To ANY haircare professional

I'm sorry to say, but if you want to get rid of the split ends, you MUST cut, cut, cut. That's the only way you are going to get rid of those split ends. And I know you are trying to grow your hair out, but wouldnt you rather cut it and let it grow out healthy?

Hi,I am so sorry to hear of your problems. There is nothing worse than hair that will not cooperate. My hair goes nuts every once in awhile and for a variety of reasons. I understand how frustrating it is to spend lots of money on your hair and then still not have it do what you want.One thing that I always try when I am at my wits ends is olive oil conditioners. In fact I recently went to the most expensive day spa in Dallas and the hairstylist that I went to.....specifically for a head massage....told me that I should do a home olive oil treatment. It was amazing. Here was this guy that does very expensive hair treatments telling me to use plain old olive oil. But he is right. It works.In fact, I am currently out in Northern California on business (as I write this) and I have had a wonderful time doing hot oil treatments to my hair in the evenings. In fact, I called room service at my current hotel and asked them if I could get an order of olive oil with my dinner. I didn't bother to tell them WHY I wanted it or they would have thought me nuts...but anyway....I heated the olive oil by placing it in a bowl of very hot water and then dabbed it on my ends and middles of my hair. I braided my hair and left the braid in for 2 days. I pinned it up for my meetings and no one was the wiser..although I guess they are now. :-)I washed my hair and it turned out really soft and shiny..after 2 days of olive oil.However...I will say....that any chemical treatments can alter the hair so that it just does not feel right or act right until all the chemically treated parts grow out. I would suggest that you follow your heart and do what is best for you.If you feel that cutting it is the only way to feel better about your hair....do it. I know what it is like to have hair that just feel yucky.Split ends can never be repaired. To move ahead you have to have them trimmed. There is no other way.Try the olive oil treatments. All you need is extra virgin olive oil and a plastic shower cap. Heat the oil to warm...not hot...and apply to your damaged hair parts. Be careful not to apply to your scalp area though. I try to stay about 1 inch away from the scalp.If you have a clothes dryer, take a warm towel right out of the dryer and wrap over the plastic shower cap. Leave on your hair for at least 1 hour. Longer if you can. Then shampoo with a moisturizing shampoo. I have had great luck with Aveda Shampure, ARTec Smoothing and Aubrey Honeysuckle Rose. Then do a rinse out conditioner. I have also had great luck with Aveda Curressence, ARTec Smoothing and Aubrey Honeysuckle conditioners. Do a final rinse of cool/cold water which seals in all the good conditioning you have done...unless you have oily hair..then do warm rinse.Let you hair air dry and see what you think. If it still feels horrible to you or just not right...get it trimmed and start over.You have no idea how many private emails I get from people who have suffered hair damage as the result of chemical treatments that were not done properly (left on too long, not done by a skilled stylist, etc.,). So I have to warn people to be careful when they get any chemical service. Make sure that the person applying the chemical product is very experienced in what they are doing.The number one problem with chemicals is that they are left on the hair too long or they are too strong for the hair type.Hope that helps. Thanks for sharing with us. I totally understand your frustration. Remember, do what works best for you and your hair.Best wishes,Karen> I am about ready to cut it all off, I am so fed up> with my hair! I have baby-ed it with all kinds of> "Special professional" products (READ:> expensive), spent hours trimming my ends, even tried> regular store-bought vitamins ... I still have split> ends - on some strands even 3 splits in an area!! It's> true that I did get a perm, but that was over 6 months> ago! My hair is not growing and because of the split> ends, it gets shorter, which is NOT what I want. It> doesn't have much elasticity that I can see. But, in> all honesty, it doesn't look damaged or even feel> damaged. I cannot stand this - WHAT can I do? ps -> regular trimmings aren't working. Please respond.

>Ouch!!, I so sympathise my hair has a evil turn every 6 to 8 months of turning into dried up straw, so I do as Karen said & use olive oil (extra virgin- really light as I sleep with it in )I mix equal parts of olive & jojoba & gently work it through Dry hair then lightly brush & leave it on for at least 6 hours, then shampoo with a moisture shampoo & conditioner, I love Keune as it has Shea Butter, then if all else fails I get yet another trim, my hair was chemically damaged(over processed with a Tint of all things), it has taken me 2 years of hell & it still goes mad now & then- worse when I stress myself crazy (most of the time!!).Good Luck,Simone.(C).Hi,> I am so sorry to hear of your problems. There is> nothing worse than hair that will not cooperate. My> hair goes nuts every once in awhile and for a variety> of reasons. I understand how frustrating it is to> spend lots of money on your hair and then still not> have it do what you want.> One thing that I always try when I am at my wits ends> is olive oil conditioners. In fact I recently went to> the most expensive day spa in Dallas and the> hairstylist that I went to.....specifically for a head> massage....told me that I should do a home olive oil> treatment. It was amazing. Here was this guy that does> very expensive hair treatments telling me to use plain> old olive oil. But he is right. It works.> In fact, I am currently out in Northern California on> business (as I write this) and I have had a wonderful> time doing hot oil treatments to my hair in the> evenings. In fact, I called room service at my current> hotel and asked them if I could get an order of olive> oil with my dinner. I didn't bother to tell them WHY I> wanted it or they would have thought me nuts...but> anyway....I heated the olive oil by placing it in a> bowl of very hot water and then dabbed it on my ends> and middles of my hair. I braided my hair and left the> braid in for 2 days. I pinned it up for my meetings> and no one was the wiser..although I guess they are> now. :-)> I washed my hair and it turned out really soft and> shiny..after 2 days of olive oil.> However...I will say....that any chemical treatments> can alter the hair so that it just does not feel right> or act right until all the chemically treated parts> grow out. I would suggest that you follow your heart> and do what is best for you.> If you feel that cutting it is the only way to feel> better about your hair....do it. I know what it is> like to have hair that just feel yucky.> Split ends can never be repaired. To move ahead you> have to have them trimmed. There is no other way.> Try the olive oil treatments. All you need is extra> virgin olive oil and a plastic shower cap. Heat the> oil to warm...not hot...and apply to your damaged hair> parts. Be careful not to apply to your scalp area> though. I try to stay about 1 inch away from the> scalp.> If you have a clothes dryer, take a warm towel right> out of the dryer and wrap over the plastic shower cap.> Leave on your hair for at least 1 hour. Longer if you> can. Then shampoo with a moisturizing shampoo. I have> had great luck with Aveda Shampure, ARTec Smoothing> and Aubrey Honeysuckle Rose. Then do a rinse out> conditioner. I have also had great luck with Aveda> Curressence, ARTec Smoothing and Aubrey Honeysuckle> conditioners. Do a final rinse of cool/cold water> which seals in all the good conditioning you have> done...unless you have oily hair..then do warm rinse.> Let you hair air dry and see what you think. If it> still feels horrible to you or just not right...get it> trimmed and start over.> You have no idea how many private emails I get from> people who have suffered hair damage as the result of> chemical treatments that were not done properly (left> on too long, not done by a skilled stylist, etc.,). So> I have to warn people to be careful when they get any> chemical service. Make sure that the person applying> the chemical product is very experienced in what they> are doing.> The number one problem with chemicals is that they are> left on the hair too long or they are too strong for> the hair type.> Hope that helps. Thanks for sharing with us. I totally> understand your frustration. Remember, do what works> best for you and your hair.> Best wishes,> Karen

> I am about ready to cut it all off, I am so fed up> with my hair! I have baby-ed it with all kinds of> "Special professional" products (READ:> expensive), spent hours trimming my ends, even tried> regular store-bought vitamins ... I still have split> ends - on some strands even 3 splits in an area!! It's> true that I did get a perm, but that was over 6 months> ago! My hair is not growing and because of the split> ends, it gets shorter, which is NOT what I want. It> doesn't have much elasticity that I can see. But, in> all honesty, it doesn't look damaged or even feel> damaged. I cannot stand this - WHAT can I do? ps -> regular trimmings aren't working. Please respond.I hope this might help you....after working for many years as a professional I have seen just about everything! You have mention in great lengths many problems with your hair which sounds as if your health could be a issue...have you had your thyroid check or perhaps had stress such as death in the family, divorce, etc., all plays a very important role in our hair; diet is very important. Your new growth should be normal even tho' your ends still might be splitting due to damage from a chemical product, throughout this board I have noticed alot of complaining of chemcial products damaging the hair.....if the stylist keeps your hair ph balanced in between chemcial services this would not happen. If you are just going for color, perm. foil etc. and have not condition you hair with protein and moisture before your service this is not the stylist problem...we cannot help if you don't tell us what you have been doing with your hair. I always have a consultation before I do any services to anyone .... this is very important! What your friend did to your hair 3 months ago still is going to be in the hair shaft....what you used to shampoo or condition will also help the stylist understand....we are trained to help YOU! Many facets play into a person's crown of glory...good luck to you!

Vanessa is it that you want to know how to do the twist deal that every one does? Well I am going to tell you the best that I can. the way that I do it is:1. part your hair down the middle. 2. spray it with hair sray at the part.3. then part it again on the side and make a big chunk of hair spray it and twist it tightly and do the same on the other side. I usually do four of them two on top and two on the side. USE ALOT OF HAIR SPRAY TO MAKE IT STAY Oh I forgot the most important part. To make it stay put boby pins inside of the twist from the back of your twist. I tryed the best I could. hey e-mail me if you don't understand ok. Amanda. Michigan> DO YOU KNOW HOW TO DO TWISTIES