Bad Hair Life
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Topic: Bad Hair Life
Posted By: Melanie
Subject: Bad Hair Life
Date Posted: January 12 2000 at 2:11am
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Hi, everyone. I'm new to the board, so please don't flame me if I ramble. When some folks get depressed, they eat, or shop, or decorate...I do stupid things to my hair. The latest abomination is layers cut into my extremely thick, chin length, frizzy hair, and a very bad dye job.I have been fighting my hair since day one; can't be the genes, my mom is a beautiful blue-eyed blond with long, fine hair, and my dad had a thick healthy afro (yes, he was black.) I, however, have thick, frizzy, naturally reddish brown hair that I desperately want to look attractive.My husband is military, so we move a lot. It's hard enough finding a good stylist that can work with your hair type, without having to start from scratch every two years. Therefore, I just go to anyone, and the results are always the same: relaxers that fry my hair, cuts that are unflattering, and frustration and sadness on my part. Right now, I can't look in the mirror with out crying. Shallow, I know, but isn't everyone allowed to look pretty once in her life??I would love to have long hair that reaches the bottom of my shoulderblades, that I could pull up for work, and style down to go out. Or a short pixie cut with full bangs, and tapered sides and back. I'm probably kidding myself. Those styles only work on people with shiny, straight hair that doesn't "mushroom" at the slightest hint of humidity. And there is plenty of heat and humidity here in Alabama, which started the whole haircut cycle two months ago from all one length at mid back, to chin length bob, to layered mess.Anyway, thanks for listening. I'd love any advice. Right now, I'm digging out my hair clippers, and will shave this black cherry mess to 1/4 inch, and start looking for a good wig.
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Posted By: Ally
Date Posted: January 12 2000 at 2:12am
Melanie--Put the clippers down.Put. The clippers. Down.Don't make me wrestle them out of your hand. There now. Listen: A lot of the women on this forum have been where you are--and they've used it as a resource to revive their hair. You'll find a LOT of posts from people who tried something drastic one bad hair day, and set themselves up for a bad hair YEAR.At 23, I've already suffered a dozen bad perms, countless bleach jobs, knee-length extensions that were so heavy I nearly broke my neck every time I tossed my hair, more layers than Marie Chantal's wedding cake, and bright blue streaks (an accident). For most of my life, my hair was an unmanageable disaster. All because I couldn't leave it alone. I was always convinced that /this/ process would be the one to set it all right. Then you need a process to fix THAT process, and a process to fix THAT and..."I don't know why she swallowed the fly."Okay, Melanie, what you DON'T need are any more processes. Forget the dye jobs--your own color is beautiful and suits you besides. You need serious Damage Control. I'm going to let someone like Karen or Cher suggest products, because I don't have your hair type. But I'm guessing a /lot/ of intensive conditioning is in order. (You /can/ turn overprocessed hair into nice hair. I am living proof!)Your hair sounds like it would be beautiful long. I'd resolve to start growing it out again this second. But get ready to face several months of frustration and bad hair days, because most everyone does when they make this decision. **The hardest part of growing your hair out is leaving it alone.**This means NOT running to a salon when you can't get it do anything one particular day. A don't try to make your hair somwthing it's not, because that's a recipe for disappointment and damaged hair. Instead of trying to chemically alter your hair's texture, concentrate on learning to work with it the way it is naturally. Hair like yours that's healthy and long is /gorgeous/. It sounds to me like you just haven't found the right products to battle the Alabama humidity.Rather than hack off the damage, I would just start taking excellent care of it and trim it off a little at a time. Grow it out with the rest of your hair. Be very patient. It might be a long time before it looks GOOD.Every woman at one time or another is convinced she has the worst hair in the world. Somewhere, someone probably /does/ have the worst hair in the world. I'm willing to bet it isn't you. ;)All best,Ally
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