Need help with Frizzy, Curly, Twisty Hair

My hair has gone crazy. I have rebellious hair strands that do random things. Some hair strands are:

really thin, and stick up for no reason

some are culry, making shapes like the letters C, S, and J

some are twisty and have the consistency of cassette tape when i run my thumb and pointer finger through them and have the curly features above.. there was once a strand that was repeating S's stacked end to end but the frequency got smaller towards the tip.. like one of those wave and frequency monitors.

some are "everything" with the twisty feeling and actually twist around and curl and even bend like the letter L

the crazy thing is that my hair strands are in snyc for example, some of my bang strands curl to the left, to the right, near the tip, or near the root. same thing goes with the hair near my neck which is like 1/2 inch and they have this patchy feeling (frizz?) to them and to go all over the place, not straight or curl in snyc.

also when i get out of the shower, how should i dry my hair using a towel? should i rub on a circle, run the towel like with fingers through my hair, dry it until its 75% dry, or completely dry? or anything? either way, when i get of the shower, my hair is wet yet there are ALWAYS curly hair strands sticking up. its like as if those hair strands didnt even get wet

how do i solve these problems without shaving my whole head? like specific shampoos and conditioners but how would i use multiple products at one setting?