Growing my hair... need help!

foxfan318 wrote: FRUGiHOYi wrote: I would say my hair is probably about as wavy as it can be without being curly. I don't know about individual strands. I don't know how I would be able to tell if it's fine, medium, coarse... When I had my long hair, I think when I tied it back, it thick. I know it wasn't thin. You know what, here's a picture: OK, I addition to the advice that has been given, I want to thank you for adding a picture of your hair. Your hair type is very similar to my husbands. He too had to cut it. Plain and simple - he and I were both growing our hair out. We both had a tendency to get frustrated and cut it off - so the "Race to the Butt" was born. Whoever got butt-length hair first had to take the other out to dinner of the winner's choice. Then the horrible day came. His workplace hired a consultant to come in and give them pointers on how to improve their image. (Bear in mind this is a motorcycle shop and most of the customers have long hair, piercings, tattoos, etc.) The first thing the consultant said was hubby's hair had to go. He had been working for them for seven years with long hair - broke every sales record that they had, and also had customers that would only work with him. If they drove by and hubby's truck wasn't in the lot they would come back when his truck was there. Well, hubby was told right there on the spot by his boss -- If you don't come to work tomorrow with your hair above the collar of your shirt, don't bother coming in. That night, I cut his "bra-length" hair off. Within a week, mine was gone too. Now, he works for another motorcycle shop in town and a lot of his old customers have found him at the new locale. (The old boss lost sales of over $38,000 a month with one manufacturer alone.) His hair isn't as long as it used to be because it's a sore issue with him. I can, however, give you tips on how he takes care of it. His hair is somewhat coarse, curly, and oily at the root. If he doesn't keep it washed, it turns into an oil slick rather quickly. The bottom half of his hair tends to be dry and frizzy more often than not. He washes his scalp and conditions his hair. In other words, work the mild shampoo into your scalp. In reality that is the only place that really needs it. Then, he smooths the lather over his hair and lets it set. In the meantime he shaves, soaks, etc. Only need to leave it on for about a min or so. Rinse. Then apply conditioner. You want to use a mild, light conditioner so you don't weigh your hair down. Like I mentioned before, his hair tends to be oily at the scalp, and dry coarse and frizzy from mid-way down to the ends. Heavy conditioners tend to make the hair oily if you aren't careful. For conditioning, start at about ear level, smooth down to the ends of the hair, and then whatever extra you have, start at the front hairline and smooth your hands over that area. If you just run your fingers through your hair a few times that should do it. Rinse with cool water. Get in the habit of removing rings, bracelets, watch, etc. Also keep your nails cared for so you don't have rough edges. Snagging your hair on theses items while washing/conditioning can lead to split ends and breakage. One day he ran out of his own styling creme and grabbed mine. I use Matrix Sleek Look products for my fine, thick, board-straight hair. He discovered that the Creme Extreme worked great for keeping his curls under control. Now, he uses that for his hair styling product. hth, trix btw, I also use pureHAIR products in my rotation.

I know I don't know all the details you do, but my first instinct is to say that your husband shouldn't have cut his hair, and quit if he had to. If he was that good of a worker, they would regret losing him if he left (and I'm sure they did).

Anyway, the difference with my hair is that it isn't oily at all; it's very dry all over.

Do you have any recommendations for conditioners?

Thank you.