Dont touch my hair!!!

After reading everyones posts in various topics I wondered how many of us are sensitive to others touching our hair. I for one dont mind someone playing with it if they are gentile and not attempting to twist it or braid it tightly.

I dont like it when somoen wants to style it but is very rough...I get very possesive and nervous...usualy i end up putting it in a quick bun to prevent them from further playing but sometiems I feel its too rude to say stop.

Around little kids I have to keep it up. Icky sticky fingers pulling and twisting and breaking my hair!!

As for adults being rough, its no wonder their own hair is brittle and dry. i see so many people treating it baddly and useing every product out there to kill it (hairspray, brushing hard and fast to get tangles out, hot irons and blowdryers, tight braids and tighter rubber bands, dyes and beleachings).

Is anyone else here really protective of others playign with their hair? Its sometimes nice too.

i love when my husband play, touches are massage my hair. he has this way he will lightly touch the top of my hair. kind of stoking it. awww it feels so gooood! also he is good at combing my hair out gently.

I can understand your desire to keep unwanted fingers out of your hair. I quite often complment women with very long hair but I won't just touch because it is personal space. If invited I will touch but not pull and only a couple seconds. Often I will graciously decline and tell them I just wanted to let them know it looks great. I expect respect from my friends, therefore it would be rude for me not to respect strangers (or new friends).
I still do the weights and often I have had women start touching either my arms, back or waist uninvited and I reply, do I know you? because despite what some women think, some men do not welcome uninvited touching.
I must admit though, that when I give a trim to a long haired female friend I enjoy the combing, brushing and will check the ends multiple times taking off less than a millimeter. I am not scissor happy and one friend says I am a perfectionist about her ends and wouldn't let anyone else near her with scissors. Another friend jokes that she knows I do her trims on her mid thigh length hair just because I like to play with it, but it is OK with her because she knows I would never cut off too much and she always knows the ends will be done right. I have told her multiple times if she thinks I am playing with it too much, she can go to a salon. She tells me that's OK, she is only joking and reminds me that she has no intention of letting a salon touch it. She is also a friend that if I am supposed to trim her hair and we get into a conversation on something else over coffee, she will remind me straight out she needs a trim and the conversation can continue, WHILE I trim her hair. I don't know what it is but long haired women just seem more interesting to be around to me. Maybe it is because they feel more confident about their appearance and do not need to play games. At the same time if I ever started to push a long haired friend to cut her hair short or got scissor happy, I know I would quickly lose a valued friendship.
P.S. I am a married man of 15 + years and my beautiful, long haired wife doesn't mind if I give trims to mutual friends. She has joked that if she ever comes home and sees me with a beautiful long haired woman, I had better be giving her a trim. What a gal.

Well said Wuvie!

I had my first experience of this kind just today! Some idiot I barely know and haven't seen for years snuck up behind me when I was on line and yanked my ponytail hard enough to snap my head back! He thought he was flattering me, so he didn't apologize. Such grade-school behavior for an educated professional.

Trouble is, if some woman offered to smack him with her braid, he'd enjoy it, the creep! Shiver

I was thinking, unjustifiably so because I was very tearful and angry, that maybe I should have worn my hair differently or taken hubby with me. Too bad I feel I have to modify my hairstyle and habits because I can't count on some folks to behave themselves. This situation makes me grateful to those who truly know how to give a compliment.

I haven't been here in a while, hope everyone is okay.

Jean

3katz wrote: I had my first experience of this kind just today! Some idiot I barely know and haven't seen for years snuck up behind me when I was on line and yanked my ponytail hard enough to snap my head back! He thought he was flattering me, so he didn't apologize. Such grade-school behavior for an educated professional. Trouble is, if some woman offered to smack him with her braid, he'd enjoy it, the creep! Shiver I was thinking, unjustifiably so because I was very tearful and angry, that maybe I should have worn my hair differently or taken hubby with me. Too bad I feel I have to modify my hairstyle and habits because I can't count on some folks to behave themselves. This situation makes me grateful to those who truly know how to give a compliment. I haven't been here in a while, hope everyone is okay. Jean

Hi Jean!

I too have been away for too long... I've just been busy as heck lately!

The idiot who gave your ponytail a hard yank deserved a tongue lashing. Don't be afraid to tell him that his action was not appreciated. Also, you should not feel compelled to change your hairstyle simply because he did what he did! If this incident occurred in the workplace, you could tell him that if he doesn't refrain from doing any such stupid thing again, you'll be speaking with Human Resources about his harassment of you. That oughta wake him up, in case your other sharp words weren't enough to do so.

Good luck!

I hate the "giddyup! " move people pull! I REALLY hate it. Especialy since when my hair was really long a braid or two braids was most practical. UGH! To me it always felt like an insult, like i was being treated like a beast of burden (i do like horses but i dont like being made into the image of one...they are not my animal).

the people who do this most often are closer friends...in particular the one who always says her hair would be as long as mine in a year (hA!). She really has no concept of personal space and etiquette. A strange breed she is.