Any suggestions on how to cope with constant snide remarks about your hair?
My Mother has always hated (a) femininity (b) long hair. I discussed this with her the other week, explaining how the message I got while I was growing up was that femininity and it`s outward expression equated one with being a weak and stupid woman. Hence I have spent 37 years of my life with ultra short hair and a stock wardrobe of black trouser suits. I was in a constant battle with myself, trying to hide breasts, legs etc and have never possessed a pair of `girly` shoes. That was until this year. I realized that I had been trying to make myself acceptable to M and drowing out that little voice that said "no". Now its a big voice and I am paying attention.
Still, I went visiting my folks a couple of days ago and she started again:
"It`ll look horrible if you grow it" & "Its unprofessional to have long hair", etc.
Contrast this with positive comments I`ve had from men for the first time in my life:
"You`re blooming" & "You look really pretty" and a couple of strangers smiling at me and saying "Gorgeous".
Still it really hurts when M casts disparaging remarks - hair-hating is always on the agenda.
I`ve dropped hints, I`ve analysed and I`ve ignored.
Anyone got any ideas on how I can end this nightmare?????
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Uzi
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