Should I have my haircut short

I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now and he admitted to me last night that he prefers girls with much shorter hair.When I asked him about cutting my hair he said yes.My hair is bra length now but he wants me to cut it quite short, pixie like.I've never had hair that short before so I am not sure.To make things even harder for me to agree is that he wants to cut it.Has anyone else had a thing like this happen to them, and if so how did you handle it.Every time I look in the mirror now I keep picturing myself with short hair. I want to go short sometime but I don't know if I'm ready for such a change yet.Do any other of you girls let their boyfriend cut their hair. If so what do you think about it.Christine G.

> I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now and> he admitted to me last night that he prefers girls> with much shorter hair.> When I asked him about cutting my hair he said yes.> My hair is bra length now but he wants me to cut it> quite short, pixie like.> I've never had hair that short before so I am not> sure.> To make things even harder for me to agree is that he> wants to cut it.> Has anyone else had a thing like this happen to them,> and if so how did you handle it.> Every time I look in the mirror now I keep picturing> myself with short hair. I want to go short sometime> but I don't know if I'm ready for such a change yet.> Do any other of you girls let their boyfriend cut> their hair. If so what do you think about it.> Christine G.

I wouldn't let HIM cut it! :-) I once had a boyfriend who said he wished I would get a short haircut. I thought about it, but since short hair doesn't look that good on me, I passed. I'm glad I didn't do it, knowing that it didn't suit me. Try to get a "virtual haircut". Some salons have this service and you'll get to see what you'd look like in various styles and lengths without the committment.

Hi Carol,I'm totally with you!You go into a relationship as a partner, not a dress-up-doll for somebody else. OK, so listen to their opinion, but in the end it's down to you to choose your look.Long short or green, it's up to youI've started a flame war twice with this opinion, but I'm prepared to voice it again.andy

> Christine, Jenny Hammond, Peta, Julie, Jodie and> Sharon are> one and the same.

I'll give you some comments about this from the perspective of a guy who shares this little fetish. I'll comment intermixed with Christine's original message:> I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now and> he admitted to me last night that he prefers girls> with much shorter hair.It takes a while to get up the courage to admit this. I was in my mid-20's before I *ever* admitted to a girlfriend about this fetish. Over time, I was able to tell them earlier in the relationship. I had been involved with my current lover for a week or so when I sprung it on her. We just celebrated our tenth anniversary. (Three kids, house in the 'burbs, the whole drill!)> When I asked him about cutting my hair he said yes.> My hair is bra length now but he wants me to cut it> quite short, pixie like.> I've never had hair that short before so I am not> sure.> To make things even harder for me to agree is that he> wants to cut it.> Has anyone else had a thing like this happen to them,> and if so how did you handle it.Yes, my wife had this happen to her. I cut her bra-length hair just above her shoulders when we were dating. A few weeks after our wedding, I cut her shoulder length hair in a short pixie. After child #1, her then bra length hair went to chin length.After child # 2 shoulder length back to pixie.Just a few months ago, bra length to just past shoulder length.In each case, she has gone the next day to a salon where she's never been (wearing a hat!) and gets it fixed.The only thing more nuts than letting me do it the first time was the three times after that!> Every time I look in the mirror now I keep picturing> myself with short hair. I want to go short sometime> but I don't know if I'm ready for such a change yet.If you don't know, you aren't ready. Period. When you are ready, it'll be obvious to you. It may be tomorrow, or it may never be.> Do any other of you girls let their boyfriend cut> their hair. If so what do you think about it.> Christine G.I don't know about your boyfriend, but my interest isn't in short hair anyway, it is in the transition. If and when you decide that you are ready, if you don't want him to do it, ask him what his second choice is. I have been begging for years for my wife to let me take her to a barber shop instead of a salon. No dice. She'll let *me* do it, but won't set foot in a barbershop. Maybe he'd enjoy that. Or a playacting scene... he takes you to a salon and you tell them that you lost a bet and have to get your hair cut however he wants it.Playacting, by the way, is good powerful fun. During intimate times, we will act out or tell each other stories, from very realistic ones to wild fantasies. (Imagine yourself in the Holo-deck from Star Trek, and go from there...) Since you can't get a radically different haircut every week, this can allow interaction on the subject on the years [;~)] where you don't get to live out any fantasies.My final $.02: I personally am obsessed with this, and have been for 25 years (what do you think I'm doing on a hair board anyway?). If you're going to have a relationship with him, he is going to think about it. Instead of letting him stew about it, talk about it together, and it will help you to understand his perspective. That will eventually tell you how much of this may be manipulation and how much of it may be something like my wife and I have experienced, where we have allowed this to be a very central aspect of our sexual relationship, but something that does not dominate our emotional bonds.Good luck!David

> I have been dating this guy for about 4 months now and> he admitted to me last night that he prefers girls> with much shorter hair.> When I asked him about cutting my hair he said yes.> My hair is bra length now but he wants me to cut it> quite short, pixie like.> I've never had hair that short before so I am not> sure.> To make things even harder for me to agree is that he> wants to cut it.> Has anyone else had a thing like this happen to them,> and if so how did you handle it.> Every time I look in the mirror now I keep picturing> myself with short hair. I want to go short sometime> but I don't know if I'm ready for such a change yet.> Do any other of you girls let their boyfriend cut> their hair. If so what do you think about it.> Christine G._____________Christine,Here is another view from a guy - though similar response.We have been married for 14 happy years. When I was dating my wife to be, she had waist length hair and was afraid to go to the barber (she trimmed it herself - 1/4"). I offered to do it and in stages started to go shorter. This was easier on her then a drastic change. I usually started with 2" at a time. I cut it about once a month - this eventually got it to chin length. To make a long story short (no pun intended) she now wears it in a short crop style, which I cut (we both find it exciting to do each others hair)She also does not want to go long again - she likes the look and ease of it. If you are hesitant, I would suggest going in stages. If you are a daring type, go for it! You have to try though, otherwise you may be missing something you would really enjoy! Good Luck to both of y'all.

Darling
You are being mind-controlled by a fetishist if you agree to this stunt
Really

As a man I also prefer short hair on women. Mostly bob styles although a cap cut, like Demi Moore had in "Ghost", looks good on the right woman. Several years ago my wife had her mid-back hair cut into a bob and has never gone back. We often have our hair cut at the same shop so I can watch. We both find it great foreplay; anything to add spice after 15 years of marriage. My advise is talk to him about his feelings. Men are often very guarded about these feelings if he does have a fetish you can bring him out of his shell. Who knows, you may prefer the easy care of short hair.

*laughs* Or maybe Jonny used to be a woman?