spiking ones self and messing it like you have bad hair day( hair that is)

ok i like spikes and out of bed hair style. they are cool. but how do you do it?
i had my hair relaxed so i could do these styles?
Karen said that if you want spike hair you should not use a softning shampoo. does this mean you should not use a coditioner? what kind of drugstore shampoo you could use
how about out of bed, how do you do it?
i mean i tried it but all i got was just messy?
and how does justin timberlake does his new hairdo?
he has curly hair but now its straight. isnt he a blonde, but he has a darker shade. what is it?
you guys think he had relaxed and thern colour it or waht.