Short Spiky Hair Trying to Grow Long

Hey there, i currently have short spiky hair which i gel like everyday i no its not good for my hair but what can i do. Anyways when i dont gel my hair its all puffy , i have straight hair though, and when it grows a little bit longer and i don't gel it instead of flating out a little it still stands up ... it makes me mad so im trying to grow my hair, and i am of Asian decent, pakistani to be excat, and i don't no a good hair style that would look good on a person like me. If you have any ideas that could help, please tell me, pictures would be VERY helpful. Thank-you