she was going through chemo/radiation. It was a very hard time for both of us, and if I could of given her my hair then, I would of. I really don't know too much about LOL but that is how I came to my opinion on that. Thats all.

I guess I will stay in lurk mode, or try to post more often to avoid confusion
Laine

Elissa, thank you for sharing this story with us. Some years ago I lost a dear relative of 52, also from cancer. It was very hard. I am fortunate that my parents are still alive and well.

Ah yes, and Jennifer, that was sorta the idea of letting the company know that their decision to support the group is probably bad for their business.

Kintaro,

After my mom died of lung cancer (she was 51), I took some of her winter hats and there was hair inside one of them from the chemo. She had beautiful hair, and she was a beautiful person. I did indeed keep some of the hair, it's in an envelope in my memory box. Your comments made me think of this.

My mom probably inspired my love of hair, she loved hair too and loved caring for hers. I guess that's one of the reasons I kept some. Don't know if I'd keep some of my own, though. I sure hope never to find out.

Elissa

Rotten family pressure.
Coercion.
Maury Povich. (surely others but MAINLY him)


They use the talk shows way too often because it works, it's all it is, a publicity stunt.

If I had to go through chemo, I would go willingly bald, but it's still my hair, and i'd either keep the tail as a memento or will burn it on the spot. It is NOT something for others to abuse or profit from.

And dying it minimizes the chances of it being used. ESPECIALLY if it's grey.

tina m wrote: Whoever "YearoftheTiger" is, obviously the long hair board is for people who enjoy long hair, just as the short hair board is for people who enjoy short hair. I certainly don't like it when people go on the short hair board and try to convince everyone to grow long hair, that long hair is always better,(as some have done, which the short haired lovers don't like). It is a question of common courtesy and understanding what each particular board is about.

Tina,

If and when you see this happen, would you please b-mail me with the URL of the thread where it occurs? I am not in favor of the type of activity you describe; I believe in being respectful of boundaries. Thanks!

aww uzma i'm sorry to hear you went through that one of my cousin's is going through chemo. her her sister[my other cousin obviously] has really long hair. she didn't want her to cut her hair just because she was going to lose hers.

Whoever "YearoftheTiger" is, obviously the long hair board is for people who enjoy long hair, just as the short hair board is for people who enjoy short hair. I certainly don't like it when people go on the short hair board and try to convince everyone to grow long hair, that long hair is always better,(as some have done, which the short haired lovers don't like). It is a question of common courtesy and understanding what each particular board is about.

It seems silly and useless to me to go on the long hair board and tell people they should cut their hair or keep pushing an issue when people clearly want to drop the subject of cutting their hair.

If people want to donate their hair to Locks of Love, they have that right to do that in a free society,... but obviously the long haired people on this board DON'T want to contribute to Locks of Love, and really don't care for that organization.
So once you understand how they feel about it, why continue to push the subject?

Isn't it obvious that this is the case? Why cause unecessary dissension?

YearoftheTiger wrote: I think you missed the point--if people want to sell or donate their hair then let them. I don't know why everyone here takes that so personally. And yes, I really think it seems that most posters here have their whole life wrapped up in their hair. Besides, what does the length of my hair matter to any one of you? If I am bald, am I not allowed to post here? Can I only post here if I have hair to my waist? I'm curious-what would any one of you do if you were to lose your hair to chemotherapy? I think most of you would be very traumatized. So, if someone wants to willingly donate their hair to be used for that purpose, then let them. I think it is great that some people are thinking of others than their own vanity.

Tina, your participation here has always been respectful of the topic. Don't worry, you're doing fine.


Princessmonica is correct. "YearoftheTiger" is missing the point, and certainly well aware of that fact.... and surely also knows that having long hair is not a requirement to post here. Tina M. has very short hair... hello?


YearoftheTiger... if I lost my hair to chemotherapy I'd be a whole lot more concerned -- traumatized -- about the possibility of losing my life prematurely!

"If someone wants to willingly donate their hair to be used for that purpose..."

How is someone's hair going to cure me? As I said, I'd be mostly concerned about fighting to save my life!

"I think it is great that some people are thinking of others than their own vanity."

Great! Then you surely must have lots of respect for me, because I've given much to charities. But surely you don't have an ounce of vanity in you, because you're entirely selfless.

Since you seem to be full of hypothetical questions, turnabout is fair play... of course by now I wouldn't expect any sincerity from your responses...

"Say, yearofthetiger, that's a real nice house you own. You've been making payments now for what, 10 years already? You must have a lot of equity in it... you know, there are homeless people who are down on their luck who would surely love to have your house... you wouldn't mind giving up your house so that they can live in it, would you?"

"Hey, yearofthetiger, you've worn your hair very short for all the years I've known you. You obviously like having short hair very much. You know, there are cancer-kids who would appreciate having your hair. You wouldn't mind taking the next 4 years growing your hair to your waist, and living all that time with a hair style and length you don't like, for those poor kids, right? After all, why should you be happy with your hair? Besides, that ponytail will probably fetch 50 bucks on the hair market, and that'll be a nice donation sitting unused in the charity's bank account."

Surely you're most willing to do all this, right? Of course, I don't even need to ask.

YearoftheTiger

The length of your hair – or complete lack of it – is not a dependency of your posting on this board.
The support of long hair and those who desire long hair as a goal, is.

Personally, I have undergone chemo twice in my life, experiencing Telogen Effluvium – diffuse hair loss each time. I was not hugely traumatized by these experiences, although undoubtedly disconcerted.
However, I have been damaged by social and individual pressures to cut my hair which at times were brutal in their intensity. Hence my sympathy for those I have seen “donating” their hair to charity while their body language and facial expressions seem to be giving the clear message that it is not a willing donation.
Everyone has the right of self-determination. When society and individuals act as a force to subjugate that right, the person who is the target of their desires becomes a victim. That some women submit their long locks to the scissors is not indication that they are invoking free personal choice. The faces say “No” the scissors say “Yes”.

The point I made about using synthetic hair to make wigs – a much more efficient process than using human hair – has not been satisfactorily answered. Why is long hair the object of such destruction?
IMHO, someone is getting a kick out of seeing women divested of their glory.

As for posters here having their whole lives wrapped up in hair….well, lets see…
If you were to read some of the other boards I frequent, you would think I had my whole life wrapped up in Metaphysics, Primitivism, Gaian hypotheses, Greek mythology, Comix, Nu-Metal music, Expressionist art, Alternative Medicine, etc, etc.
What you see on a specific board is not indicative of the whole personality. That goes for everyone here. Read the regular posters on this board on other boards in this forum for verification.

You mentioned vanity. It is a question of perspective.
Here’s mine.
Nature gave me 2 lungs, 2 kidneys, 1 heart, long hair, 1 brain and 2 eyes.
Each of the above have their purpose.
I would not willingly lose a kidney or a lung. I will not willingly lose my hair.
It is not a matter of vanity.
It is a matter of completeness in the physical form.


Laine1998

Yes, hair grows. But time passes.
You cannot regain lost time at all, nor lost length easily, if ever.

YearoftheTiger wrote: I think you missed the point--if people want to sell or donate their hair then let them. I don't know why everyone here takes that so personally. And yes, I really think it seems that most posters here have their whole life wrapped up in their hair. Besides, what does the length of my hair matter to any one of you? If I am bald, am I not allowed to post here? Can I only post here if I have hair to my waist? I'm curious-what would any one of you do if you were to lose your hair to chemotherapy? I think most of you would be very traumatized. So, if someone wants to willingly donate their hair to be used for that purpose, then let them. I think it is great that some people are thinking of others than their own vanity.

no you are the one missing the point! the point is again i repeat a long hair support board! if you do not support long hair in my opinion you have no business being here! trying to bring in an illiness to prove a point is low.