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Sandra, Without a doubt, some of the most beautiful women I have ever seen are bald women, and you would not believe how many men are attracted to bald women, especially if you doll yourself up with long earrings, the right makeup, sexy dresses, etc..You can really see a woman`s feminine features when she is bald! My beautiful wife Monique wears her hair ultra-short, and on occasion shaves her head smooth and bald, and she looks sensational, very sexy, and a bald head on a woman is so sensual to the touch! A bald woman has really the best of both worlds, she can wear a wig and have hair, or go with the smooth sensual bald style! My wife likes being bald so much, she has even considered electrolysis to permanently remove all of her hair and go bald! I think you are a lucky woman darling, and if you want to go bald, some people will stare at you, but I assure you many of those stares will be looks of admiration and attraction! Kisses and a hug from me and my wife! Love, Johan

LOVELY SANDRA ! I too have alopecia totalis, with me it has been lifelong! I sometimes do go out bald with my husband to art galleries, concerts, clubs, etc., and I really dress up with my best earrings and jewelry, a little black dress, or a long elegent dress, high heels, carefully applied makeup; you get the idea, and I usually get very favorable looks and comments, which my husband and I enjoy! And yes, everything Johan said is true, I have discovered that bald women do have the best of both worlds, wearing hair, or going bald and beautiful!- You may want to wear a wig at work, no need to attract extra attention there though.------------- I LOVE BEING A BALD WOMAN SANDRA I WOULDN`T HAVE IT ANY OTHER WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!! REMEMBER, YOU ARE PART OF A UNIQUE GROUP OF BEAUTIFUL WOMEN!!! YOU ARE SMOOTH AND LOVELY, MUCH LOVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Dear Sandy, I appreciate you writing into my post on general hair talk. There are a couple of things that I wanted to mention to you regarding the increasing acceptance of bald women that I saw on American television.
There was a documentary on American women in their twenties going out on dates with men. The show was done in New York City in Manhatten. There were three young women who were talking together about the guys they dated, then it showed them on dates with their guys, then later the women got together and talked about dating some more. Two of the women were white women, one was a black woman. One of the white women had long blonde hair, the black woman had short curly permed hair, and the other white woman was completely smooth and bald! What was interesting was that the bald woman`s baldness was never even mentioned, it was just another fashion style! It was like, here are three young American women on dates with their men, one with long hair, one with short hair, and one bald, and all of these women were modern fashionable women;beautiful, attractive, everyday women who worked and dated men. A very cool show, I wished I had taped it!
Also there was a show on local television here in the Minneapolis/St. Paul area that was interviewing college professors on cultural issues. One of the professors was a middle aged black woman who taught African-American studies at a local university, and she had a shaved head, she was completely smooth and bald, and no one on the show mentioned her baldness.
These women going bald in public on television indicates to me the growing acceptance in the western world of bald women!
Much love,
Johan

Dear Sandy,
Hello Sandy, my name is Belinda I live in the U.S.A. and I have read your writing on this website.I haven`t been to Britian, but I know people from there, have read alot about the U.K. and of course seen many television shows about Britian. I am surprised that you refer to it as backward culturally in regards to bald women. I have seen bald women on the catwalks of fashion shows from London, and I know that several famous bald women who are singers and fashion models live in London,(Wendy O, Alec Wek, Sinead O`Conner, and several others, I can`t remeber their names). In the larger cities there , like London or Liverpool, there must be many women with very short hair and some who are bald. Do you live near any of the major cities in Britian?
Best of luck to you, you seem like a lovely woman!

Dear Belinda and Bald Jennifer, thank you so much for your replies. You`re quite right, if I were in London or some other large and cosmopolitan city I don`t think there would be a problem, it`s just out here in the `sticks` people are a lot more inward-looking in their attitude, than when they see a bald woman positively neanderthal!
How I wish, like the USA we had TV shows where bald women are free to turn up on dating shows and NOT just be there for the freek value. I`ll bet all that electrolysis was painful, too, but it just goes to show how much more accepting they are on the other side of "the pond". It does indeed take "all sorts", just there aren`t as many of them over here, not yet anyway. I like the fact that you are really happy not to have hair, it`s an attitude I will aspire to.
Love to both,
Sandy

Dear Sandy,

You mentioned Sandy how you aspire to have Jennifer`s attitude, that she actually prefers to be bald and wouldn`t have hair if she could.

For most of my life Sandy I wanted hair, I was so shy that even though people told me I was pretty, had a cute figure and so forth, I ALWAYS wore a wig and rarely went out, or on dates! In some ways this was good because I read alot, developed my spiritual side and I believe developed more depth to my personality, but I was just so shy!

What you have to realize Sandy is that real people that are worth knowing will accept you bald, and learn about you as a person, as you will also get to know them. A person who judges you just because you are bald is a very shallow person not even worth knowing. I refuse to waste my time with people like that. To me they are just idiots!

Also as Johan and others have pointed out, many men actually love the bald look on women, find it sexy and attractive, even prefer it. My husband I believe would love me even if I had hair but I think part of the reason he loves me is that I don`t have hair.

I`m glad you are aspiring to appreciate your baldness, but what happened to me, and this happened to me even before I my husband Albert, was that one day I just decided I was sexy and beautiful, as much as other women if not more, and that baldness IS MY STYLE, AND I HAVE STYLE! And even more important than that, I have more depth to my personality because of ny bald experience, I am a fully developed woman, spiritually, emotionally, intellectually! It just happens Sandy! You quit aspiring to appreciate your baldness, you just become who you are, and being bald is part of your style, part of your humaness, your womanliness, your femininity, you are classy, sexy, smooth!!!

This is the best I can explain it Sandy, once you accept that you are not "suffering" with alopecia totalis", but it could be considered a normal, natural state of being for some women, and a good way to be, a smooth feminine way to be, you won`t have to aspire to anything other than doing what you want in life, whatever that is!

All of my love to you Sandy, I can tell by your writings you are a very beautiful person and woman!!!

Lovely Sandy,
I just got done watching a soccer(football) game from your country England! It was played earlier today, we saw the game here on satellite dish on tape delay. My favorite English team Liverpool beat Tottenham 2-1! It was a great match!
Sandy, I read what Linda wrote, and I agree with everything she said, especially the part about a person developing themselves as a person, spiritually, pursuing their intellectual interests and so forth. And also Sandy, my wife and I know plenty of single women who have fulfilling lives who do many things that interest them, you don`t really need a full time guy, if you get one that`s great, but you have your own life. I spendt many years single before my first marriage, then after my first wife, a drug abuser, abandoned me and our two little daughters,( who were very young at the time ),I was single again, before I met my present beautiful wife Monique. I spendt most of my life without a good woman, but I had plenty of interests, and I worked hard!
I relate to you alot Sandy because I am different too! I am in my 40s and when I was a teenager and young adult, back in the 1970s and 1980s, it was the style for many guys to wear their hair real long, you know the hippie look. But nowadays some guys still have long hair but not near as many. I continue to wear my hair long about half way down my back and a goatee beard, because I like that style and also because my wife(who as you know wears her hair ultra-short and who on several occasions has shaved her head bald), likes my long hair and wants me to keep it long, so I wear it that way to please her.
You would not believe some of the crap I have taken from people because of my long hair! The Minneapolis/St. Paul metroplitan area is a fairly big city, appox. 3 million metro area including suburbs, and a very libertarian and tolerant city, but even here a few people have given me a bad time! Nobody accuses me of being gay, because I am husky and atheletic in build and I look fairly tough(must be those scars from playing ice hockey), but I have been called hippie scum, loser bum, long haired creep, accused of being a drug dealer, a pimp, a criminal. And here I am, my clothes are clean, my hair is clean and well groomed, I am hard working, run my own cab business, I am educated, well read,and I like to believe I am a good husband and father. When I was younger I got into a little trouble, but as an adult man I believe I am a responsible guy who is good to people and a good guy! Yet there are people that judge me and try to put me down(I say try, because if they try to put me down, believe me, I give them hell back, I assure you, and I am not one to mess with!), just because of my long hair and beard! And there are some incredibly immature and foolish people that will judge you because you are a bald woman! Most people won`t, but there are some people who will ,people who I think have an anti-social problem if they can`t stand the fact that people have different types of hair!
What is most amazing to me though is that I know for a fact that many men like women with short hair, that is why many women over the age of 25 wear short hair, not only because it is easier to take care of but because they know it is attractive, and many guys like bald women too, and I mean many guys, I`ve discussed it with many people in my taxicab, and I meet many types of people. It is only a matter of time before ultra-short hair and bald looks for women become even more popular, it is bound to happen because it is so attractive on women.
I know both in my everyday life and on the internet, I am going to encourage these styles for women, and encourage women who want to try these styles to try them, and encourage men who like women in these styles to admit it, be honest and admit that women look so pretty and sexy with an ultra-short hairstyle and especially with the bald look!
And me,and my wife Monique, are always on the side of women like you Sandra, beautiful bald women with alopecia, like I said before on this site, in my opinion you are lucky because women with alopecia totalis are more beautiful, and probably better women, than most of the other ladies!
Love darling Sandra,
Johan

Sandy and Heidi, Hello lovely ladies,
Heidi, Minneapolis is a progressive city, and only on rare occasions do I meet idiots that give me a bad time about my hair. But you have to remember I am in the taxicab industry and we are out on the road alot and out amongst the general public more than most people are, so I meet all kinds; the good, the bad and the ugly! The point I was making to Sandy in relating to her, is that both bald women and men with long hair have subcult hairstyles, that I believe are attractive, but still a subcult to many people.
Sandy, remember I wrote earlier that I thought one of the advantages bald women had was they could go natural with their bald look, or wear wigs and have different hairstyles? As you know, I prefer my wife with very short hair or bald, but she does look good in wigs too. She has mostly short haired brunette wigs, in cute styles, but yesterday she bought a wig longer than her other wigs, a brunette wig that is several inches past her shoulders, in a nice style, sort of like Jennifer Lopez`s hair, and my wife wore it to church this morning with a very pretty dress, and she looked so good! She looks the most beautiful bald, but she does look great in wigs too, and it gives her the advantage of having different looks. Her different wigs and headscarves are very beautiful, and that , along with the different assortment of earrings and jewelry she wears, can give her different looks. She is always the same Monique, but it is just so fashionable for her to wear different pretty attractive looks!
Later beautiful ladies!

Dear Sandy,
There was something I was meaning to ask you but I forgot about it until tonight. I read in the newspapers and saw on national television last summer that they had an international alopecia convention in the city of St. Louis, here in the U.S. last July. They showed bald men, women and children, and the convention seemed to have a very festive atmosphere, although I am sure they had serious discussion groups as well.
I also know they have alopecia meetings here in Minneapolis, including group meetings for bald women. I was wondering does your city or a nearby city in England have alopecia group meetings, and if so, have you ever attended. It would be interesting to know what the alopecia women disscused, and how they view life for bald women in the U.K.
Sincerely,
Love
Johan

Hi Johan,
Thanks for the advice. Unfortunately no such group exists as far as I know here in the Midlands of England, though I must admit that never having really gone public about my condition I`ve never really looked into it. That`s one thing about the US, they seem to have Special Interest Groups for anything you want. Sleepy old Britain lets me down again! Now, the "Spirituality of no Hair", what`s that? You`ll have to excuse my ignorance but the only thing that comes to my mind is Hare Krishna. I`ve had people shout "Krishna" at me, in fact. Glad you enjoyed the footie, Liverpool are top of the League at the moment.
Dear Carol, thanks for your message. You must need some woolly hat in winter! One thing I have noticed in common is that all the girls who have sent helpful messages have all lived with and I guess covered up the condition for a while, until one day they throw the wig off and wish they`d done it years earlier. Am I right? I guess there must be hope yet!