my asian hair thickness

i know this might be discussed a few times, but im an asian guy with thick hair.

i've been growing my hair out, and the hair on my sides stand out. i thought that as my hair grew out, it would go down. but i was wrong, as my thick hair makes it stand outwards. the hair all around my head also stands because of it's thickness.

im a little new to this, so i don't really know what to do with my hair.d i've tried gelling it down a few times, doesn't look good.

every morning in the shower, i use a neutrogena anti-dandruff, and then i use a shampoo + conditioner. after i blow dry my hair.

so what can i do/stop doing to make my hair thinner, or not stand up?

thanks i'll try it out

so if i use cream, can i stylize my hair so that the hair won't stick together like spikes, but will stay seperate?

I dont think there's much you can do about it other than the advice everyone said. my hair used to be long and thick and I wanted it soft, but the only thing you can do is condition it a lot but when it gets dry it will be hard again.

worse comes to worse, you can get extensions to the length you want and only worry about your "real" hair which is just a few inches around your face.

o god
my mom convinced me to go thin out my hair
after i did it, it looked HORRIBLE
the guy gave me wax to style it with
but its just horrible
i should've never even thought about doing this..
now i have to wait for it to grow out again if it even grows out the same way
it really looks like it's just been cut shorteri shoulda listened to ya
the thick hair actually looked really nice
it stuck out in the back, and the sides werent really sticking out anymore
but yeah.. i don't have to repeat how horrible it really looks

note to people wanting to grow out their hair: NEVER THIN IT!