HELP ME!!!!!!!
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Topic: HELP ME!!!!!!!
Posted By: pinki
Subject: HELP ME!!!!!!!
Date Posted: September 06 2005 at 6:36am
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Hello all!!!
i am very new to this site, i have been reading the posts on the site and i have to say i am lovin every bit of it! i just havent seen to much of anything that pertains to me  . i have a bit of a situation and i really hope everyone in here can give a little bit of their advise to school me. here is the situation: i originally started off with shoulder length hair,and decided i wanted to change the color(no no #1)but it wasnt that bad because i was moisturizing it like crazy, so it was fine. with my hair i am never satisfied with the length so i always got weaves to add length, still not bad because i always got them sewn in. then, i decided i wanted to do something different(no no #2)and this is where i had a turn for the worst! i wont name any names as to where i got it done but the name of it was called the melange system, where u get human hair attached to a net and your hair get pulled through the net to give the unweaved look. i tried it, spent 1700.00 on it!! no that wasnt a typo i spent 1700.00 on it with hopes that i would look like Tyra or Ciara or somebody,that's not the worst part, they dyed my hair to match the color of the hair that i had chosen which was a orange-ish blonde(like Ciara) thats when my hair took a turn for the worst! it was literally falling off of my scalp! i mean all you had to do was pull it, and it was in your hand! i wanted to die!! my hair was all over the place and not a stitch on my head! i didnt know what to do with it! it is shorter than my Fiancee's right now and he has a caesar! i read in another forum how to make a conditioner for growth with coconut oil,olive oil, and pepermint oil and i put that in my shampoo and conditioner and i have been washing my hair(if thats what u can call it)every day! i also have been putting Dr.Miracle's and Hair emergency 911 on it after washing. on top of the fact that i dont have any hair i have to wear a wig so that people on the street doont point and laugh at me, and when i see females in the street with shoulder length hair, i want to just die!! it has only been a week since i started treating it, but i guess i want to see instant results.. am i doing the right thing? does any one else have any other remedies for growth??? please help me i am so desperate!
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Posted By: Renee
Date Posted: September 06 2005 at 7:49am
calm down.......its hair and it will grow back. make sure you dont use too many growth products cos it will backfire. drinks lots of water and eat healthy. just be patient. is your hair really dry now? first you have to clarify using either ACV, baking soda or clarifying shampoo. then wash with a moisturising shampoo then do a "deep" treatment. for like an hour or so. the following week, do a protein treatment. maybe nexxus emergencee? ive never used it. there are a lot of protein treatments.....i use joico k-pak reconstructor or aphogee. make sure you moisturise everyday and do deep treatments every week with an uber moisturising deep conditioner. Hope this helps. im sure the others will give you more advice  ------------- |
Posted By: pinki
Date Posted: September 06 2005 at 8:00am
| thank you soooo much for all of the info given i am writing it all down. i will follow the instructions. should i keep washing it every day? or try every other day? maybe 2 times a week? and yes it is very dry, usually after the leave in conditioner dries up. but i am definately going to try your suggestions, i really appreciate your help. i think i just have a problem when i dont see quick results, i am trying not to have a nervous breakdown over here! thank you sooo much again! |
Posted By: Renee
Date Posted: September 06 2005 at 11:02am
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washing it everyday might be too much on your hair. if you want to wash everyday, you can try washing with conditioner. like any VO5 conditioner. You can try shampooing every week or maybe every 3 days. you have to see what will work for you. What leave in conditioner are you using? and have you tried using a moisturiser after applying your leave in? you can also try applying an oil after applying the leave in and moisturiser to seal in moisture. you can try washing with a cheapie conditioner if you want to wash everyday then use your conditioner mixture with the peppermint oil and stuff as a 2nd conditioner. please dont have a nervous breakdown. ------------- |
Posted By: pinki
Date Posted: September 06 2005 at 11:39am
| right now the leave in conditioner i am using is 911. i havent tried moisteriser after the leave in i thought that was the last step.. i am trying so hard not to have a nervous breakdown!! i will try harder ok? thank you for helping me. i really appreciate it. you have no idea |
Posted By: Renee
Date Posted: September 06 2005 at 2:35pm
you can try mixing a moisturiser with your leave in. glad i helped. please let us know if you have any more problems or a nervous breakdown  ------------- |
Posted By: cmesweet
Date Posted: September 06 2005 at 4:53pm
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First, you are beautiful no matter what. There are many women with short hair and some with no hair at all...your hair does not define you. You seem very intelligent, so I know that you know you are beautiful. Also, have you been to a dermatologist about your situation? You could of had an allergic reactiong? ------------- Natural BC May 9, 2004 |
Posted By: cookiesnkream
Date Posted: September 06 2005 at 8:29pm
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hey girl! dont be down about that hair,, im sure ur lookin just fine,, but i do understand wanting long hair,, a few years ago i ended up with a horrible mullet looking mess on my head from extreme frontal breakage but b4 i knew it it had grown to my cheekbones the to my chin and now to collarbone ,, since ur wearin a wig u can just baby ur own hair and not use any heat,, u should have gorgeous healthy growth soon,, be patient,, moisture is the key,, keep it well conditioned and no relaxers cuz they damage the hair bad,, udont wanna sabotage ur new hair growth,,be happy,, ur gonna have a head ful of untouched long hair soon....:-) ------------- Hair type: 3b some c?, fine strands, last relaxer sept 05, never again!!! current :ap length on sides,,nearly bsl in back, damn those old frazzled ends! I am hair OBSESSED |
Posted By: pinki
Date Posted: September 06 2005 at 8:42pm
| I just really wanna say thank you to all the beautiful ladies that are helping through my small crisis... I am takin notes and heed everything you guys are saying.. I am so excited about the growth that I'm going to be gaining in the next couple of months!!!! I am currently at a caesar haircut if you can just picture it, but I am aiming for bra strap length and I will not stop until I get there! And with all of your help, nothing is impossible!!! Thank you guys so much!! I will keep you updated with every inch of growth! |
Posted By: Honeydoo
Date Posted: September 06 2005 at 11:02pm
cmesweet took the words right from me. When anything synthetic, or new is used on the scalp or hair that causes it to fall out, there is a possibility of an allergic reaction. Seeing a dermatologist is not a bad idea. If possible, seeing a good stylist can help you trim your hair into a wearable style while you are growing it back! I had to do this 2 years ago. My hair was cut up to mid-ear all the way around. It is not a few inches past my shoulders. It takes alot of patience and nuturing as well as support. (That's where we step in! )------------- http://public.fotki.com/Honeydoo pw: bombay |
Posted By: Pokahontas
Date Posted: September 07 2005 at 10:46am
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I agree with all the ladies that posted. They have given you great information. There is really nothing that will make your hair grow much faster and like Renee said, don't go overboard with growth products! Try looking into more natural products and vitamins to baby your hair with. Maybe a good multi-vitamin or a hair, skin and nails vitamin will help make your new growth strong. Try moisturizers such as shea butter, vitamin e oil and olive oil for moisture and stay away from mineral oils. Make sure to deep condition with a protein treatment to prevent breakage and follow that up with a moisturizing conditioner. If I were you, I wouldn't use any sort of chemicals at this point because they will damage your hair and slow your growth. Natural is probably the best way to go, and no heat. Just be patient and your hair will surely grow. Good luck! And don't hesitate to ask questions. ------------- |
Posted By: pinki
Date Posted: September 07 2005 at 1:14pm
| I really want to let each and every one of you guys know how much you are helping me with all of your wisdom!!!! i would definately not put any more chemicals in my hair for a very very very long time! i am so positive that i learned my lesson! as far as seeing a doctor, it isnt because i had a chemical reaction, it is because I let the hair dresser put a dye and a relaxer on my head!! WHAT AN IDIOT YOU MIGHT SAY??? yes an idiot i was! but never again. anyway, thank you guys so much for your input and keep them coming! new info is good info!! Love Ya'll(IN MY COUNTRY GURL VOICE!) |