gender v roller sets

As a guy, I love getting my hair set in rollers and getting perms and color/highlights.  My wife loves my hair with curls and encourages me to keep it curly.

My husband & I go every week......we have seen two other men get wet sets in the 6+ years we have been going. Our hairdresser though said that there were about 3-4 other men that come to get weekly sets also.

Not worried about whether Jennifer sees my post, just wanted to respond so others could see that other men get their hair set. We still have a number of beauty parlors in our area that do wash & sets. True they are not as popular as they once were, however, there still are quite a few around.

Jennifer, I totally appreciate your response. I thought exactly like you when I was in my earlier days (I'm in my late 50's now). My husband (28 years married) was never into anything feminine. I unwittingly brought him into that world. After he retired, I said to him "I would love to see you with longer hair!" (He has great curly hair). He let his hair grow out about 6-8", and I loved it. He does not like his curly hair because it gets frizzy. My hairdresser at the beauty parlor suggested he get it set on large curlers and it would straighten it, and also get out the frizz. I took him one morning, and he had it done. I thought he looked absolutely adorable in curlers, and sitting under a hair dryer! I think any women would think that if they saw their husband in such a feminine way. My hair dresser was right! It straightened his hair nicely and left no frizz like blow drying. My husband loved the outcome! From that point on he decided to go with me every week to get rollersets. After a few months, he said he had something to tell me. He told me that when he gets his hair set, it makes him feel feminine, and he likes it. I did not have a problem with that. He then went on to say that he wanted to try some of the women's styles that he saw being done to the ladies while he was sitting under the dryer for the past three months. I was a little surprised to say the least, but I said "sure, if that's something you would like to try. The next week we went to the beauty parlor, he told our hairdresser that he wanted to try having it teased and combed out into a woman's hairdo. Well, he did, and it was really weird seeing him in a woman's hairdo, but he liked it. I love my husband dearly, and it was not a "gay/straight" thing. He liked feeling femme. He said going to the beauty parlor getting sets made him feel femme, and he liked it. I was the one who introduced him to this, so I could not really blame him. Anyhow, we have been going to the beauty parlor together now for 6 years, and he wears his hair like a woman most of the time, and has even gotten updos,fake long nails, and wears the cute pink lace comb-out capes, and a scarf to protect his hair......our marriage has never been stronger. The ladies at the beauty parlor love him!

Just because a guy takes pride in his appearance, it
doesn't automatically mean he paints his nails and
wears dresses you know, heaven knows I dont but I
have been known to participate in the odd roller set,
it started as a payback for being smart to a senior
hairdresser when I was a 17 year old apprentce.
Initially I protested strongly, however I later gave
in, after all the apprentice must abide by a seniors
instructions, so what the hell...

Why do you asume that if a guy is into roller sets he is naturally into cross dressing and make up, this may be so in most cases but there are some guys out there like me who just like to take pride in there appearance and will go to whatever lengths to do so.

Since you like to primp and preen, do you like to wear mascara or lipstick to help bring out your natural features? Do you like to shave your underarms and legs? Do you like to wear high heels and nylons?

And, do you like to wear rollers in your hair because of the way it makes you look or the way it makes you feel?

Jennifer

Dave,

I realize this is geography/culture-dependent to an extent, but I really believe the "short-hair norm" for men is dissolving. Around here, no one would look twice at you, unless it was to cast an admiring or speculative glance.

I think rollers are a separate situation. Hell, getting your hair set in rollers at a salon practically /is/ history, unless you're a little, old lady. (I don't think this guy is talking about a perm; he's talking about a "set.")

Ally

"Changes aren't permanent, but change is" -- Geddy Lee

Jennifer,

Things will not stay as they are now. Changes happen because there are underlying forces within people (within this society) to change.

You say, "Just because something worked or was accepted at one time in history doesn't necessarily mean it's appropriate now." Would you agree, then, with this idea's corollary that "just because something works or is accepted now doesn't necessarily mean that it will be appropriate in the future?"

The only difference between your statement and its corollary is the referenced point in time, but as history is a continuum, the difference is meaningless.

Some people seek to pressure me (and others, both men and women) to conform to society's short-hair norm. To me, it's that pressure which "doesn't work" and is inappropriate.

Dave

I think history can explain much of what happened at that time of life, and we can always learn from history! But I also think it's important to realize that as time has evolved, things change. Some things will stay the same, and some things will change. But just because something worked or was accepted at one time in history doesn't necessarily mean it's appropriate now.

Regards,

Jennifer