How to make my hair behave like white hair

I know he was not talking to you ( at Sugar) and I admit that he was rude...that question I asked was towards Layla cause she thought he was calling her a sellout. I really don't nkow who he was talking to but maybe the moderators can edit him out.

I had a coworker who had her hair flat ironed at a shop I think it was every one - two weeks and it was straight and bouncy just like caucasian hair. AND it was soft, shiny and healthy looking. She wrapped it at night in between appointments. I don't know if she was using any moisterizers or other products in between visits but you may want to find a shop or stylist who is bouncy-hair friendly for advice. HTH!!!

Racism never fails to disappoint me.

This last attack applies as much to me as it does to the original poster. This will be the second board I have left because of this kind of racism. So to all of you who think that everyone should stop styling their hair and just “go natural”, how many of you have dreads? Because after all, is not that hair in its natural state? To demand what I have read here is elitist at best and fascist at worst. I want nothing to do with either and find it sickening that a simple question became a soapbox for limited minds. There is a “Hair Politics” section that would have left those of us interested in hair care out of your negativity, you know.

It's not even funny that ALL other racial groups get along and band together to lift themselves up. Only blacks rip each other apart. It's f*cking sickening ...Martin Luther King, Jr and Malcom X are turmning in their graves right now. Slaves didn't die learning how to read and write for us to do this to one another.

You have no call to be offended. Perhaps she's like me, someone who had primarily white friends due to the neighborhood she lived in and wished that her hair was more like theirs. Or maybe she doesn't know how to manage her African-American hair as is and wants it to be easier to comb or style, like her friends' hair seems to be. But that's certainly no reason for you to call her a sellout.

I'm not ashamed of being black, nor am I trying to demean my race. I simply A) have a mother who has NO idea what to do with my hair, and therefore i have no idea how to handle it B) live in the suburbs with almost nothing but white people who can't help me either, and C) I'm only 13 and haven't had much time to learn 2 deal with it, especially since it's been in braids most of my life. Rather than insulting both me and my question, why not help me? My hair is down 2 my shoulders and I would truly appreciate any styling tips.(not dreads)

I'm mixed race myself and I understand the hair thing. Actually, mine is in between. It's strong, moderately thick and wavy/curly. It straightens rather easily with a brush and a hair dryer then a pass from a hot comb(my arms get tired by the end, though).

My older cousin that did my hair as a child is puerto rican and black, and what she does to her hair is called "training" it. She dries it with the dryer with the comb attachment, presses it and then wraps it at night. It is very straight and has great body. She takes care of it very well, which is what you want to do if you wish to have healthy hair, no matter what your background is. Have someone take you to get it professionally done every 6-8 weeks if you have it relaxed and maybe every 4 weeks if you get it hotcombed. Make sure that you wrap it every night before you go to bed (and in the shower). As you get older, you will be able to take care of it yourself more and more, even relaxing/hotcombing it yourself.

Feel free to email me if you need anything.

P.S. Walmart actually has a GREAT electric hotcomb that I use. Heats up fast, you can control the heat. It was around $15 and you can use it for touchups. You also might consider the Japanese straightening. My friend's daughter is mixed and had it done. His wife is black and she couldn't work with her hair, either. I don't do it because I like the natural wavy curls I have. Easy in the summer to wash and go. But other than summer, straight for me...