DYING TO CUT MY GIRLFRIENDS BANGS OFF!!!

hi im dylan im 22 from maryland i have a huge problem my girlfriend of 4 years has very pretty long straight brown hair one length but i keep begging her to cut bangs and she swears she will in the summer i told her i want them cut razor sharp across and kinda short but not too short just maybe a little above the eyebrows
she has an eye ring and i think thatd be super sexy
anyway she does not know that i have a hair fetish and probably has no clue how this turns me on also i want to cut them and videotape it should i just tell her how i feel or what? when we have sex i picture her with the bangs
is this wrong? i think she is beautiful and i love her to death but the bangs make me in the mood more does anyone get what im saying??? i need advice and also maybe some fringe pics to give her an idea of what i want thanks--dyl

I absolutely agree with the first reply.
But I think you should also fill her in on your fetish. I think if she saw things from your sensual perspective rather than a "he doesn`t like the way I look and wants me to look like someone else" perspective, she might be more likely to agree. But don`t pressure her into things. Just tell her your feelings. Who knows.. maybe she`ll try it out as a birthday gift to you.

Ah, Diane, you don`t understand - fulfilling a fetish, even if it lasts a few minutes or a few hours (or even stretched out for a few days) can last a person for a very long time.

I`ve seen your postings on a number of boards. I realize you are very anti-fetish, and anti-cutting. Have you tried to understand how mutually consenting "play" (and it _is_ "play") can satisfy both partners and bring them even closer?

You used to post on TLHS, long ago. You`ve posted on Hair Boutique for years. I`ve followed this board for a long time, too.
Yes, a fetish out of control can be bad. _Anything_ out of control can be bad. I do understand.
But you haven`t tried to understand the other perspective.

But you haven`t tried to understand the other perspective.

Dear Biff:

It actual truft is I do have lots of empathy for a person that has a fetish. LIke I said I studied the mental disease in my medical class.

* I`ve heard far more reports of women having stylists cutting off their own hair in order to punish their men.

What does that have to do with a fetish?

Does the irrational fear of having one`s hair cut qualify as a mental disease?

That is a real phobia and I also came across a stylist that quit being a stylist because of the fear of cutting other people hair. She couldn`t handle the touch of hair. A lot of us would like to know how she even pass her stylist test.

I don`t have to devote anything. We can always leave it as you said that I am anti fetish. NExt time you can always ask your doctor and you might come back and say sorry to me when you realize that I was correct. Heh I didn`t make up the rules what is a disease okay. WAs just trying to help you.

A fetish is something that takes conplete control over someone and that person cannot function without that object. It ruins other people lives.

It wasn`t _Diane_ that commented on "mutually consenting," it was me.

Diane seems to think that a fetish is something that cannot be controlled, or in any way channeled into something positive, fun or consentual. I disagree.
She seems to also thing that a fetish implies mental "disease," but that a phobia does not. I disagree.
She seems to think that if one person has a fetish, the other person is immediately at risk (and would never be mutually consenting to anything that had the word `fetish` attached to it.) I disagree.
She says she has "empathy" towards the fetishist. I disagree.

If Dylan`s girlfriend isn`t into it, he shouldn`t push it. If he explained things as Van had suggested, she might change her mind. She might not.

Mutual consent has always been the fundamental concern of every act of intimacy that I`ve ever had, regardless of whether it`s a kiss, a backrub, sex or clipping a lock of hair.
And I would never counsel anyone to act outside of mutual consent.

I totally agree with you Phil. If Dylan`s girlfriend really wanted to have bangs she would have decided that a long time ago and she wouldn`t need to be asked.

Biff:

The simple fact that Dylan has to keep begging means she doesn`t want it! Plain and simple. How many languages does one has to say it heh? I don`t have a fix opinion but just the medical fact of mental disorders but remember this you came after me eventhough you claim you are such an expert on what i think. lol No problem. Lets drop it but we can always start a discussion under the politics about forcing haircuts on other people etc. How many people who have hairfetishes have openly admitted on the internet that they don`t care about the other person? Tons. Look around.

You say a haircut is not the end of the world. There is a perfect example. I don`t beleive that people should be force into something they don`t want to do and that often happens and that is where you catch my firm opinion. NOone should be forced. His girlfriend been firmed about it. Many people have been victims of a hairfetish.

Fetishism IS a medical (psychological) disease.

But I wouldn`t agree right away that it will end up "leading to ruin". Homosexuality is another "disease" so proclaimed by the medical and psychological community alike, which has been re-evaluated lately. You will see people still proclaiming homosexuality as a disease, and in some ways, it could be characterized as genetic "defect" (an inate aspect of a person that makes them "abnormal"). Now before anyone complains, please note the quotation marks. Blue eyes are "abnormal" too, in certain regions, so I`m not trying to insult here.

The important defining characteristic of both of these "diseases" is the issue of consensus (something which has been brought up by *all* posters on this topic). If a man and another man want to have sexual relations, then who is to deny them that? (religious/moral issues aside) Actually.. even bringing up the religious issues.. Catholic priests have been known to have homosexual relations with one another, in order to satiate their "mortal sin" in the desire for a woman.

Now, if someone has a hair fetish, and is thus afflicted by this "disease" he is still not destined to ruin. By talking about his desires, watching videos, reading stories, or even enacting events with consenting adults, he is maintaining a healthy balance with his sexuality. Just as you wouldn`t tell a homosexual person to "forget about your obsession and behave `normally` " by sleeping with women, you should not say the same thing to a fetishist. Presuming they are not infringing on the rights of others, merely admiring a woman`s hair and fantasizing about cutting it, they are maintaining a healthy relationship with hair. A fetishist who was to deny this instinct would have a tense, uncomfortable relationship with sex in general, which in the end *could* "lead to ruin".

Thus the important thing to do is to know your boundaries, and respect the rights and opinions of others. Discuss your desire with your mate, and let her know you would enjoy giving her a haircut, but if she lets you give her a haircut, make sure it`s something she really wants to do, not just something she`s doing to please you, or stop you from bugging her.

And in the end.. there`s always videos. :)