do you ever feel that your looks and long hair gets you in trouble?

> I had a new job. The president was a woman> with very short blond hair and her husband was> my boss. I spotted her husband checking me out> one day when I wore a red dress. She turned ice> cold when she talked to me. Friday I was called> in and a bunch of crap was handed to me to the> reason why I am not longer needed. The chicken> shit husband was no where in sighht. On e the> ex-co worker that was with the company for ten> years quit two days before. That coworker phoned> me and told me that one of the main reasons that> I was chased out was that the president's husband> had a thing for me. I didn't even flirt with him.> My question is to all the females .> Have you come to the conclusion that its> harder to work with females than males because> the way you look? I came to that conclusion .> My next job I will search to be more with men> than women. Men don't mind if you are kind of> cute but women , claws , hell etc come out . I> want to know if this is a common problem for us> females.> were you employement at will? were you given an explaination...if not call a good lawyer. Believe or not the more females that dominate a work place the more back-biting there will be.Unsigned, MBA

Hello.The reason that the president came me Friday was that my job was deleted. I was only there almost three months. She also mentioned that she would like to have four of her type of personality running the company. She said that in the long run my calm personality would drive her nuts. She couldn't knocked me down the way I dealt with the staff nor how I dealt with clients, nor she couldn't knock down my attitude. She felt that she should have hired a secretary. She couldn't even give me a description of the new job type of thing as she doesn't know if she is coming or going. It still doesn't help knowing all that from her and It really didn't help when I heard from an ex worker that been there for ten years that it was my looks that made the president insecure.

> Diane,> Sorry to hear of your recent misfortune.>> Ally is exactly right in her post. Employers> can and do discriminate any way that they want> to. Where I work men with long hair are discriminated> against and they don't even know it. The top executive> are conservative male accountants and I was in> a meeting where they were deciding which of the> engineering staff to send to a client presentation.> I heard them make derogatory comments about two> of the men that have ponytails. I was shocked> because I was so naive.> I talked in private to the HR Director later.> She warned me to stay out of it (I am just a little> sales person) and that it happens all the time> in all kinds of ways. I feel like I should tell> the two guys but I know that would probalby be> the end of me.> So while they think having long hair doesn't> affect them, I know that they are being discriminated> against and they don't even know it. I would not> be surprised if they both don't lose their jobs> soon. However, I am sure it will never be explained> that it is because they look "too unprofessional> or unacceptable to the executives".> It happens all the time as I am finding out.>> Also I agree with none. The women give me> more trouble than the men.> ChristineHi,I know you are both right. I am also aware that men can have it harder in same way. For example over here if you want to be an accountant like a CA or CGA many firms have a contract that says that one can't have a beard or have a certain length of hair . This only applies to men.to Christine,If I were in your shoes I wouldn't tell my co-worker that I knew he won't have the opportunity to make that representation but if that co-worker came to me and asked me what he can do than I would be honest and tell him what I heard. I certainly wouldn't tell him at work. I would invite that person after work. Also you have to trust your co worker. What happens if you tell and your name is mentioned when they confront management. I used to believe that we should defend each other , now I see that its very rare as many people are selfish and only think of themselves. I am not saying you are selfish. YOu have bills to pay etc. Its like the person that told me during the weeknd that she knew I was heading out of the door. She quit two days before and she wanted to warn me. I told her that its was best that I didn't learn it from my co-worker because it would have ruined my whole week. Christine those male co-workers are gaining experience one way or the other but one day they will fight for that presentation and the snakes make up escuses. Plus its very much a learning experience for you . My father always told me in life when he was alive that to win life you need to know how to become a excellent chess player.