Help, individual strands rebel (pics)

 back side

 back side (day later, wore headphones)

I want to grow my hair out a bit buts its really hard for me. Seperate hair stands do their own thing and go their own directions. (are some even growing at different rates??) anyway, even some hairs tips seem to have been bent off in another direction from its growing path... kind of like an "L" or "J" at a lesser angle (damaged hair?).. ive tried several shampoos, conditioners that help various types: dry hair, unmanagable, frizzy, etc. If its dry, i try not to wash too much but then my scalp stinks and its yucky. its also a little coarse, i live in NJ so the weather varies and im 16

so really what im asking is what type of hair do i have and how to i solve it.. and maybe what styling products do you recommend

i wanna try to get one of these styles (preferably first two) :

 

 

thnx in advance

Edited by Indolence

Yeah, that happens to me too! though i'm a girl and it only happens on top of my head where the hairs are shorter, those guys in the picture look like they have pretty long hair, so i'd say grow ur hair out longer so they're weighted down and if that doesn't work i guess u could use a heavy wax, becuase i assume you have pretty thick/heavy hair. lol,  my advise is bad, but it i use a heavy smoothing creme but i think a heavy styling wax will do the same. Good luck!