just CANNOT find the right hair product (PLZ HELP PLZ PLZ PLZ)

ok- i have pretty short hair- bout 1 1/2- 2 in on front. o yea-i`m a guy, 2. now, you know how when ur in the shower and u put shampoo on ur hair (purt plus, btw), you can fully mold your hair to the desired hairstyle. i mean, like you are able to FULLY mold ur hair any way u like in the shower w/shampoo. does anyone know of any hair products that have this "shampoo" effect? i mean, i use like "ULTRA SUPER MEGA-HOLD" gel and i still dont get the desired control. i want a product that will mesh my hair any way i choose and keep it up. and i have no clue in the field of hair products,like "pomades" and such. but ANY help would be fine

-o yea, and is it true that if you put 2 much gel on ur hair every day your hair will fall out when ur older bcuz of it?

I think I am going to get me some Frizz-Ease the next time that I am at CVS. I`ve heard so many things about it, so I guess the only way I will now is if I try it for myself. :)

Paul Mitchell makes this stuff...but Im not sure what its called. My brother uses it and its supposed to be something like glue. Its in a glue bottle. If im not mistaken it says Lab on the front. You may want to check this out because it works great for him.