Hey, I always thought it was over 40..but who cares, I think that notion is becoming a thing of the past, especially with celebrities endorsing it by wearing their own hair long after 40..Cher, Dyan Cannon, Jane Seymore..and also getting back to gray hair that is long, how about the actress who played the Aunt on "TWISTER"? I think hers is very attractive, and I'm sure others would agree. I'm 31, I have had long hair for the most part of my life, and I'm always going to keep it as long as it looks good. Many up-do's look very proffesional yet feminine. Not to knock short hair-I like many styles of that length as well. I just agree with the others, that you don't have to cut just because you hit the big 40 or that you need to look more "professional". It's just old fashioned bull you know what:)
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Thank you for your reply--your post is very encouraging! Sometimes I get depressed reading the comments on the Long Hair site because some of the men just absolutely worship long hair--and then my dear husband wants me to cut mine off! Its not fair! Why can't he be a little teensy weensy bit obsessive about hair like those men??? :) (I am so totally jealous that some of those men will actually brush out their sweetie's hair--WILLINGLY!)So how did you get your husband to change his attitude toward your long hair?Also, ditto regarding hair on the star from "Touched By An Angel" on the magazine cover this month. FYI: I was with my husband in the grocery store when I saw it, and I showed it to him because she really does have beautiful hair. He actually didn't like it! Bah humbug....I think he's just trying to be difficult with me.PS--Since you are also growing out your hair, how often do you get it trimmed? I'm just curious because my tendency is to trim it too often--thus, no net gain in hair length!> My husband also gave me a hard time about wanting my> hair to my waist. I don't know what his problem was...> maybe he was afraid of it looking messy, or unkempt,> or something. Anyway, he now sees how much pride I> take in my hair and that it really makes me feel> beautiful. Also, that other men find it really> attractive. And that makes him feel good.> Hang in there!!> Jen
My husband also gave me a hard time about wanting my hair to my waist. I don't know what his problem was... maybe he was afraid of it looking messy, or unkempt, or something. Anyway, he now sees how much pride I take in my hair and that it really makes me feel beautiful. Also, that other men find it really attractive. And that makes him feel good.Hang in there!!JenRelated Link:Bowers-Bahney Communications
Karen--Don't let "Corporate America" dictate your look! Its standards are not only sexist ("Don't look too pretty or sexy, or men won't take you seriously!"), they're confining and superficial. The more we refuse to acknowledge these "professional attire guidelines," the less "standard" they'll become.Executives in a lot of cutting-edge companies are wearing bright-colored hair, mohawks, and body piercings. Stodgy traditionalists will eventually have to recognize that a prim and conventional buttoned-up look does NOT necessarily equal good service.Please stick it out. Wear your hair as you like it.Ally
> I am currently really struggling with the professional> "woman" thing. As you know, I own my own> company and my partners will often suggest that I> might consider putting my hair up with my suits.>Maybe they would prefer the company of a CEO that doesn't set trends, but follows them. A "professional" with a cookie cutter corporate cut. Cool, efficient and nonalluring.Is working from home an option ;)
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When I was in elementary school, I had a bus driver who was about 50 or so, and she had waist-length gray hair. She was a mean, old, grumpy woman, and I was terrified of her! She looked exactly like a witch with her long straggly gray hair. She never did anything with her hair--sometimes I wondered if she even washed it or brushed it because it just always hung down in limp frizzy strands. (This was in the 1970's, so she had the part down the middle of her head too--what my husband calls a "butt part" because, well, the hair part looks like a butt crack...but I digress...) I always thought that an older lady should not have long hair, mainly because of this bus driver. I think this type of image is what most people think of when they think of long hair on older women. I realize now that it is a misconception!!I just got married in November, and I searched everywhere for a hairsytle for my big day. I wanted an old fashioned look, so I researched victorian hair styles. I ended up with a "gibson girl" do in the front, and "basket weaved" curls in back. It was the most elegant hairstyle I have ever had. I loved it! Anyhow, during my research, looking at old photographs & sketchings, I saw how beautiful and youthful that long hair makes women look. Older women look years younger when they have a soft loose bun, instead of a choppy man's cut in their hair. They look very feminine too!My mom is 52, and she has been growing her hair out during the last 2-3 years. She now pulls it into a french twist, or a bun, and she looks stunning! Her hair is graying into a beautiful silver color, and I don't think her hair has ever looked better on her.I am getting close to 30, and I have long hair, and I have an entirely different perspective than I did when I was young. I work in a very professional (political) atmosphere and I have found many ways to wear my hair that looks very businesslike AND attractive. I really love having long hair and I don't intend to cut it just because of my age. My husband has recently started to get on my case because I made a comment that I'd like to grow my hair out to my waist. (I only have about 4 inches to go!) He has been lobbying me to cut my hair shorter because he doesn't think it looks "professional" and that I should go with an "older" style. I think he is full of crap, and I told him so!
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Gee Jen...who was the culprit who made up this rule? This is certainly a modern day theory. Just like in the Victorian days rounded women were the sexy ones.. now Marilyn Monroe is considered chubby! Twiggy shows up in the 60's and starts a revolution to make women shed pounds to be considered sleek. Even my own teenage daughter went through an eating disorder to try to keep her body super thin. It was scary but we got through it and now just to see her eat a doughnut is sheer joy. I have an aunt who has thigh length hair and she is 55. She tells me she gets comments made about her hair all the time. It's because she stands out. She says she can just be hurrying to the store and she will leave her hair in a braid and she will receive compliments like she was dressed for a fancy dinner party.. I think that's kewl! On the beef on wearing your hair on the job. If my job required that I be professional looking.. I would do that. There are many ways of doing long hair in a professional way. I certainly would not cut my hair off.. I think it's neat when women with long hair outdo their rival co workers with hairstyles they are not capable of doing with their short hair!! It's great to rant!!! Cher~My hair politics beef are:> a) The pressure to cut your hair after a certain age,> and> b) The pressure to cut your hair when you're a> "professional" woman in the workplace.> It just fascinates me that people have such strong> opinions about long hair and believe you should follow> certain rules. As long as you're neat and well-groomed> in the workplace, who cares?!> Plus, who made up the rules that you should have short> hair after turning 30, 40, whatever?> Ah, it feels good to rant!
>Hi Jen,I'm nearly 38 and after a mass disaster with a hairdresser who melted my 33inch long hair off plus for no extra charge gave me 2nd degree scalp burn, I ended up with 3 inches of hair& due to scalp damage my hair has never grown so slowly, but I AM growing it back as long as I can get it. There should not be pressure for the so called "Power Cut", for buisness women or any other woman for that matter,unfortunatly a lot of people associate long hair to women in there 20's, I love the versitility of long hair(as I myself do not like short hair ON ME & I can just scrape it into a baby ponytail),I have seen women over 50 looking immaculate with beautiful long hair, basically I think age should not enter this area.Best wishes,Simone.(C).Hi Jen,> Great topic.> I am currently really struggling with the professional> "woman" thing. As you know, I own my own> company and my partners will often suggest that I> might consider putting my hair up with my suits. UGH.> On the one hand I know that are right and people do> take me more seriously, on the other hand, I want to> wear my hair the way I want to.> As far as the "over 30-40, cut your hair"> bah humbug. I get pretty steamed when I see that.> Thank God Jane Fonda who is over 60 has very long hair> these days.> Karen
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Hi Jen,Great topic.I am currently really struggling with the professional "woman" thing. As you know, I own my own company and my partners will often suggest that I might consider putting my hair up with my suits. UGH. On the one hand I know that are right and people do take me more seriously, on the other hand, I want to wear my hair the way I want to.As far as the "over 30-40, cut your hair" bah humbug. I get pretty steamed when I see that. Thank God Jane Fonda who is over 60 has very long hair these days.Karen> My hair politics beef are:> a) The pressure to cut your hair after a certain age,> and> b) The pressure to cut your hair when you're a> "professional" woman in the workplace.> It just fascinates me that people have such strong> opinions about long hair and believe you should follow> certain rules. As long as you're neat and well-groomed> in the workplace, who cares?!> Plus, who made up the rules that you should have short> hair after turning 30, 40, whatever?> Ah, it feels good to rant!
My hair politics beef are:a) The pressure to cut your hair after a certain age, andb) The pressure to cut your hair when you're a "professional" woman in the workplace.It just fascinates me that people have such strong opinions about long hair and believe you should follow certain rules. As long as you're neat and well-groomed in the workplace, who cares?!Plus, who made up the rules that you should have short hair after turning 30, 40, whatever?Ah, it feels good to rant!Related Link:Bowers-Bahney Communications
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