This is exactly what i need to know - although i do ahve some advice (it may work for you, but its what i've been trying, it works OK but with one problem - see my post)

I use spiral curling tongs to curl my hair, it doesn't come out very well for me, poofs out too much, but if you want looser curls, usually by the end of the day at school my hair has gone sort of loose and a lot shinier. Thats when i use hair spray aswell to keep the curls in place, so i'm thinking maybe if you do it without holding spray in a few hours the curls would have dropped out a bit, then you can spray it with holding spray and it should remain like that?

Hope i could help x

First after you get out of the shower, use an anti frizz serum. Then you can let it dry naturally, WITHOUT touching your hair and maybe use a curling iron to define the waves. Or you can throw in some gel and blow dry with a diffuser. Then you can finger comb or gently separate the curls with your fingers. You may also want to use a curling iron to define the curls/waves if you feel the ned so.  Just remember, NEVER brush curly or wavy hair when it is wet. Use a wide tooth comb in the shower. And ALWAYS use a heat protectant spray when working with hot tools.

Do you want hair like this?

My secret is simply dont wash your hair. thats the worst thing i can do to my hair. it gets so frizzy and dry and ugly

Leave it like that until you get grossed out, or you could you this coconut oil stuff

something like this is good

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/offer-listing/B000142GDO/ref=dp_bb_a//103-4543771-8776651?condition=all/ - http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/offer-listing/B000142GDO/re f=dp_bb_a//103-4543771-8776651?condition=all/

i use palmers coconut oil cream.. it gives that shiny look

and if your hair isnt curly enough try curling it a bit or take a shower and put it in super tight braids and light-frizz cream