Guys with traditionaly feminine styles

I'll tell you what I did when I got my bob.  My hair was about shoulder length after cutting it from midback length--I think I had a easier route than you since I was going shorter. (Most people commented that I had gotten my hair cut, not gotten it bobbed.)  I took in some pix of what I wanted, a few off the web (see www.coolbobs.com for zillions of images), showing the side view of the angle I wanted, the stacking in the back, overall length.  You would want to add pix of the bangs you want.  I searched around and found a young, female stylist in a small, 4-chair shop with dividers so it was somewhat private. I was lucky in that we had a blizzard that day and I and my stylist were the only ones in there!  I had checked her out on Facebook to see she was young and hip--you don't want to try to convince a guy or an older woman that you want a bob!  She should be "on your side"--she wants your business and wants to make you happy.

I have found that wearing a bob is no big deal.  I have never gotten a bad comment and have gotten some complements.  You just have to wear it with confidence and you will love it.  You have only one life--live yours and not theirs.

Do it!  Enjoy it!

Well, Jennifer, I've dealt with the "get a haircut" grinches several times over the years and I can give you some advice. People (especially negatively oriented people) are always going to respond to any change in your appearance. However, it doesn't last. After a time they get used to you looking different and hassling you about the same thing becomes boring.

How you respond to such remarks can make a difference. If you always frown and argue you're biting their bait. Just say nothing in response. Just look bored. Either walk away from them or move on to another topic. If they insist on talking about your hair, just say it's not an issue for discussion and you won't be talking about it anymore.

You can minimize such comments, too, by taking the effort to make sure your hair looks as good as possible all the time. This is tricky while growing hair out. Most people go through what's called an "awkward phase" with hair growing. I think the best solution for this is to just keep it out of the way as well as possible. Slick it back with gel, wear a headband or hat-- something. The good news is the awkward phase shouldn't last very long.

Just as soon as your hair reaches the right length, get a quality cut in a really good looking familiar style. It really doesn't matter if it's a men's or a women's style, in my experience. When you have a good hairstyle that fits your features well and you look good in a relatively common way, people tend to accept this as your look.

Give it another try and stick it out. I'm pretty sure you'll find it was worth bearing a couple of grouchy remarks.


Edited by Ricc - July 14 2012 at 10:56am

Since my last post a bit over a year ago I have continued to enjoy my angled, stacked bob.  I wear it down almost all the time, rarely tucking it back.  Since last summer I have added highlights, too.  Also, I have added earrings, usually wearing 2-inch hoops in the front holes and ball studs in the back ones.  I am straight and I do not act effeminate.  It is fun to enjoy this look!

Hi everyone. I'm a guy (Jennifer is the fem name I like to use) and I have wanted for a while to grow my hair out and get it cut in a very feminine bob with bangs. I haven't because when my hair starts getting longer people tell me I need to go get a haircut and I cave in and do. I really want a feminine bob with bangs either chin length or earlobe length. What should I do? Does anyone have suggestions for how to deal with this and what would be the best most feminine bob with bangs cut to get?

I have natural brown hair with highlights that only became evident once I let it grow out. The salon lady styled it into a pretty bob for me. She also waxed my eyebrows too. I love having the style and it makes me look much younger.

Yes I am too pushing the limits with my bob but I love it. whats the name of the group your in on yahoo. I looked for it and couldnt find it. PM me your email and I will send you pics of my pretty fem bob

Welcome to the bobbed guy club. I hope It grows because there is NOTHING wrong with a guy having a bob hairstyle. I have my hair cut in a feminine bob with bangs and I LOVE it. I love the way it looks and swings and my stylist said it fits my face shape.  I think we need to start a revolution about gender and hairstyles. Where I am from any guy that is remotely feminine is usaully looked down upon, but I have my hair cut in a girls earlobe length bob with bangs and im letting it grow some. I have an appt in 2 weeks and I am thinking of getting it cut in an angled bob with bangs. longer on the sides and graduated up a LITTLE in back and having the back stacked. I mean girls can wear their hair from LONG LONG to SHORT SHORT (even bald) so why cant guys have bob hairstyles right?

I am soooo loving my hair in this fem earlobe length bob with bangs and clippered nape. I love the way it swings. Im going to let it grow some so next hair appt I will get it cut longer on the sides and getting shorter in back. Its going to be soooo fem.

Hey everyone. I went to the salon this past week and got a mani/pedi (with polish) and had my hair cut into a cute feminine earlobe length bob with bangs and clippered nape. I love it. I want it to grow out a little longer and that wont take long my hair grows fast. I had a blast at the salon. Girly stuff is soooo mch fun.

Quite awhile back I wore mine sort of like that. I was sort of tiring of having my hair about elbow length and decided to go for a radical cut. I'd always liked the "wedge" style cut and so I went with that. It was basically a just over the ears banged paige, but with beveling to give it some width. I loved it, though it was a style I'd only seen on women. Later I grew it to below chin length, but kept the bangs. I kind of wanted to go completely blonde with it that way, but compromised and just did some light streaks.

 These days I wear it bangless one-length at almost my shoulders. I kind of miss bangs. They really make your hair look full in the front, hiding your hairline. I may go back to them sometime.