Beware public transport..

I can't believe that she actually thought that that was okay! I mean, it's one thing to touch a friend, but this was a total stranger. That's not cool. Even when acquaintances invade my personal space, it bugs me. My hair is wavy, and I grew up on the east coast, so the humidity there makes it full-on curly. Well, one day in 8th grade, I'm sitting at a computer in science lab, typing something up for my group, when I feel something going on around my shoulders. The girl behind me had been pulling at the curls and watching them spring back up! She then said something like "Your hair is so curly and pretty!", so I let her slide with just a stern look. More recently, on my third day at a new job, one of my coworkers had to get my attention, so she poked me in the ribs! If you must get my attention, tap me on the shoulder or just say my name. But the rib/abdomen area is just not where you touch someone whom you barely know. Again, I'm pretty touchy-feely with close friends, but with strangers and acquaintances, there are definite limits. I'm sorry that this girl on the bus seems to be quite unaware of those limits.

heard a real horror story recently, where a woman in the U.S was in a cinema watching a film and some teenagers cut off her long hair.

How horrible! When my hair gets really long, I'm going to be extra careful. I would hate to have to worry about someone pulling or cutting my hair...or even sticking gum in it.

I wish that had been the case, Hal.

Her exact words back to me were "So what B***h? What are you going to do about it?"

I've just realized this issue on busses, too. One time, my hair kept getting yanked by the person behind me because his book would hit my hair and then the back of the seat. I definitely have to be aware and tie my hair up or back (and then move it over my shoulders).

Uzi,

How long is your hair again? Is their a back to your seat? Was your hair drapping over the chair or something? Im trying to picture how the girl behind you had gotten ahold of a large portion of your hair. When Im sitting at a theater for example i wont drap my hair over the back of the chair. Id rather sit on it or have it pressesed between me and the chair but if no one is behind me I prefer to let my hair drap over the back of chairs so that Im not causeing un due breakage by pressing it up against anything or sitting on it.

Are you sure she was gripping it and your hair didnt get caught in the corner of a seat cusion or something (I mean did she deny it or did she just give you additude implying that she should be able to touch your hair). I really dont understand these people who can just touch other people like that with no sence of respect.

Hi Erinlynn

The hair at the back of my head is at my bra-strap (God it feels sooo good to finally say that), and I wore it loose yesterday. I hadn’t deliberately draped it over the back of the seat, but my hair is thick and kinda wild so it gets all over the place and I keep bringing it forward onto my chest when walking around.
She was definitely gripping some of it and the fact that she released it after the bus jerked suggested that she had it twisted around her fingers or something.


Laine, p_p, Dave and Caramia

Thanks for your support….I’m still burning up!!

I had my anger button pushed a second time yesterday when I mentioned the incidence to some folks at work and one person said I “had it coming by wearing it loose”! Apparently it’s my fault for inviting people to touch my hair by not wearing it bound up.

Wasn’t a similar argument used in the past to say that women who dressed in a revealing manner “deserved” to get raped?
Anyway, I’m winding myself up again…..you can imagine how that conversation at work developed
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I once had a girl in a cinema put up her feet on my hair, I was letting it fall down the back of my seat. Not very pleasant. But she was as embarrassed as I was.

And I once sat on a bus with a very big haired woman in front of me, and since the seats were so close together, I actually felt that her hair was invading my space. I would not have been able to read a magazine or a book without getting her hair tangled up in it. So it goes the other way round as well, I guess. I mean, how much fun is it to get a big hat in your face when you´re watching a stage? Maybe we need to think about where we put our hair, sometimes. Not that that´s an excuse for anyone to touch us or make comments about us!

Hugs back, Dave .

I wonder if my hair will ever make it to my knees?

Long Hair Forever!!!

(just felt like saying that really loudly)

I can't believe someone had the nerve to touch your hair like that, how infuriating! Although it is something of a compliment...it was so pretty that she obviously couldn't help herself!

I haven't taken the bus in a long time, but when I did, now that I think of it people were always pulling my hair by accident--either by grabbing the rail on the back of my seat (flyaways would always get under the hand somehow) or by sitting next to me in horizontal seating, hairs would just somehow get wedged behind a shoulder or arm. My hair does tend to go off on it's own, but most of the time when this would happen the person would apologize and I'd smile or say "that's ok" or some such thing. Usually it was my hair's fault. But I never had someone touch it intentionally! In NYC that could get someone a punch in the face, or worse! Most people in the city are smart enough to keep to themselves. I would imagine it's the same in London?

P.S. Elissa - thanks for the compliment.

I don't think my hair is pretty as such, but it is unusual or so I've been told.