People with curly hair has this problem. First, curly hair do not need a brush. You should use a wide tooth comb or your fingers to get the tangles out. A good book for you to check is called Curly Girl. Lots of people use the curly girl method...Using a conditioner wash and a wide tooth comb or fingers. You have to work with your hair.  As an African American woman I have extremely tight curls I learned how to work with them instead of against ( trying to get them straight and sleek). I'm sure your hair is beautiful.

First, why use a curling iron if you have curls?

Use a diluted shampoo or moisturizing shampoo or us just conditioner.

Plop your hair, mean just squeeze the excess water and then put a top on it(no tangles and alot less frizz)...do not rub the towel into your hair (causes tangle and frizz)

Do not wash your hair towered onto your hair, hold your head back in the shower and let the water run through while detangling with your fingers.

Remember everyone has beautiful hair, no one's hair is worse than yours and there are lots of people with curls, big or small, kinks and coils, which ever one you wish to call them.

Have you ever tried the Ouidad System Cut?  It's for curly hair, and costs $125.00, but you're head will look awesome.  To find salons that do the cut go to:  http://www.ouidad.com - www.ouidad.com .

I can totally understand what you're talking about.  I don't have kinky curly hair, but hair with waves and curls.  No matter how I get my hair cut or styled, as soon as I get hot, it bounces back into curl/frizz H*LL.

it sounds as if i have found my hair's doppelganger.  And I spent most of my life hating my hair, but at long last I have learned to love it.  The first thing that I learned that help me do this is that, it doesn't always have to do with product (although it helps), it's how you handle your hair.

1. if you can get marc anthony's curl revitaliser it's a conditioner you use after you condion and it's a godsend!

2. before you put your conditioner in gently squeeze out all excess water, i don't know why but it makes my hair fell softer after.

3. never, EVER brush your hair when it's wet, if your hair gets really tangled like mine, brush before you go in the shower.

4. try to only wash your hair every couple of days, i find my hair goes the distance if i put my hair in a high ponytail with a scrunchie when i go to bed (that way you avoid it being frizzy the next day)

5. before you turn off the water to get out of the shower (this has been the greatest trick of all even if you ignor all my other tips DO THIS ONE!) flip your head up side down a couple of times to seperate the curls and then run water over them.  then flip your hair back up with a towel on your shoulders.  don't towel dry it and DO NOT wrap it up in one of those towel turbans. after you have done all that use some of john frieda's frizz ease serum when your hair still soaked and let your hair air dry a little bit if you're really pressed for time lightly pat it dry with a towel

i then put in marc anthony's curl lotion thorugh my hair both upside down and rightside up and then use his mousse and scrunch this into my hair until the curls look flawless wet

6. use a diffuser when you blow dry and don't ignor the cool shot when you're done

when i'm done i use marc anthony's frizz sealing cream and if it's rainy or humid out i use a flexible hairspray.

if you do what i do you will learn to love your curls because people will come up to you on the street and compliment your curls

Here is a hug for all you curly girls out there!!!  I feel your pain.  I, too, am a woman cursed with these curly locks that every straight haired woman envys.  You must be a girl/woman with very curly hair to understand where we are coming from.  I have always prayed god wouldn't pass this curse onto my children. . .unfortunately my 2 year old little boy has inherrited them My two sons below, Noah on the left with straight hair and Tyler with the curls.  The back of his head is so frizzy,  I've never seen such frizz before and he doesn't have a lot of length to work with in the back.  Still, I am now able to condition, use a little Frizz Ease and gel and his curls look defined and adorable.  After he naps, he is all frizzed up again though.

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I go through periods where I straighten it a lot and then I grow it out enough to let it go and just pull it back.  Unfortunately right now I can't pull it back easily because I had it cut a little shorter in March.  I want to get the Japanese Straightening done but I don't have the Hundreds $$$$ of dollars to get it done.  Since it does take so long to grow I am going to put extensions in.  The hair extensions forum here is awesome if you want to learn to do it yourself.

I have tried working with my hair, I've worked against it too.  My childhood was awful as my mother always cut my hair super short, the 70's pixie style but I was horrified if it rained, couldn't feel comfortable going swimming because of my hair drying 'on it's own afterwards'.  It has been a lifelong struggle and I suppose it will continue to be.  I just wanted to add my feelings here to those of you that understand:)

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