QuoteReplyTopic: scared to trim Posted: January 12 2000 at 2:30am
I've been growing my hair out and it's finnaly almost bra length but I need to get a trim. Last time I got my hair trimmed I asked for a half an inch off and they took a bit over an inch off instead. That's a lot when you're trying to grow it out. Now I'm scared to go get it trimmed again. What can I do to ensure that they won't take off too much? How can I make this a painless as posible? Please let me know your sugestions. Thank you. - Johannah
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Hi Johannah,Find someone you pretty much trust with your life. Maybe your mom, dad, aunt, cousin, anyone who is supportive of your choice to grow your hair. And especially someone as outraged as you at the "over-trim" you received.Good Luck,Debbie
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> I've been growing my hair out and it's finnaly almost> bra length but I need to get a trim. Last time I got> my hair trimmed I asked for a half an inch off and> they took a bit over an inch off instead. That's a lot> when you're trying to grow it out. Now I'm scared to> go get it trimmed again. What can I do to ensure that> they won't take off too much? How can I make this a> painless as posible? Please let me know your> sugestions. Thank you. - JohannahJudging from the comments of long-haired people (or working-on-long-haired people), this seems to be a common problem. There are a variety of solutions. The best one is probably to have someone you really, really trust, who you know supports you about your hair decisions, do the trim for you. It might not be salon-perfect, but at the length your hair is at, the difference really isn't noticeable, especially when you are moving. My husband has no professional training whatsoever where hair is concerned, and he has done almost all my trims (the rest were by my mother) for over 3 years now. I haven't been to a salon (except to buy shampoo and things) in over 5 years.If that's not an option, there are a few things you can do to prevent a professional from cutting too much. Take a friend along - one who supports you about your hair. Have that person watch carefully while the stylist is working. This is especially important if you wear glasses and can't see without them. Make it very clear to the stylist ahead of time that when you say half an inch, you really mean it. Let the stylist know you've had people fail to follow your directions before, and that if he/she does, you will complain to the manager/owner, and you will not return. Don't be confrontational or aggressive, just be firm and assertive. Have the stylist show you exactly where he/she plans to cut. Finally, if the stylist still cuts too much, follow through. Talk to the manager/owner, and don't go back.There is no absolutely foolproof way of avoiding excessive cutting - anyone can have an accident if someone bumps into her while she is cutting, or if something else startling happens. However, having someone you can trust helps a lot, and having someone there who is definitely on your side to support you and, if necessary, act as an advocate can make a big difference.Good luck!Laura Janelswanson@sunflower.bio.indiana.edu
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> I've been growing my hair out and it's finnaly almost> bra length but I need to get a trim. Last time I got> my hair trimmed I asked for a half an inch off and> they took a bit over an inch off instead. That's a lot> when you're trying to grow it out. Now I'm scared to> go get it trimmed again. What can I do to ensure that> they won't take off too much? How can I make this a> painless as posible? Please let me know your> sugestions. Thank you. - JohannahHi, Johannah!Love your name...it's quite beautiful...I think you should be a bit fearful of a stylist cutting too much off for a true trim.First, I don't think Laura Jane's idea about threatening to complain to management if the stylist trims off more than you desire is a good one. Too many stylists are independent contractors. Owners want that money for the chairs. A slap on the wrist at most would be the result and worst of all, your hair is off of your head.I think the idea of a friend going with you is good. Better yet, a close friend, lover or spouse would be great for the choice of a trimmer. I can remember giving my mom trims when I was around 8. She had had too many botched jobs from the professionals and trusted her baby more. She just gave me some short instructions and we started with a little and reached the desired amount. Personally, it was quite fun.When my hair really started to grow around age 17, my mom was the only person I trusted to trim off my ends. She never took more than necessary and I knew she loved to see my hair look healthy and long.Another suggestion which I would give you is to go to a male barber. I don't mean a hair stylist who is a male, but a good, old-fashioned barber. I don't know where you live, but they do exist and some of them are amazed and pleased to see women with long hair come in for a true trim. A good barber will listen to exactly what you want if you give him a chance. Do not be intimidated by walking into a shop full of men. Simply ask if the barber will give you a trim. From experience, he will either say no, I don't do that or he will be amazed and welcome the attention. I send much love to the old-fashioned barbers in this country and abroad!My last suggestion to you is to learn to give yourself trims. After doing a few snips in 3 years'time, I have become quite pleased with myself. I even picked up a method from this board which is excellent. It was from some suggestions from a lady in Canada. I don't recall whether it was called the twirling method or what, but it does work. Not having to deal with two mirrors pleased me greatly:)The method was also an excellent way to judge whether a split end was really a split end or maybe just flyaway hair.I hope that I may have helped. I know the anxiety you feel and rightly so. Take care..Jade
Johannah--I hear you! This is how I "insure" myself:** Be emphatic. Tell the stylist ahead of time that you are growing your hair out, and that you are very nervous that you'll lose more length than requested. Explain that the reason you are no longer seeing your previous stylist is that she took liberties and cut too much.If the stylist insists you should cut more than half an inch, politely take your leave. I've found a lot of times that these people will agree to what you say and then just do what they want--trusting that you'll be so pleased with the results that you'll just overlook it.** Ask the stylist to show you the first piece she cuts, so you have a chance to say, "No, that's too much."** Bring someone with you to watch the stylist trim. Ideally this should be someone with a big mouth who won't be afraid to speak up if two-inch chunks start landing on the cape.If they realize you're serious, most stylists won't go overboard. BTW, if someone cuts more than you explicitly told them to, you should refuse to pay.Ally
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>Hi JohannahMaybe you should let a friend do the trim for you, I mean a friend that you really trust. That would probably be a good idea. Good Luck! Tom
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