feeling depressed

I'm sorry to hear you feel so bad. I understand. I had to get an ear length cut a couple of years ago, and I prefer mine long too. It's still not to it's former length. I didn't feel like I looked good at all with the short hair, and people even seemed to treat me worse!
But you know what I realized? People can somehow sense how you feel about yourself, and if you feel you don't look good, or don't have confidence in yourself, they can pick up on it (I don't know how, but they do). Then they kick you right when you're down because they sense you won't fight back. I guess when you're underconfident, your mannerisms change or something and people pick up on it without realizing it.

Well, I know you didn't say anything about that for you, but my point is - it does suck right now that it had to happen, and you have every right to be mad at the sylist who did that, but it will grow back eventually. No point in letting it ruin your life.

Try to have fun with it while you've got it, wear styles you couldn't wear with long hair, try straightening it,...if you're going to be stuck with it, you may as well try to have some fun with it. Hope you feel better soon.

Sorry to hear yet another hairdresser lost her cool. Take good care of your hair (condition a lot - wil remove the coarseness and the waves a bit). Use wax or a hair gum to style and protect your hair at the same time. Have a lot of patience. Try experimenting a bit like Susan said too, making the most of what you've got (left).

It is OK to feel bad about a disaster haircut. That's only human. But don't start to feel bad about feeling bad. Do some harmless fun stuff with your hair and feel better about it. Never forget, your hair is only a small part of your image towards society. The haircut can be awful, the person on the inside doesn't have to be. Tame the wild hair until it's long again, let the beast on the inside out in the mean while.

thanks everyone - i really appreciate the replies. sorry to hear u guys had to go thru the same ordeal, but @ the same time, makes me feel much less alone in all my grief & sadness; gee u'd think i was in mourning for a dead relative or something!!!
it's been a week now since the Big Hack - feels like a year!!! - and i ran crazily around the house this a.m. in search of a ruler to see how substantial an 1/8 of an inch is!!! (@ least 1/2 in. a month, right??) ...
still stuck in sad, obsessive, self-pity mode (baaad), & altho i cried a teenyweeny bit when woke this morning to see my already-short layers scrunched up even shorter due to bed head, is getting a bit easier now to accept that what's-done is-done...altho i still loathe to leave the house, which kills me, cos it's usually the opposite when i have a good cut; i feel confident & sexy & want to show myself off to the world!! ordinarily i would go back to the salon to complain (am a great believer in doing so) but i just don't see the pt this time 'round.
i know she's basically a good stylist - i've seen her work on some of my friends & she's got a solid reputation in the city (for whatever that's worth...). & besides, i noticed she's quite ... ohhowshallwesay ....****y, loud & domineering...so if i were to go back, she'd probably just insist/demand that i don't appreciate a good cut (she said it was a 'shag', but i look more like carol brady or keith partridge, circa 1974).
she's not the owner, but somehow she seems to run the place. hmmm.
have decided am not going NEAR a salon for @ least 6months ... a year ... maybe 10. hell, maybe i'll just buy a shack in the woods & let my hair grow down to my knees.
i plan to up my cardio, cut out sugar, re-invest in yoga classes (stress can't be good for the scalp!!), O.D. on kelp & brewer's yeast (mmmmm), give myself a 2X daily head massage & purchase some 'hair supplements' - has anyone tried hair formula 37? - to see if that gives my growth cycle a boost (please please please oh please).
basically, my entire life will revolve around my hair... now how sad is THAT.
anyway, rambling here. thanks for all your advice & words of comfort!!! v. much appreciated!!

hey susan ... yes i should say something, but i just feel way too intimidated this time 'round...& i think it'd pretty much be an exercise in futility, seeing that she seems to be revered as a goddess in that place. i dunno ...
but thanks.

Sorry to hear about your mishap too! Is there anything you can do to make it a better cut?  Go for a different style?  I know that would be scary after such a bad experience at one salon, I don't know if I would risk it either personally, but if you feel so bad it might be worth considering if there's a chance it can make you feel good about yourself again.

As for making hair grow faster...there isn't a lot you can do as you already know, but increasing your amount of exercise a little may help some, and making sure your diet is balanced helps too.  Take a multivitamin a day if you don't already (just make sure not to overdo the vitamins, too much of some is dangerous and can cause hair loss).  Some people also take hair vitamins containing biotin (I didn't find they had any effect on me, but some people swear by them). 
Good luck!

If you feel beautiful, you will look beautiful, no matter what your hair looks like.

Hi Violet,

So sorry to hear of your bad haircut. That sucks.  But you seem to have the right attitude about what to do.  I like the fact that you are going to wear it down every day and show it off.  You might take this opportunity to play with different styles that you might have avoided when your hair was a lot longer.  And I know I sound like a broken record, but hair accessories and headwear can be so much fun and really create a whole new look.  When I recently went through a horrible hair coloring event, I wore a variety of caps for a few days to cover up the color and I got lots of compliments and had fun.  I don't normally wear caps but I wore them and I also wore those long goofproof scarves that Britney and Jessica like to wear.  I got some big sunglasses just like their and viola, I was incognito and having a blast.

Hang in there.  Keep coming back and posting here so we can cheer you up and hear about your growing back journey.

Best wishes,

Karen

i'm so so sorry, i completely know how you feel, my hair went orange/red/grey, etc. then they cut it short to get rid of the damaged hair, depressed...... definately.  hang in there, try to wear your hair tied back if you can, use a lot of gel thats what i do to keep it in place because its soo short.  you are not alone, hang in there!!  men are so lucky, they never have these problems!