Just an Opinion
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Printed Date: January 13 2025 at 11:08am
Topic: Just an Opinion
Posted By: `Ren
Subject: Just an Opinion
Date Posted: July 13 2002 at 11:35am
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Hi. This is my first time in this forum and I`m learning a great deal from what I`ve read, but it seems like their are a lot of African American women who really aren`t happy with who they are. I mean, don`t misquote me here, it`s important to take care of what God has blessed you with (meaning your hair), but I think sometimes we place too much of a priority on long hair. Who do you think gave us the mindset that longer is better? Europeans did way back in the days of slavery. It seems to me that we should try and end that cycle and start being happy with what we have. I was blessed with extremely long hair up until my first perm at age 13. My hair went from waistlength to neck length at one point. I was severely depressed for a long time thinking about how my hair used to be. But then I realized that God had bigger plans for me outside of pouting over my hair. So I moved on with my life. I learned to be happy with the person God made me to be, in his own image. My hair is now recupperating. It is natural and I have developed an easy way to take care of it. I wash it using Luster`s Shampoo and Conditioner, I sometimes deep condition my hair or use a hot oil treatment, I comb my hair in sections and spray a leave in conditioner in it. If I want to wear my hair naturally, I use Paul Mitchell holding gel (medium) mixed with water and VO5 curl refiner and run it through my hair after oiling my scalp with a petroleum based oil. I don`t care what people say, black hair needs to be oiled. Down here is the south, lite oils make no difference, especially with summer humidity. My curls will stay for a week and if I want to redifine them, all I have to do is wet them in the shower, re-apply my products, and sit dry under a diffuser. If I want it flatironed, that`s no problem either. I just wrap it and wear a silk scarf on it. No you don`t have to go out and buy silk bedsheets as long as the scarf is completely covering your hair. It sometimes amazes me on how much money I could potentially spend on my hair that I could be doing other things with. Anyway, I do take a multi-vitamin supplement, but not for my hair. I take it for my overall well-being. I exercise three times a week, drink plenty of water (along with an occasional coke), and eat a healthy diet. God created our bodies so that if we give it the proper fuel, everything else will work fine. I`m not saying that everyone should be like me. On the contrary, you should find what works for you. All I`m saying is to put everything in the proper perspective. How long your hair is isn`t your ticket into heaven!
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Posted By: Mizz.Thang2002_2003
Date Posted: July 13 2002 at 12:43pm
I agree,black women do this. They think that long hair is everything. Ive been pressing my hair for 22years of my life and it long. Its midback length.
All i do is use a good shampoo and conditoner Infusium23 products, and use a good pressing creme, that dosent weigh my hair down. I use either just for me(the one with the orange top) or blue magic, because its light. I switch from time to time. I press with an electric pressing comb,i keep the heat on a low setting then when im done pressing i put it up and at night i oil my scalp and ends like ive done for years and then i put it up in a doo rag or i sleep in a satin scarf and im done. Im not trying to spend all this money on high priced products that wont make your hair grow anyfaster. I also drink lots of water and i eat well. I think just like you said as long as you properly take care of your hair it will grow. Also if you stop using those perms and relaxers,i think thats the problem,when those relaxers and things were made. Back in the day before those were thought of black people pressed their hair, and you noticed they still have some but now you see kids walking around balk headed and stuff because of the perms and stuff and them not knowing how to care for it. People need to stop worr ing about there hair and get right with tha Lord
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Im fine as hell and I know this!!!!
My hair is da bomb baby
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Posted By: shatejia
Date Posted: July 13 2002 at 2:14pm
No disrespect Sister, Thank You for the hair advice however please understand wanting something that is difficult for many of us to achieve is not a negative thing. We are a people of many differences, with God given creativity, please know that braids, dreads, afros, finger waves, and yes perms are all a reflection of us, and the creativity that we have been blessed with. Please understand that hair satisfaction is a multi-race thing. Non-African Americans are trying all sort of things as well, because HAIR CARE IS A MULTI- BILLLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY.
It is a fact that everything does not work for everybody; my scalp produces so much sweat at night that a press is useless. This is in fact a hair web site, so people generally complain or brag about their hair. For a site a little bit deeper you might like Common Dreams.Com, it’s one of my favorites. I work for the lord 7days a wk, 24 hrs, a day, however sometimes I’m allowed to work on my hair.
Yes the infomercial “European Desire” did take it a little far.
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Shaperry
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Posted By: shatejia
Date Posted: July 13 2002 at 2:53pm
No I`m sorry thats "Commondreams.org"
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Shaperry
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