Is it rude to give a compliment?

I like people to compliment my hair. I cut if off almost 3 years ago and have been growing it back out for about 2 and a half. I used to wear it up a lot so people didn't know how long it had gotten. I love to hear people comment on what it looks like now. I ran into one of my old hair stylists and she told me that my hair was beautiful. I was happy for the rest of the day. :) I can't wait to see what people say if I let it get longer (which I hope that I can do).

I think it's very unfortunate that the people you mentioned don't know how to accept a compliment. Whenever my hair gets complimented on, my entire day is brightened =) You certainly are not being rude by saying something nice to someone; they're being rude by not saying "thank you"!

No it's not rude to give a compliment.....I have thigh length hair....and I love it when people give me compliments...It brightens my day and makes me feel good....

But what I think is rude is when people start telling me I need to cut my hair because long hair is out....I just nicley tell them "Don't think so!" and I tell them that I'm an aspiring Crystal Gayle...and that usually shuts them up....

Another thought -- an unsolicited compliment is also an unsolicited comment.

Although your intentions are good, I totally sympathize with the women. Perhaps they think you are hitting on them -- after all, you are being very forward.

Also, to me, it draws attention to the outside of a person instead of what's on the inside. And it can make people much more self-conscious, as well. It says, "Hey, I'm paying attention to how you look." That may sound good, but a person may feel self-conscious when she knows she isn't looking her best because she knows you'll notice!

Awhile back, when I cut my long hair short, I HATED it. However, it was a rather drastic change, and several people loved it, and everyone made a huge fuss over it. When someone made a positive comment, I barely smiled and immediately changed the subject. But some people kept going on and on about how much they loved it! Finally, the worst time was when I was doing some volunteer work with a woman who absolutely flipped over my hair. She told me multiple times how "QQQQQQQ---ute" she thought my hair was and didn't I just "love" it? I said no, and she went on and on "complimenting" me on it. But what her words really said to me were, "If you don't like it, then your taste is bad." Admittedly, I'm a bit sensitive when it comes to the subject of my hair, but I was just amazed that people kept going on and on, even when I gave a strong indication that I did not want to discuss it! It was like they were trying to change my mind, and I found it rude.

Although compliments are nice, an unsolicited compliment is indeed an unsolicited comment. And unsolicited comments are, by their very nature, offered without consent or for anyone asking for them. Therefore, I'll side with the European attitude that it is rude to make *any* unsolicited comment about a person's appearance. (Extremely close friends and lovers may be exempt, though!)

I like hair complimets too. The only time it would bother me is if someone said something rude to me- cut my hair, whatever.

Frankly I have discovered its women who make the most rude comments to other women- its almost like they can say whatever they want because they are a woman. Rarely do I see or hear of men saying something rude to a woman about her appearance.

Sorry To hear that Ames.
Men can be so insensitve.
I never do cat calls or inappropriate comments.
Like when I was single I never said stuff in bars to the ladies like
"Do you have any Irish in you?" "No?" "Do you want some?" because that would had been just terrible.
I have high moral fiber.

Yiii, inner lizards - is there a rerun of the show "V" from ages back?

IMO they are just not grown up, boys in the body of a man. Luckily not all behave that way.

Hi Hi:

I think its fine to give one a compliment about there hair. I think its very rude to say somthing negitive about ones hair.

The old saying. If you have nothing good to say, then say nothing at all.

To many people give advise. When it is not asked for. It turn, I can be very direct myself. When this happens to me. I turn and and asked them.

When did I ask for your advise? If I wanted your advise, I would ask for it. Other wise please keep your opinions to yourself.

Hugs - Susan

VeeDubGirl wrote: I like compliments on my hair. WHat I hate though is when pwople say, "Wow, your hair looks so much better than it did before." Would it be so hard to jsut say my hair is nice without insulting what I looked like in the past?

I agree.

I love getting compliments on my hair.  They give me a little self-esteem boost and make my whole day nicer.  But I usually only get them from friends and family members; it might be a little weird to get a compliment from a complete stranger.  I wouldn't be totally rude to the person about it though.

*Edited for grammar mistake.

Edited by Katja

A compliment is a compliment, be it about your hair, your smile, your eyes, or sense of style. Most of us can tell a sincere compliment from a line of bull. If someone (male or female) is moved enough to pay you that compliment enjoy it!