Does anyone here have a wife/girlfriend with short hair?
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Topic: Does anyone here have a wife/girlfriend with short hair?
Posted By: Unregistered Guest
Subject: Does anyone here have a wife/girlfriend with short hair?
Date Posted: October 06 2003 at 9:39am
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Just curious: How many people who write here, have significant others with short hair. What type of short hair does your lady wear? My wife has had very short hair for nearly two years now;----- from a short bob to a pixie to her current super-short crewcut style hairdo. Very feminine women look so very good with short hairdos! |
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Posted By: Ellestin
Date Posted: October 06 2003 at 1:39pm
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My girlfriend wears her hair more or less short for three years, but is intending to grow it out to her shoulders. The shortest she had it was cropped almost to her scalp, and my favourite style was an auburn-dyed short pixie ------------- |
Posted By: Debbie
Date Posted: October 06 2003 at 6:59pm
| Brent, How short is your wifes hair excactly? I wear mine in a 1/4 inch buzzcut - my husband doesnot write on here, so I thought I would answer. I was just curious if she likes it as much as you do? Thanks! Debbie |
Posted By: tina m
Date Posted: October 06 2003 at 9:25pm
Wow Debbie! I knew you had short hair but I didn't realize that you wore a buzzcut! That's REALLY short girl!!! And I thought my hair was short!Hair that short must be really easy to take care of Debbie. You don't even need to brush it or style it! You said you are married Debbie. What does your husband think of you wearing a buzzcut? Did he ask you to cut it that short or did you just get it cut that short because you wanted it that short? How long have you been wearing a buzzcut Debbie? |
Posted By: IfOnly
Date Posted: October 07 2003 at 1:09am
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My wife currently has a short crop growing out from a short pixie. Before that it was a Louise Brooks bob. I've helped her grow it out any number of times over the past ten years and she has let me cut it into any number of bobs, crops and pixies. After Christmas she wants to grow it out long, so the current crop (cap cut) is the last hurrah for a while for me. I'm hoping she might keep it in a lip length bob for a while though when it gets that long. ------------- |
Posted By: Debbie
Date Posted: October 07 2003 at 7:57am
| Hi Tina! My husband tolerates my hair. He said it is my head and I have to wear it. ( He has long hair- shoulder leghtn). It is super easy to care for and a great wash and wear style. I am thinking about letting it grow out some as I have had it this way for a while now. Any ideas? I do change my mind frequently - so donot be surprised if I do grow it out and then I cut it back off again. Tina my hair is natural curly- think I could get by with a pixie- or no? That is a thought! Debbie |
Posted By: HeadBoy
Date Posted: October 07 2003 at 9:58am
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My wife's hair ranges from a pixie in the summer months to a longer version of it in the winter. In summertime, I use a #5 attachment on the sides and back for her and she trims the top. It was longer when I met her, she gradually went shorter over the years –- to my utter delight. She knows about my fondness of/fetish for short hair and is great about it. ------------- Peace to all |
Posted By: loveshorthair
Date Posted: October 07 2003 at 3:33pm
| When I first met my (soon to be) wife, she had hair to her butt. Within a year it was bra length. Couple more years and it was chin length. She has worn it in a pixie, bob, and the current layered crop. Her hair never gets past chin length. I want her to go back to the pixie for awhile but I don't think she will. |
Posted By: Unregistered Guest
Date Posted: October 07 2003 at 8:31pm
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Thanks everyone for responding. Great to know that many of you have, and love, short haired ladies! Debbie to answer your question, my wife's hair at present is a little longer than a buzzcut, but not quite as long as a short pixie. She was shaving her head bald for a while when she wasn't working and is growing her hair out from that. She is back working again and may grow it out to a short pixie or even longer to a short bob length again. However she has also discussed getting a buzzcut or going back to a bald shaved head again too, so who knows what she will do? One thing she doesn't want to do is grow long hair again. She has just had enough of that and has no desire to wear her hair long again, which is fine with me, I like her better in short hair. |
Posted By: tina m
Date Posted: October 08 2003 at 12:08am
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Debbie, it depends how curly your hair is. If it is just wavy, you could easily wear a pixie but if it is really curly, a pixie style would be more difficult, however you could still wear it that length, it would just be a short curly style, which could look very good. I've seen women with short curly styles that look great! If you don't like it you could always go back to a buzzcut again.
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Posted By: Kuroneko
Date Posted: October 09 2003 at 6:03am
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Currently I don't have anyone at all, but I definitely prefer short-haired women. I don't care too much about what style, as long as I can see the ears and neck. I think those are the sexiest parts of a woman :-) . Breaking gender stereotypes is important to me, so I like the very short styles labelled "more boyish", but it's a bit weird, I also really like playing with hair and hair accessories and all, so she couldn't be totally opposed to that, either. . . *shrugs* I guess that's why I'm single, because I can't really stick down my preferences to one thing or another so easily. ------------- More awesome than a manatee! |
Posted By: Kuroneko
Date Posted: October 09 2003 at 6:07am
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I had one of those before. I liked it a lot, because I didn't have to do anything to it, but the people around me seemed not to like it so much :-P . Of course, if my hair gives me too much more trouble, I might consider going back to that :-P . It's having a really****phase right now of not wanting to lie right no matter how I comb it :-P . *pokes it* Mean, tempermental hair :-P .
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Debbie wrote:Posted By: Unregistered Guest
Date Posted: October 10 2003 at 7:15pm
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Yes Kuroneko buzzcuts are easy to care for. The bottom line is: if a woman is attractive with a pretty face and the right attitute, she can wear very short hair, even a buzzcut or a shaved head and pull it off and look extraordinarily good and very feminine! |
Posted By: Debbie
Date Posted: October 11 2003 at 7:01pm
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Yes, I agree! You do need to be confident! ------------- There is more to life than hair...Come on---Go get a life!!!!!!! |
Posted By: Unregistered Guest
Date Posted: October 16 2003 at 7:22pm
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I used to wear my hair long, well belong my shoulders for years because my husband "loved" my hair long and I promised him I would never cut it short. He has always been quite attentive and has made me a very happy woman. My divorced friends have commented on how lucky I was to have a husband who was such a devoted partner, who did much more than his share at home raising the kids, cleaning, cooking, taking care of sick kids and being a great guy I could trust that never chased after skirts like their ex's. One afternoon at the salon, without first talking to my husband about it, I had a stylist give me an "updated look" and she cut it into a very short style that was about 2 inches on top and down to 1/4 inch at the nape, and added color. It was red and it stuck up all over, even without gel! I felt shocked by the end result. I expressed my feelings of concern, yet she told me I looked great, I calmed downed, felt better and I even walked out the door feeling pretty (like the emperor with no clothes) expecting a stream of compliments and to be fawned over by my husband for being such a stylish lady. What I received was weird stares. That evening my husband came home after being gone for work that week, and he flipped his wig! He was like a hurt child. He asked why did I do such a thing? He got real quiet and broaded the whole weekend. I never saw him so angry, so hurt or distant from me. It has been a couple months with no intimate relations and I am feeling neglected. I truly believe he wouldn't cheat on me, but I'm sure he must feel urges like I do. He has been very cool, but polite, and very terse with me. You would have thought I cheated on him! I agree that this style is probably not the most becoming on me. He has been spending alot more time with projects at home, time with the kids, watching sports, or time with his family rather than spend time with me. Lots of women cut their hair short and their husbands don't seem to care. Why should mine? Deep down I feel scared, I feel like if I ever dare to cut my hair again, my husband will disown me for good. Has anyone else had this situation happen with their husband? I feel like a leper. While I may not be attractive to him, I do not feel I deserve to be ignored so. Was I truly that bad a person? I have noticed him look at long haired women out in public just a little too long to suit me, but I have not raised the issue, fearing he will unload on me. Please be compassionate, don't give me the self righteous line, I do not want to lose my family over a bad haircut, I just want my husband to look at me and think I am beautiful again. Should I apologize for going back on my word and ask him to forgive me or tough it out the next couple of years? |
Posted By: Unregistered Guest
Date Posted: October 16 2003 at 9:24pm
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Zoie: Every man has his personal preference in hairstyles on women. I prefer women with short hair. If your husband prefers women with long hair then grow your hair long for him unless it bothers you to have long hair. As far as religion goes, as it says in the Bible, it is what is in your heart that is most important, not such trivial things as hairstyles. |
Posted By: ssjockey
Date Posted: October 17 2003 at 12:39am
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Tough situation. As a husband myself, I hope I put things like a haircut into perspective. It's only hair. I would love my wife with long, short or no hair. I love the woman, not the hair. I would tell your husband how you feel. Tell him that you didn't intend to hurt him, that you are sorry he is upset, but it's only hair. I know it is a harsh thing to say, but if he would break up a family over a haircut, then he does not deserve a caring person such as yourself. I hope things work out...good luck |
Posted By: MariesCaR510
Date Posted: October 17 2003 at 2:05am
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Zoie, I'm sure your husbands probably a pretty cool guy from the things you've said about him, but why should something so superficial as a hairstyle concern him so much? Are you truly afraid of being left by him because of a hairstyle? If you like the style then maybe you should roll with it. If you don't like it that's another story, but he sounds like he is taking this a bit too serious and maybe he should stand by you especially if you like the ease of having short hair. Is he going to be able to choose what clothes and makeup to wear too? Just my two cents ... grow it back out if you're that concerned. ------------- |
Posted By: Kuroneko
Date Posted: October 17 2003 at 2:35am
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He's just sulking. He probably thinks if he pouts like a child long enough you'll break down and give him what he wants. You sound like you were happy enough with the style when you left the salon, it's just the bad reactions that have upset you. If you're fine with the way you look, don't let anyone else get you down. As coworkers and others go, you don't have to explain anything to them. Just ignore their remarks and they'll stop as soon as they find someone else to pick on, just like schoolyard bullies. Your husband probably feels like you did it with some intention of hurting him, and it might just help if you tell him it had nothing at all to do with him. Tell him you did it for yourself, because you needed a change. If he asks why you didn't ask him first, you can say that after all this time you figured he loved you as a person, not just for a hairstyle, and so you figured he wouldn't mind. If he's a reasonable person, telling him it wasn't meant to hurt him, and that you were just doing what would make you happy, should get him off your back about it. ------------- More awesome than a manatee! |
Posted By: hairalways
Date Posted: October 17 2003 at 6:19am
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Zoie - You need to get ANGRY!! How dare he make you feel bad about having your hair cut? When he made his vows to you...did he include "in sickness and in health, but NOT if she gets her hair cut"? You need to ask him where his love really lies....if he gained 40 pounds and became bald, would he expect you to ostracize him? You should not wear your hair for anyone but yourself. maybe if he had been kinder about it, i would say, grow it out for him....but he has been a jerk about it. If he will only love and desire you if you look a certain way, what will happen when you age? In my opinion of course and i am only going by what you have written here. i hope you are able to find a good meeting ground with your husband and resolve this. P.S. When I cut my hair ultrashort a few years back, people asked me the same thing (about comingout of the closet) - Why do people think this way? Lesbians come in all shapes, sizes and hairstyles. Why the short hair stereotype? Jacqui ------------- |
Posted By: Leanan
Date Posted: October 17 2003 at 8:37am
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I am a wife with short hair, currently growing out a shaved head into a style I haven't decided on yet ;-) It is about 3mm at the moment. I adore pixie's, but I don't know yet. My husband has never dated a short haired woman before we met, he only knows me with short cuts, wild spikes, buzzed very short and the occasional shaved pattern and prefers that over the pictures of me with longer hair. I am a tomboy and it suits me, he says. ------------- There is not only black and white, there is also grey Leanan |
Posted By: Hal
Date Posted: October 17 2003 at 10:01am
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My first reaction was to agree with Hairalways but the more i think about it the more I wonder. We really never know what causes reactions in people and he may not either. I think you need to have a really long talk with him so both of you can discover whats going on. ------------- |
Posted By: Debbie
Date Posted: October 17 2003 at 10:33am
| The first thing that you need to ask yourself is: Does he wear his hair the way that he wants to? Is so you should be allowed to do the same! Just explain to him that untill he starts to wear his hair the way that you want him to; you will wear yours the way that you please. Good luck to you! Please let us know how it turns out! A woman should look the way she wants to though! And you did say you felt pretty afterwards! Just my 4 cents (inflation) Debbie |
Posted By: BaldJasmine
Date Posted: October 17 2003 at 4:05pm
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I guess I'm lucky. I wear my hair in a very short afro and my husband loves short hair on me. So with us it isn't an issue. ------------- . |
Posted By: Unregistered Guest
Date Posted: October 18 2003 at 5:20pm
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I really appreciate the fact that some many people read my post and shared their feelings with me. It seems alot of people felt that I should confront my husband and make it an in your face issue. That was not what I intended at all. Last night I was at the drug store and I ran into the girl who cut my hair. It has been over 2 1/2 months since the event and she looked and me and commented that my hair looked shabby and I needed to see her to get it a haircut again to get it back into the style. MY bangs were well below my eyebrows into my eyes. Well I was a little taken back, then I unloaded on her. I told her she was a selfish, manipulative, horrible person for doing such a terriible thing to me and my hair. That she ruined the relationship I had with my husband and I hope that she was happy for the trouble she caused. She got really quiet, started trembling, teared up and through tears said she was sorry that she caused such trouble for me at home and walked away. I just stood there numb for what seemed like an hour, even though it was only a couple minutes. And then I felt like a real jerk. I had just blamed MY problem on her and it really wasn't her fault. She may have gotten a little scissor happy, but it was because I had said OK for her to do it. After the damage was done, she was only trying to console an upset customer. Again she was not being mean, only trying to make ME feel better. So I went out to my car and I cried for a very long time. Then I sat thought about my situation and realized the person to blame for my situation was me, I could not blame the stylist and I could not blame my husband. He was not some evil dictator who needs to be confronted, he was my husband who I loved, and I hurt him because I didn't keep my word. He was never mean to me, he was just hurt. So I drove home. When I got home, the kids were in bed and he was at the desk, paying some bills. I walked in and he looked towards the door. I just started sobbing, "I'm sorry, I'm sorry". And I went over to him and he hugged me. I told him my whole story and apologized for having hurt him. He started to cry like a baby. He told me he loved me and what had really hurt him that was not just that I hadn't kept my word, but what was worse to him was that I essentially told him he was not important, but that strangers outside our relationship were more important to me than he was or his feelings. I had never really thought of it that way. So between the tears I asked him what do we do now? He said, "I accept you apology, I would never leave you, I was hoping that we could talk, but I couldn't bring myself to it because I did not want to start a fight and hurt you and me more by saying things I did not want to say." So I aked him what do we do now? My hair is still awfully short. He hugged me and said, "It will grow back." I said it will take a long time and he told me we have our whole life time for it to grow back. I asked him about the bangs in my eyes and he reminded me he used to trim them for me when we we engaged and newlyweds. I told him I would really appreciate it if he would trim my bangs, but don't touch anything else, because I am growing my hair out. He smiled through his tears and told me he loved me. And yes he would trim my bangs for me. He trimmed my bangs for me this morning, we were too busy making love last night and we fell asleep in each other's arms. we were involved with other details to deal with my bangs last night. I feel like I had a fifty pound weight lifted off my shoulders. I still am about 60 pounds heavier than the day we got married and I decided this morning I was going to lose that extra weight. My husband had never made an issue of it, but I decided I need to do it for my health and well being as well as our children. I want to be able to dance at their weddings, not be too heavy and out of shape that all I could do was sit there,wheeze and miss out on the fun. My husband is very athletic, he exercises regularly and coaches both of our children's sports teams. He still looks great. I decided he deserves a lady who takes of herself, rather than one who took him for granted. Did I surrender, NO WAY, I got MY way, I won! I have my great relationship back. I did not let a great guy get away to some other woman that would have loved to get a hold of him. I have my very attentive, loving husband back. It was more than just a few inches of hair that caused the rift. And I was smart enough to mend it. YES, I AM A WINNER!! We all make mistakes. This afternoon I called the girl who had cut my hair. She was busy and she called my back a couple hours later when business slowed down. She really deserves a lot of credit for calling back a crazy lady. I apologized to her for berating her in the drug store. No one deserves to be treated the way I treated her. She was very gracious and accepted my apology. She said she had never had an angry customer call and apologise to her before. She then asked if I was coming in again soon. I told I would not be but that mending the hard feelings was something that I had to do, because I wasn't being fair and she didn't deserve to receive the verbal abuse I gave her. I know this post wasextremely long, but I just needed to vent. Thank you one and all for being so supportive and putting up with such a long winded post. |
Posted By: tina m
Date Posted: October 19 2003 at 12:02am
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Zoie. Wow you and your husband really got emotional, just over you getting a short hairstyle that if he should have liked anyway!!!  What's wrong with him that he didn't like you in short hair? SHAME ON HIM! HE WAS SO WRONG!!!Oh well, the crisis is over. You and your hubby are lovey-dovey again. A divorce-(or worse)- has been averted. Now if you could just learn to eat in moderation, exercise a little and lose all of that extra fat! Good luck with your diet Zoie! 
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Posted By: ssjockey
Date Posted: October 19 2003 at 12:19am
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I HIGHLY recomment Weight Watchers... The points system is rational, easy to follow, and a diet you can stay on for the rest of your life. My wife & I have lost over 50 lbs EACH in the last year! |
Posted By: StyleGuy
Date Posted: October 19 2003 at 3:37pm
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It sounds to me that not only did you and your husband make peace with the events, but that you both learned something about each other, and strengthened the bonds between you. Thank goodness you didn't follow the `in your face' advise some of the others were offering. I am speaking from the position of a) a short hair lover, b) a stylist, and c) one half of a relationship where hair issues, right or wrong, can affect emotions. Although it is, indeed, only hair, and it is your hair, the two of you have entered into a partnership where sometimes the boundaries are hazy, but essentially the two of you have agreed that the others feelings are important. Don't be hard on yourself. You couldn't have known that he would take it this hard, but it seems like you learned just how important he felt it to be. To your credit, you decided that his feelings about this were more important than digging your heels in. I fully expect that at times, he will make the same concession for your feelings. That sounds like a wonderful partnership to me. The stylist in me felt for your stylist when you confronted her. Every time I make a major change to a client, I pray that regret doesn't happen, but often I wonder, particularily if they don't return for some time. On the other hand, your integrity in calling her back probably made her day. Congratulations in having the courage to do that. You have a lot on the ball. I'm very impressed! Best wishes for the future happiness in your marriage and your life. |
Posted By: Kuroneko
Date Posted: October 20 2003 at 1:13am
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I don't advocate arguing over petty things, but I also don't advocate giving in to a husband just because he throws a tantrum. Just like indulging a spoiled child who kicks and screams in the toy store, all it does is teach him he can get anything he wants if he just acts out long enough. So catastrophe was averted this time, but what happens the next (inevitable) time he's displeased about something? ------------- More awesome than a manatee! |
Posted By: Unregistered Guest
Date Posted: October 20 2003 at 7:04am
| I think there was something more. I for one really like short hair on a woman if she has the features and figure for it. Short hair done properly looks great, but if cut badly it looks horrid. But then again when I see a woman with long hair that is damaged and the ends are uneven, I just want to reach for my scissors. Long hair is camouflage, it covers up a lot of he body''''s imperfections like a blanket. When removed, they all shine through. When I met my wife her hair was nearly to her waist. I have been cutting it for her for a number of years and I brought the length up gradually. No drastic chops that would have traumatized her. Now it varies in length dependant on how often I cut it and what style she wants, but is generally short. A couple summers ago I cut her hair quite short, similar to Zoie''''s style. It was kind of spikey and my wife loved it. But she has the features and fabulous figure to carry it off. Sounds like Zoie at 60 pounds overweight probably wasn''''t a good candidate for such a short style. Once she loses the weight, it may be a different story. Also she mentioned her husband loved her long hair and used to trim it for her. I don''''t know why he no longer did, but if she had discussed styles with him first, took him with her for the drastic change, or even asked him to do the cutting for her, I think they would have both been much happier with the situation. JMHO |
Posted By: Unregistered Guest
Date Posted: October 20 2003 at 11:10am
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I'm going to boast a little here, in case anybody wants to live vicariously. Mrs. Happy's last cut was a finger-length pixie. She also lost 60 lbs. last year and she is HOT. She has let me cut her hair since before we were married. She wore it long for the wedding, and after the honeymoon she let me run with scissors. During our first year married, she lost 50 lbs in addition to letting me cut all her hair off. In the 16 years since, her hair has been long (mid-back) to short and back more than once, and I've knocked her up 3 times. Each kid left 20 on Mom as an end-of-pregnancy gift. Now that the kids are in school, she decided to go back to Weight Watchers and get rid of the weight. Took her less than a year this time. Now my biggest whine is that I want her to grow it long and cut it short again, and she just laughs at me. So I'm starting at the other end, buying her some tall boots with heels. Hubba hubba. And that's why they call me, Mr. Happy |
Posted By: DakotaDiva
Date Posted: October 20 2003 at 11:20am
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i'm like your wife mr. happy. i have gone from long hair to meduim hair to short hair and back to long hair again like it is now. maybe i'll go real short with my hair again. ------------- |
Posted By: Unregistered Guest
Date Posted: October 20 2003 at 1:19pm
| Zoie, you are brilliant! Your husband sounds like a great guy, but it''''s hard for most men who love long hair to explain their passion for it. He does not sound like a control freak from the way you describe him; he''''s just a guy, like me, who believes that long tresses on a woman is the most beautiful sight in the world. When my wife first cut her hair short 7 1/2 years ago, I sulked like your husband for a few days. Then, when I learned that the cut was not spiteful, and that she chopped it because she needed a change, I was OK with it. (She''''s since grown it back.) But then, I never *hated* short hair on women. My wife''''s brother, on the other hand, would reject a date with *Cindy Crawford* if she wore her hair above her shoulders! There is no rational reason why some of us guys simply find most women so much more sexy with long hair;it''''s simply hard-wired in us. You were right to apologize for breaking your word, but you couldn''''t have known *how* important it is to your husband. To me, you are one wonderful woman, and your husband''''s lucky to have you. P.S. I believe that a stylist should be extremely wary of suggesting a drastic change to a woman who has not thought long and hard about it, and yes, also informed her s/o if he is passionate about her present look. Too many beauticians try to sell a new look which will keep the client coming back; to hell with her husband''''s feelings! You were magnanimous to apologize to her, too, but I''''d be a bit resentful of her, were I your husband. God bless your relationship, Zoie! Hugs, Bob |
Posted By: Kuroneko
Date Posted: October 21 2003 at 4:53am
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Erm, no. . . Maybe if you're five pounds overweight, long hair might cover up for that a bit, but if you're sixty pounds over people are gonna know you're fat, no matter how much hair you have. However, if you are fat, and you just grow your hair as long as it'll go in hopes it'll cover the fat up, you'll just end up looking like the fat lady with the long, stringy hair in no partifular style, which isn't very attractive. That'll contribute to the perception that large women are slobs who never bother with their hair or clothes because they're not supposed to look good anyway. That's an outdated notion, since now there are all sorts of stores and websites selling fashionable clothes for larger women. If a big woman dresses well and keeps up a nice haircut, she'll look much more attractive than the ones who think they're too fat to bother and just grow their hair shapelessly and try to hide in sweats all the time. It's not only the size sixes of the world who deserve to look good. All women, regardless of size, can look pretty if they just put a little more time and effort into it. Cute clothes and hair aren't only for the thin anymore.
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Posted By: Mark E
Date Posted: October 22 2003 at 1:22pm
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Brent, My wife has short hair, and has had it for several years now. We both like the cut and the look it gives her! Actually is getting a reverse wedge cut today! Congrats on your wife having short hair! ------------- Mark E |