MY HAIR CAUSES ME STRESS!!!

If this doesn`t help, I`m getting a buzz cut and walking around looking like I did when I was 3 months old!
I am 48 years old, I had a right hemisphere stroke in 1998. My hair was fine and thin before my stroke, but I was good at making people think I had more hair than I did.
Now my hair is fine, thin, has no body or shine, AND is falling out. It doesn`t help that I can only use my right hand to style my hair. I`ve tried tons of stuff, but noting works. I blow dry my hair to fluff it up a bit, but it`s sagging in 5 minutes. I do take quite a bit of medicine for my condition, but my Doctor assures me that the medicine is not responsible for my hair loss!
I`m looking for volumne, like every othe woman in my position. I`m also looking for a bit of strength and a good super hold hair spray. I am seriously considering a very weak perm so my fuzz will hold a bit of a curl.
Any ideas will be greatly appreciated. When I look at my brush or in the bathroom sink, I wonder how Yul Brenner and Telly Savalas managed to survive?
Sue