not everything works of everyone. umm..i use a lot of leave in conditioners and my fav are salerm 21, lacio lacio, nexxus humectress, rusk sensories smoothing leave in. nioxin smoothing reflectives silk elixir, elucence MBC and black and sassy leave in :) for a shiny look, you can try oils or a serum like NTM serum. my hair doesnt like it but it works for me. also, you could try doing a honey rinse. An oil that can give you shine are coconut oil. Jojoba oil is also good......as a daily moisturiser, i use salerm 21 or glycerin mixed with oils or nexxus humectress. they all soften my hair once i use them. are you relaxed or natural? when i was relaxed i used elasta qp recovery oil moisturiser and loved it. everyone will tell you their favs but it depends on what works for you.....HTH