HELP!!!!!

hi everyone, i need major help!my hair is about 1/2 down my back and the only way i can wear it down is to blow dry it everyday. i know that isn`t healthy at all but i don`t know what else to do. my hair is very thick and course. if i don`t blow dry it, it will be very frizzy and kinky. i can`t even wear it in a ponytail with out it looking like a frizz ball. iam sick and tired of having to blowdry it all the time. i have gotten it straightened about 5 or 6 times and it will work great for a couple of days then its like i didn`t even get it done. im tired of spending all that money and time just to make my hair look nice. what do i do?????PLEASE HELP!!!!

i have tried to cut my hair and it looks worse, it looks like a frizz ball. don`t get me wrong my hair looks normal when i blow dry it. iam just sick and tired of having to do that every single day. the shortest i have had my hair cut is to the end of my ears.MISTAKE!!! if you have anymore ideas please help.

why don`t you try cutting into a bob and thinning it out with thinning shears a bit like geri halliwells [ ex ginger spice] new cut for the launch of bridget jones diary it would help to control frizz if it was bobbed thinned and very heavily layered.
hope i have helped
vicky