QuoteReplyTopic: Etiquette Q: customer "taking a break" from salon? Posted: September 17 2003 at 9:45am
OK, folks, here is your Miss Manners bonus question of the day. Please answer in character.
Dear Miss Manners,
I am a middle aged white male professional. As part of my mid-life crises, I have decided to grow out my middle-aged-white-male-professional short haircut to a longer and more expressive style. To do so, I stopped going to neighborhood barbershops for $15 haircuts, and started going to the fancy salon my wife patronizes for $55 styling appointments. After many regular styling appointments over the months, and much buying of expensive hair goop, My hair is currently longer than it has been in 20 years, and it is obvious to the people at the salon (who know me, my wife, our friends, etc.) that I am working hard to maintain it and am enjoying having this new 'do.
Here is my dilemma: The next part of my mid-life crises will involve me, once the hair growth has been deemed sufficient, being rather severely shorn in the privacy of my own home. After this I will want to return my patronage to the salon, which I enjoy visiting, but feel that perhaps an explanation of some sort might be in order.
How does one balance this against the desire to keep one's private activities private? How much communication is not enough? How much is too much?
Thank you for your assistance in resolving this dilemma.
Mr. Happy. My goodness gracious guy!!! It's your bleeping hair!!! You don't owe anyone an explanation. Geezz Louise Mr. Happy. Be like your name; be happy. It ain't any of there d&@# business how you cut your hair. Just go into the salon when you feel like it!
Bellieve me, they won't care. They have other things to worry about other than your hair.
tina
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Nosy as stylists are, they probably would ask who cut it and why. It's just up to you whether you want to answer, and how. If it were me, I'd probably make up something about a fight with a rabid sheep or something, but that's just quirky me. You could say anything you want, or nothing at all. *shrugs* It's not really their business, either way.
Thanks for the comments. Allow me to clarify. I AM happy, as my name would imply. I asked the question not because I am uptight about it, but simply to get other people's input. The reality is this: I have extremely strong feelings about getting my haircut. You want to call it a fetish? Go right ahead, that's how I describe it to my shrink.
Since this is a forum about hair, I feel OK sharing with all of you that I am, indeed, a hair fetishist. And I know that this isn't a fetish board. But the information above is critical in asking my etiquitte question.
And so the question is really this: I really WANT to share (with whomever would listen) that I, a middle aged, professionally employed guy, am intentionally growing my hair long purely for the pleasure of the experience of having it cut short. But I do not know what is "appropriate polite conversation," because ANYTYHING about this area has an erotic charge for me. Since I have never known when I am "crossing the line" in terms of sharing too much information, I have always erred on the side of privacy. To the point where for all practical purposes I am "in the closet" about my fascination with haircuts, as I have been for the past 30 years.
There are places where topics like this can be discussed among adults. Like here. I am assuming that, within some appropriate limits, a salon is a place where one might be able to admit to a bit of pleasure with one's hair. I do not have a clue what those limits might look like. I have the social grace of a horny 12 year old when it comes to this topic, and am looking for guidance from you, the community of people who are interested in hair.
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