Hair Color and Style

i need help with my hair i colored it myself and it came out way too dark so i went and had it lightened a bit in a salon and they put a color over it well the color was lighter at the root and darker at the ends and the front was still dark but the middle of the hair was light. So i waited and it washed out some but it still was not even So i went to another salon and they put a semiperm color over the whole head andthe color was darker but not as dark as when I first started. But now i have this red violet in my hair all i wanted was a normal golden brown shade or my natural color with a few med color hilites I hate my hair INEED HELP NOW!!!!