I always claimed that I don't want to know a man that doesn't desire woman with long hair because for me that isn't natural for a man to think that wa
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Topic: I always claimed that I don't want to know a man that doesn't desire woman with long hair because for me that isn't natural for a man to think that wa
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Subject: I always claimed that I don't want to know a man that doesn't desire woman with long hair because for me that isn't natural for a man to think that wa
Date Posted: January 12 2000 at 2:16am
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I was reading every post about What I saw on Oprah and my hair ended up straight up from shock to some commentsThe comments that really got under my skin are the following:1. Courage to cut your hair? 2. You make a statement " Lookat me!" this is a sign of maturity. 3. The young people take the easy way out by letting their hair grow.My first question that I am asking myself if this the same STeve or Stephen that totally insulted every long hair women on the long hair site and I was pissed at him. I am wondering if I am having a round two with this man.It doesn't take any courage to cut your hair or but to shave it one might have to think 30 minutes more. YOu make a statement " look at me" well I deal with that sort of thing with my twelve year old not a mature person. children needs to make the statement look at me not adults. I will defend all the young people . They know what they want in style.They know what is in style for them etc. If they decide to grow their hair it is because its an expression of themselves and don't feel that having red , pink , orange , blue hair is them.Since when its a sign of maturity to be the following . If the trend on the planet is to have a polky dot hair style would it make people more mature to follow that trend? I don't think it has anything to do with maturity. I have long hair and I plan to have my hair a hell of lot longer and I am way more mature than some people that I know around me. When I got married I had short hair and I desired long hair but my hairdresser at the time cut more than it was growing. It started to gforw when I change hairdressers.To end this I am wondering why is there such a man on this site that is so much for short hair. That would be my question to him as it is well know that long hair is the fantasy of most men amonst other things.
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Posted By: Dawn
Date Posted: January 12 2000 at 2:16am
I think its important for people with long hair to engage in the same kind of tolerance that they expect from others. Everyone has a right to their own preferences, long or short. The problem arises when people attempt to force their view or preference on someone else by using marginal logic or overt psychological blackmail to accomplish that. Keep in mind, Diane, that this is not TLHS and many people who prefer short hair come here for advice as well. They deserve our consideration too. Stephen's comments were offensive not because he is a lover of shorter hair styles but because he used ridiculously illogical and lamely generalized reasoning to support his view that if a person had emotional maturity they would by definition then choose to cut their hair. To attack short hair in and of itself is to engage in the same types of discrimination and judgmentalism that is often directed at long haired people. Reversing the judmental viewpoint is just engaging in the same behavior that we're trying to eliminate and serves no one. We need to be a bit more sensitive in expressing our personal preferences and be sure to indicate that they are OUR preferences alone, valid for no one but ourselves. That's the way to real acceptance and tolerance of the sanctity of individuality.Not flaming here, just making an observation.Best wishes to everyone! Wear your hair how YOU want. As long as its naturally healthy its all beautiful!Dawn
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