Women over 40: Why do you cut it?

Why do women over 40 cut their hair? For me, and for a lot of men, nothing is more beautiful than an older woman with shoulder length hair or longer, epecially if it's tied up in a ponytail with a scrunchie or if it's worn loose.I think, and I think a lot of men feel the same way, that even with gray hair - especially with gray hair - women look so much more feminine when they grow it longer.So if there's any older women out there who think they need to cut their hair just because of their age - you don't! :)

> Some women have this idea that they will look younger if they cut their hair. Personally I always say when a woman cut her hair at 40 she just announce to the community that she turned 40.Not that it looks bad or anything of the sort but it is common.Also society gives us this message and the family. I am 38 and I have lots of commnents of the sorts.Some women really want to stay young as long as they can.

Hi Kim,This society is> so preoccupied with youth, and yet when you reach a> certain age, what is perceived as a> "youthful" haircut is looked down upon.Actually, kind of the opposite. Sometimes the shorter length actually looks more youthful than the longer hair.Long hair lengthens the face. If a woman has the start of lines between her nose and mouth, the hair accentuates the lines, hence making her look older. This is not true for everyone, but for several women it is. Some women may look younger with longer hair, and some may look younger with shorter hair.Also, as we graduate into new transitions in life (at certain ages or having a baby), we like new looks.

I am 40 and a few months back cut my near waist length hair off to top of shoulder length because I feel more appropriate. I do not look 40 in my face but do have some silver streaks so I felt it would look better for me to have a style I would feel good about. I actually have had more compliments on my hair since my cut and recently had someone say the silver looks like I had it frosted on the sides instead of just graying hair.(I leave it hang down much more nowadays) Long hair can look great silver.. but you have to be happy at heart to wear it like that. It's not for everyone..but hey, I feel my shoulder length hair is long for my age so it's all relative. Anyway... I wanted to pop on board to say hi to everyone.. with Tropical storm Dennis upon us, our boat is put away and I am back at the pc.. nice to see posts from Jennifer Eve!! Hello Jennifer! I hope the TLHS email list is hopping. take care everyone.. best regards Cher~Why do women over 40 cut their hair? For me, and for a> lot of men, nothing is more beautiful than an older> woman with shoulder length hair or longer, epecially> if it's tied up in a ponytail with a scrunchie or if> it's worn loose.> I think, and I think a lot of men feel the same way,> that even with gray hair - especially with gray hair -> women look so much more feminine when they grow it> longer.> So if there's any older women out there who think they> need to cut their hair just because of their age - you> don't! :)

How is it that you know the intimate beauty routines of (it seems) nearly all the women in your town? And, if I'm not mistaken, you live in a small town, so how is it that there are so many middle-aged ladies with ultra-long hair living there?Is there something in the water in Norfolk that makes hair grow long and makes the average husband a slave to his wife's hair?Really, I am just very curious as I'm sure many others are here, as well.

> Mark.. you are more than free to have your own opinion..but length of hair varies from woman to woman and her appearance at middle age. I have seen some silver haired ladies who desparately needed to do something with themselves.. then quite the opposite, I have seen women who were stunning with very long hair. One of the things that turned me off with the Long Hair site is the length of hair that rates being called LOng.. If my husband were to sport the length of hair I have now.. he would look like he needed to visit a barber asap. I did not feel good about myself with waist length hair with silver all mixed in. I felt I needed to do something with it all the time. either braiding or putting it in a bun. Plus, as I have said many times on the TLHS email list, we do alot of boating and very long hair just didn't fit in. So, please do not group all middle aged women into one mold and say all should have waist length hair at least. It's quite irritating. I am an advocate of long hair on women.. but long varies.. I think shoulder length hair is long but just not very long, of course. I could easily grow my hair to the floor if I wanted to.. it grows like a weed. But you have to feel good about yourself with your given hairstyle or depression or a feeling of being unattractive sets in. That's how it got with me.. I think some of the men here are quite suppressive in their attitude. I am glad I am married to a man who loves me and not my hair length only.. wouldn't that be quite shallow? He would love for me to grow it super long but like he says..: if mama ain't happy.. ain't nobody happy.. take care.. and remember long hair comes in many lengths.. Cher~40 look great with long hair. The ladies in my town,> have gotten far more good compliments when they did> grow> out there thick heavy silver waist length hair.> For most ladies over 40,growing out thick,heavy,waist> length hair,can be the best female experience a lady> can have. A ladies long hair is an artistic> enhancement> of the female identity. Many other older ladies are> just> jealous of those older ladies with waist length hair.> The older ladies with waist length hair look so> pretty,> to men. Many female beauticians,love to chop any lady> with long hair,they are jealous of the older ladies> long> hair. Horace,their are a lot of men in the United> States> that just love waist length hair on ladies over fifty.> My lady friend Linda,who is age 50,has grown her> thick,> heavy,brown hair for eight years. My lady friend has> very> pretty,beautiful,magnificent and thick brown waist> length> hair at age 50,and she is very proud of it. Horace I> agree with you one hundred percent.

> Cher, I do apologize to you. I misunderstood you.I thought you had cut you hair down to very short.Yes,shoulder length long hair sounds good. I certainlycan see trimming your hair down to shoulder length,CherI misunderstood what you said,and I do apologize to you.Even if your hair grows like a weed,consider yourselflucky. There are some ladies who love fast growing hair,Cher. It seems that ladies,appreicate their hair far better,after suffering total hair loss from chemotherapy.Other ladies have real slow growing hair,with stuntedgrowth,that is will never get long. These ladies wouldlike to have the rapid hair growth that you have,Cher.I think a lady can use shoulder length hair,as an artisticenhancement of ladies female identity.

No problem.. And I do consider myself blessed withmy hair.. and feel for the ones whose hair takes an eternity to grow or have gone through an illness where their hair has suffered. I can quite understand hair loss.I went through water damage.. so I can identify.take care.. Cher~I thought you had cut you hair down to very short.> Yes,shoulder length long hair sounds good. I certainly> can see trimming your hair down to shoulder> length,Cher> I misunderstood what you said,and I do apologize to> you.> Even if your hair grows like a weed,consider yourself> lucky. There are some ladies who love fast growing> hair,> Cher. It seems that ladies,appreicate their hair far> better,after suffering total hair loss from> chemotherapy.> Other ladies have real slow growing hair,with stunted> growth,that is will never get long. These ladies would> like to have the rapid hair growth that you have,Cher.> I think a lady can use shoulder length hair,as an> artistic> enhancement of ladies female identity.

> Why do women over 40 cut their hair? For me, and for a> lot of men, nothing is more beautiful than an older> woman with shoulder length hair or longer, epecially> if it's tied up in a ponytail with a scrunchie or if> it's worn loose.> I think, and I think a lot of men feel the same way,> that even with gray hair - especially with gray hair -> women look so much more feminine when they grow it> longer.> So if there's any older women out there who think they> need to cut their hair just because of their age - you> don't! :)personally, i intend to be the crazy old lady in the nursing home with 4 foot long hair tied up in a bun on my head!