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I would also like to thank you Sandy, and the other women who have written in, for being supportive of my wife, I know she is in some ways different, and she knows that, but then again we are all a little different, and being a little bit unique isn`t bad if you are a good person!
I also meant what I said Sandy, the fact that your bald look is so attractive to many people won`t necessarily make your life easier, but I can just tell, and this would be true even if you weren`t bald and beautiful, you are an exceptional lady. I can tell by your writing that you are very intelligent and have a mature grown up personality, I just believe you are going to have a very interesting life!

Hi Johan!
You`re right, I have been chumming around, but no luck on the guy front yet, I`m afraid. Thanks so much for enlightening me on the role played by religion in the US. It`s a subject I had sometimes given thought to, without a great deal of understanding, but you have explained in to me very lucidly, as usual. Now I understand how "The Mob" come to be such God-fearing types! It had never occurred to me how the geography of the US affected its politics and how that fitted in with the role of religion but now it makes much more sense! I have one theory why we Brits are more sceptical, it could be something to do with Northern Ireland and seeing at first hand (via TV anyway) the many awful things committed in the name of religion.
Anyway enough of this heavy stuff. I love your expression "alopecia envy", it lifts my sprits! However though there is another side which I would call alopecia obsession, which is why I`ve kept a low profile for a few days and have had to reluctantly shut down my homepage and close my Yahoo account. I was getting loads of mail, too much to handle. Most offered kind support but I suspected some were obviously from fetishists! Now reading all the testimonies from lovely fellow Baldies Carol, Heidi, Jennifer and Monique has certainly opened my eyes to the sexiness of bald and shaven heads, but some of these guys (I presume they were guys) seemed a bit weird and too personal. So this thread is now my sole contact with the cyber-world, and I`m a lot happier for it.
Nose studs! Now there`s something I hadn`t thought of. Maybe, just maybe.
Monique, I`m so pleased for you that you have found a trustworthy person who will laser your head completely smooth. I can see you will be so happy. A few weeks ago I`d have said you were crazy, but then I hadn`t been awake to the fact that silky heads could be attractive. Johan, I work as a clerk in a worthy but dull office job where the people are so conservative you would have more chance of seeing Elvis Presley than a bald woman. There are two black (Carribean) woman with closely cropped heads which suits them very well, but completely bald - forget it. Meanwhile I`ll be on the lookout for support groups, any further developments I`ll keep you posted.
Bye for now, Johan and all you groovy slap-heads!
(Not sure if that expression has crossed the Pond, it just means baldies)

Carol,
Your nosering sounds sexy! i don`t have a pierced nostril, but I do have 3 piercings in each ear, although I usually only wear one pair of earrings.
Sometimes though I wear 3 hoops in each ear, larger hoops lower, with smaller hoops in the higher piercings! Also sometimes wear long dangles with two studs in each ear!
JEWLRY IS SUCH A NECESSITY THOUGH!!!ESPECIALLY FOR US!!!! AND SEXY!!!!(sexy on men too Johan!!!!)
But all women, I know, love jewelry!!!!Diamonds are a girls best friend! 14 and 18ct. gold too!!

Everyone is writing in on Sandy`s site, we have kind of stolen it! Sandy, give us a holler, where are you sweetie!!!!!!!!!!!!

"Alopecia envy". I love that!

Ebony,
What janice was complaining about was the problem of "five o`clock shadow" or stubble, which seems to be the common complaint of those who shave their heads(something some of us bald ladies don`t have to worry about!!!). you notice that even though far more men shave their heads than women, it is bald women who are the ones considering hair removal! there may be fewer bald women than men but the women are more passionate about their bald heads!!! intriguing!

Monique____ I can understand the allure of permanent baldness, it would also be a convienance, no stubble or in grown hairs. I am not ready to do it yet though, maybe later in a few years, especially if it becomes more popular with women.
Sandy_____ long dangle earrings are great with our look, so are large thin hoops(not thick clunky hoops though). I have two piercings in each ear, and I like to wear a large hoop in each ear in the lower piercings with a small diamond or cubic ziconia in the upper piercings, therefore getting the look of gold and diamonds!
I agree with Monique about lipstick, dark reds are better than bright reds, they look classier. I also like pinks, pink lipstick especially looks good on white women like yourself.
A lso a classy silk chiffon neckscarf matched to the color of your dress or blouse is a touch of class and style! i love silk chiffon headscarves too, such a sensual material!
Johan___when you were mentioning famous bald women you mentioned Janice Robinson. I love her, her singing, her bubbly personality, and she always goes bald in public, and her head is always so smooth, on MTV she said she shaves her head twice a day! She also said she would consider permanent hair removal she likes the bald look so much! I wonder if she will actually do it.
Also Johan you are right about Rachel Rosenthal, she is such a genius and a proud permanently bald woman. You notice too how she always dates young guys 20 years younger than her!

Beautiful bald ladies,
Thanks for your responses!
My wife has pretty well convinced me she has found a woman who can safely laser her head without problems. I talked to the woman on the phone today, I want to go with my wife and talk to her in person before I give my wife any money to have her hair removed. I did check around however, and this woman is the best in the hair removal business. So it is a possibility!
I like women with all lengths of hair and before I was married I dated several long or medium lengthed haired women as well as short haired women, and I enjoyed all of those ladies. But the bald look to me is the most attractive look on a woman, and if my wife chooses permanent baldness, and it ultimately is her decision, I will be very happy with her decision!
Jennifer you mentioned Rachel Rosenthal the performance artist. I saw her show in Los Angeles years ago, she is unbelievable, it is impossible to describe exactly what she does, but she is fantastic! I always assumed she had alopecia since her head was always so smooth without a trace of stubble and she has always been bald. Interesting to know she had her hair permanently removed. She is a pure renaissance woman, one of the greatest artists of our time. She is not only a performance artist but a sculptor, a painter, a poet, an acting teacher, a writer and philosopher, and on occasion, a political and arts commentator on national television and she always is bald, I have never seen her in a wig except she sometimes wears wigs when she acts in her shows, but even in her shows she is usually bald! She is a true genius equal to Picasso, Stravinsky, Lennon and McCartney or Duke Ellington as far as artists of the past 100 or so years. She is legendary in California, a goddess of the arts world!
And the world of arts and music is so far ahead of the rest of society in regards to not only the acceptance but the leadership of bald women!
Look at all of the famous and fabulous bald women in art, dance and music in the past 25 years.- Rachel Rosenthal, Valerie Buscatto, Me`shell Ndgeocello, Myra Bazell, Sainkho Namtchylak, Gail Ann Dorsey, Joan Jett, Sinead O`Conner, Janice Robinson, even Dolores O`Riordan shaved her head for awhile! And I have just mentioned a few bald women in the arts, there are many more! And most of these women were leaders in thier fields,(even Sinead O`Conner, silly as she sometimes is, topped the charts in America and Europe a few years back). And of course most of these women were in the serious arts or fine arts, and most of them are geniuses! Bald women in the world of the arts are not just making fashion statements, they are the cultural and philosophical leaders, which goes along with my theory that bald women are more artistic, creative and innovative, maybe that is why they wear the bald look! If the rest of society was like the arts world, there would be a bald female president of the U.S., and a bald woman Prime Minister of Britian!
We are making gains though people! Watching the national election results Tuesay night, I noticed that most of the women who won seats in congress, governorships, etc. were relatively young women(30s and 40s in age), attractive, chic dressed women with short hair, some of the hairstyles quite short! The days of older dowdy women with bland homely medium length hairstyles are over in the U.S.. The new woman of achievment in politics or the professions is an attractive, fashionably dressed women with chic short hair! I also see this with the women that ride with the taxicab service I own. This is good news, now they just need to take it one step further and have a few more women with ultra-short hair and bald heads!
I would like it too if a few more of the male politicians wore long hair like I do, but we haven`t had too many of them since the 1980s!
Talk to all of you beautiful bald women later, remember, you are on the cutting edge of fashion and of human creativity! You are the leaders lovely bald ladies!

Duke,
Monique is married to Johan, they use the same computer obviously!

Monique,
A few years ago i would have thought you were crazy to have your hair removed, but i have changed my attitude about this, i accept not only myself better but someone like you makes much more sense to me now. i can feel your excitement over the internet, and i know you want this done, and i know that your husband accepts you and loves you and can appreciate it, so i say do it if that is really what you want to do! especially if it has a deeper spiritual meaning to you.
one thing though, don`t have your eyelashes removed,(which i am sure you had no intention of doing). eyelashes keep little particules out of your eyes, and since i have the most extreme form of alopecia, universalis, i have no hair from head to toe, and the only thing i regret is that i have to wear false eyelashes or protective glasses, otherwise you get little particles in your eyes and your eyes water!

good luck with your decision monique and God be with you too!

Hello Sandra, Jennifer and Carol,

It`s me Monique again.

I`VE GOT GREAT NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just got back from my consultation with the lady who is supposed to be the best electrolysis and laser expert in the midwest, she is in her late 50s and has been doing electrolysis for 35 years. Her electrolysis clininc has the some of the best trained people and best equipment in America.
She told me there is a new type of laser that has been on the market for three years called the YAG laser, that is far better than any other laser they have previously had. She has these YAG lasers at her clinic, and she said she could easily remove my head hair without scarring my head, and that my hair color or complexion is not a problem!
The process would take one year, or perhaps a year and a half, and then I would be completely and permanently bald, and she is willing to do it for me when she understood how much it meant to me. She has done some women`s heads before who had partial alopecia, where most of their hair was gone and they just wanted the rest removed so they wouldn`t have to shave what was left, and she said there was no problem with scaring on them. In fact she said there has never been adverse effects with this type of laser on anyone she has used it on, no matter what part of the body!

Johan didn`t believe me when I first told him today what she had told me, so he called her and talked to her, and I think he is convinced as well! So it looks like I am going to have it done!!! So I will soon be joining the ranks of you permanently bald women!!! I just thank God so much!!!!!!!!!!

I am not doing this lightly, I have thought about it for years. I`m quivering with excitement! I have never felt so feminine and submissive or so close to God, I also feel like I am giving something special to my husband, because he loves me so much smooth and bald, I just want to completely give myself to him! To be permanently smooth and bald for him! I just can`t believe I can actually have this done! I`ve prayed so much for this day! I am going to have it done starting a couple of months after our baby is born, probably sometime in the spring!

I`m sorry I am rambling on, I am just very, very happy!

I love all of you, you are inspirational to me, and may Gods love and grace bless you ladies, and you are always in my prayers!

Monique

Beautiful Sandy,
I have checked throughly Sandy with a number of experts as has Monique, and the only effective form of permanent hair removal is electrolysis, everything else is really a gimmick, it isn`t really permanent. But I want Monique to wait awhile before making that decision, and she is not a good canidate for laser either, that works best for very light skinned people with dark hair.My wife is not real dark skinned but she may be a little bit too dark and there could be problems. So if she does decide to go that route, it would have to be electrolysis. I really don`t care, but she has this dream of being permanently bald. She may just have to accept the fact that she has hair, and live with it.
You are right Sandy, America is more religious than Europe, Canada, Japan, Australia,etc. In America 40 % of males and 60% of females attend church on a more or less regular basis, far more than any other industrial country.
One of the reasons for that is while our government provides the world`s strongest military, a good infrastructure of roads, bridges, dams,etc., good police and fire departments, etc., they offer precious little in regards to social programs such as food stamps, low income housing, day care for children, drug and alchohal rehabs, prison rehabs,clothing allowances, and of course 44 million Americans don`t have any form of health insurance, government or private.
So the churchs and their charities fill the void. They have many, many food shelves, clothing shelves, day care programs for kids, programs for senior citizens, rehabs for addicts and ex-cons out of prison, and many hospitals and health clinics.
In most industrial countries if the government quit providing social services, the country would fall apart, in the U.S. if the church charities quit providing services the country would fall apart. In just housing alone they provide 10 million housing units to the poor, and our poor are poorer than your poor,(and our rich are richer!). The American government says two things to people: one-this is the country with the most freedom, do whatever you want, and two- if you want something, get it yourself we will not help you much.
So not only are many Americans believers, but even those that aren`t contribute to church charities, even criminals give money to church charities(ever seen the organized crime show THE SOPRANOS, you notice all the gangsters wifes and girlfriends go to church and help with the church charities, and the gangsters themselves give money to the charities, that is true to life!)
This attitude of our government, you are free but if you want something get it yourself, is also, unfortunately, the reason we have so much crime, and many people have guns, which of course are legal in the U.S..
We are a strange outlaw sort of country I know. But we are not as uncivilized as some people think, it`s just that our politics are more like South America than Europe, Canada, Japan,etc.
And women from the common classes especially, are religious, even some of the tough broads. I have seen tough trampy looking women in America all dolled up wearing short skirts, who will be talking tough and cursing but then the subject switches to religion and they all seem to go to church and take their kids there!
My wife is not a tough gal, she is petite and ultra-feminine, but yes she does some volunteer work at the church and goes every week, and usually goes with my teenaged daughters,(I only go on occasion). There are so many people going to church some Sundays that there are rush hour like traffic jams.And all this in a country of hard working, hard drinking, gun toting sorts, too many who have a criminal bent! I know, it is sort of crazy, but we are used to it!
By the way, my wife is due at the end of Febuary, the ultra-sound indicates it is a girl! Can`t wait to meet the little darling!
Much love to you Sandy, and it if very cool that you are going with the long earrings, makeup, sexy clothes, and so forth. By all means beautiful bald princess, make a statement, and those that are hip, or who have any brains or fashion sense will be most appreciative!!!!!
By the way Sandy, you have an excellent vocabulary. I don`t know what your job is, or how much education you have, but you are very articulate and intelligent! Add the fact that you are bald and beautiful, with a British accent to boot, you seem like an ideal woman, almost perfect!!! I bet there are guys that would almost kill to be with you, if I wasn`t married to a bald doll myself, I would!!!!!
God bless you lovely lady!!!!!