Long or short - which is "me"?
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Topic: Long or short - which is "me"?
Posted By: redhairedgirl
Subject: Long or short - which is "me"?
Date Posted: February 14 2006 at 5:58am
I posted this on the short-hair forum, I just don't know what to do. I love my long hair, but I feel I would like a change, maybe I should just stop straightening it and go back to being a curly-head  .
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redhairedgirl wrote:
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Posted By: Susan W
Date Posted: February 14 2006 at 7:17am
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I'm betting everyone here is going to tell you how great long hair is,
and everyone on the short board will tell you how great short is.
You look great in both, it will just have to be up to you which you
prefer! I'll just say take your time with the decision, and take
at least 2 weeks to make up your mind, since it does take so long to
grow if you wind up changing it. ------------- Making metal barettes/concord clips hair safe, long hair style how to: http://alonghair.wordpress.com |
Posted By: Hellfrozeover
Date Posted: February 14 2006 at 7:58am
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Maybe take about four inches off of the length if you're not quite sure but want enough of a change. That way, you're not loosing *too* much and it's enough to be a new look. Maybe go curly at the same time so your hair will also be healthier with no more staightening and the loss of four inches of old hair. Good luck in your choice ------------- |
Posted By: Tyranna
Date Posted: February 14 2006 at 1:56pm
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Did you not mention that you were a model and the longer hair got you more jobs - or something? Regardless, although you do not look like a boy with short hair, that close-cropped hair style in the picture looks rather severe on you and ages you a bit. Your long hair style looks all one length? If you are tired of it, maybe in stead of chopping it all off - why don't you get some long layers? They are currently in fashion right now. And do stop straightening your lair. I bet you would look fabulous with a layered long curly hair style. And with that color red - it could be a cool, sexy tousled look. ------------- 
Weather Forcast - With high humidity in the air, expect general hair frizziness to continue :-/ Current Length: 30 inches or so from the front |
Posted By: fatmoogas
Date Posted: February 14 2006 at 1:57pm
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Wow...Wasn't red-haired girl the one who has been saying for the last two years that she hated short hair and even wore extensions while growing out? I am sure she has also said (paraphrasing here) that she felt unsexy with short hair and was talked into going short against her wishes. Anyway, it's true she looks good both ways--and it's her decision. The sudden conversion just seems a bit odd. |
Posted By: Tyranna
Date Posted: February 14 2006 at 3:20pm
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Some people cannot stop fooling with their hair. It is this reason I think that so many of us have a tough time growing it out. Perhaps redhairedgirl is going though something similar? -------------
Weather Forcast - With high humidity in the air, expect general hair frizziness to continue :-/ Current Length: 30 inches or so from the front |
Posted By: Hellfrozeover
Date Posted: February 14 2006 at 4:11pm
Sums me up
I remember thinking it was you who said you hated short hair like Fatmoogas remembers. Whatever you choose, I'm sure you'll be gorgeous! ------------- |
Posted By: SpecialKitty
Date Posted: February 14 2006 at 4:38pm
Hi Redhairedgirl, I think probably long hair is more versatile. You can always make it look "short" with updos, but not the other way around! If you are spending lots of time straightening it, maybe just let it go curly/wavy and just spend that energy really taking good care of yourself and your hair. Red hair looks gorgeous with curls/waves! Check out MissRini's hair for inspiration Good luck whatever you choose.------------- 
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Posted By: Lisa9232
Date Posted: February 14 2006 at 6:15pm
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I think that long hair looks good on you!! I would go with it if I were you! ~Lisa9232 ------------- Without God all things are impossible!But with God all things are possible! ~~~Lisa9232~~~ |
Posted By: Bob S
Date Posted: February 14 2006 at 6:31pm
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If by "attitude", you mean "confidence", I fail to understand why extra length would make you a shrinking violet. Aspire to be proud of who you are, regardless of your hair length. God bless, Bob |
Posted By: AnaisSatin
Date Posted: February 14 2006 at 8:01pm
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Can't help it, I have to post this and be in the minority.....
I think you look fabulous with the old short cut. Anais ------------- http://anaissatin.livejournal.com">  my LJ , 40 inches long
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Posted By: PurpleBubba
Date Posted: February 15 2006 at 1:31am
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Only you can decide. There are too many possible hairstyles for you to get long, medium, or short. Seeing one picture of one short or long hairstyle on you isn't enough for me to say you should or shouldn't do something. I'm of the belief that if someone feels like they want a change then they should go ahead and do it. However I also think that giving yourself a few weeks to be sure is best. Take the next 2-3 weeks and gather information. Find pictures or magazines with more than just one or two options. Unless you know what you want if you make the change. If there's a cut that you know you liked then that makes things a bit easier. Get a piece of paper or a text file or a journal entry and make yourself a list of your reasons for and against long and short. Ask yourself if you are wanting to change your hair because you want to change your hair or if you are wanting to change your hair because something else in life is happening. Things like stress, breakups, weather changes. Are you at a stage right now where you always seem to cut back? Was there a length perhaps a few inches shorter that you were happier with? Or were you happier with shorter hair? Ask yourself are you wanting to cut your hair to get short hair or are you cutting it to not have long hair? Either way you need to find a short cut that you will be happy with. There's a big difference between that pixie type cut and a chin length cut. Is your color bothering you? Maybe you like the length but not the color? Is your hair damaged? I can definitely understand wanting to get rid of damage. It's a valid reason to make a change. This is a pun but I always prefer to get to the root of the hair problem. I always said that if I became a stylist I would always give my clients multiple options. I've always hated watching makeover shows and seeing someone sit down in the chair and be told "We're going to do this" without any other options given. Think of it this way. Your long hair is on trial. You are both the defense and the prosecution. Make the arguements so that after the trial ends you won't have to appeal. I hope that helps. ------------- 
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Posted By: redhairedgirl
Date Posted: February 15 2006 at 2:44am
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That is so cool PurpleBubba, I will do that. Long hair on trial . You're right there have been a lot of changes going on in my life recently and I feel uprooted . I have changed jobs, I don't model now (lack of time) and I have moved house.
I do soooo appreciate everyone who's taken the trouble to reply. Love you! And yes it was me who said she hated short hair and all that stuff 
I will have a "cooling-off" period like everyone said. What I will do is leave it 'till the end of this month, in the meantime I will stop straightening it and let it get back it's natural curl. So by the time 28th Feb comes along you won't be able to see me for my big 1980's style hair .
Anais - that's what I thought looking at the pic, I thought I looked better with my old cut. I'll post again and let you know what I've decided. Love Sarah-Jane x ------------- |
Posted By: missrini
Date Posted: February 15 2006 at 4:15am
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Sarah-Jane darling, sweety, luvvy......you are so much like me!!! Besides the red hair......I too go through stages of "curl repression" and am really ashamed of my hair. I also grow my hair for a while, then cut it all off, then grow it, then cut it....you know how it goes. I am using long hair support groups this time so that I dont cut again, I have also told my husband to really talk me out of cutting when I get the urge. The reason is.....I KNOW I will regret it. It's happened countless times before. It's like being really hungry and then going to McDonalds and INSTANTLY regretting it the moment you've swallowed your last moutful of cheeseburger....well, OK, it's not the same and I'm digressing.. We're here if you want to talk PS: SpecialKitty: ------------- 
25 inches as at 1st Nov 06 |
Posted By: duke
Date Posted: February 15 2006 at 5:11am
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DON'T CUT IT PLEEEEEEZZZZZZZZZE!!!!! You saw that coming, didn't you? |
Posted By: Tyranna
Date Posted: February 15 2006 at 12:23pm
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Before you cut (or restyle) can you pst a picture of your long hair with its natural curl? -------------
Weather Forcast - With high humidity in the air, expect general hair frizziness to continue :-/ Current Length: 30 inches or so from the front |
Posted By: redhairedgirl
Date Posted: February 15 2006 at 12:47pm
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I think you might have to wait on that one Tyranna, I have been straightening it for soooo long now. I think the only curly piccies I have are me as a kid .
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Posted By: Hellfrozeover
Date Posted: February 15 2006 at 3:12pm
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Do you chemically straighten or use straighteners? ------------- |
Posted By: lhairfan31
Date Posted: February 15 2006 at 5:28pm
| Sarah, we are here anytime you need support. Really hope you keep it long but thats your decision. As Missrini said, ask yourself those questions before doing something drastic. Also, whats wrong with big 80s hair? lol I`m sure you looked great with it big!! Big hair is a great style and really liked my former classmates in school that had that style. |
Posted By: Bob S
Date Posted: February 15 2006 at 7:17pm
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Ah, Sarah-Jane, now I think I get you! When life is spiraling out of control, it's tempting to do something that makes one feel that you still have *some* power over your life. Hair can seem like a splendid target! However, I submit, the limited power we humans have comes through disipline, such as what you've shown in growing back your inspiring flames over the past two years. The feeling of control that a cut would give is at best illusory, IMO. If you cut today, your ability to have model quality long hair ceases immediately. You will have *no* power to bring it all back tomorrow. I remember that you were tricked by phony friends into cutting your hair last time. Don't fool *yourself* this time! Any reason other than that you truly are craving short hair for yourself may be deeply regretted by you, based on reading some of your past postings. Hugs and Best Wishes, Bob
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Posted By: redhairedgirl
Date Posted: February 16 2006 at 5:24am
I have done both, in the signature I think it's probably chemically because that's a modelling picture. Usually I just use straighteners. Well actually I'm not doing now, but you know what I mean
Thank you for the replies again, you're all so fantastic to take the time out to answer me.  .
Yes I have been going through a lot of changes in my life so far this year and I think that is definately partly why I want to change my image. Still I will see how I enjoy being a curly-head, maybe that will be enough of a change for me.....I sure will look different than usual. When I was a kid I looked like I should be starring in the musical "Annie", you know red hair, uncontrollable curls ------------- |
Posted By: katay
Date Posted: February 16 2006 at 8:47am
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I know You're coming off a long stretch of work on a cruise ship, so maybe your hair options are or would make you feel better, right? If so, I agree with most, take your time, and keep posting here for support. I remember lots of times I regretted lopping off my own hair,....I was self concious at times. I find it ironic that at a young age(in my early twenties) I went for the "Wynonna Ryder" Look, and I got lots of compliments for it! However when I was starting meds(for my Bipolar disorder) My face swelled up, and I had longer hair, then wanted short hair, on and off. I'm now 35 yr.s, and I finally(I think, LOL) got my hair act (if you will) together!!! I am happy no matter what, and my soon to be hubby Steve loves me so much and I love me too,;) It's not easy finding yourself in such a crazy world, even if it's only hair, it's symbolic of alot of things. So Sarah,Laugh, post, and vent, Doctors orders, ok! LOL!!!;) You're a great Young Woman, and I don't want You to be devestated by a rash choice with your beautiful hair,... I wish I had Your natural curly hair, mines so straight, ...oh well,.. Take care, Love ya, and God Bless You Sarah!! ;) ------------- God Bless,... Katie |
Posted By: Sugaree
Date Posted: February 16 2006 at 11:15am
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[QUOTE=Tyranna] Some people cannot stop fooling with their hair. It
QUOTE] Me too!!!! Exactly Tyranna, good one. Red Haired Girl, I chopped my hair in Oct. because I saw a pic of myself with a cute short style that temped me to cut it, even though I was trying to grow it out. (remeber this: you may look really cute in that picture, but you will have to wake up every day and operate with this hair...pictures can be perfect, life...not-so- perfect.) I regret cutting it greatly! Just be sure it's what you want. I wish someone would have told me this: Get about 2-3" cut and if you still want to go shorter, then do so. But test the waters first before you jump in! When I cut my hair, I liked it at first. The stylist styled it all nice and I walked out feeling like a million bucks. But then later that night when I took a shower, I realized how much I liked having long hair. Having your long hair cut feels like you've been robbed! But in the same token, it can be very liberating. Just give yourself plenty of time to decide. ------------- Don't let the man get you down ~ me 1c MC iii Dark Brown, 22" Goal: Waist |
Posted By: katay
Date Posted: February 16 2006 at 12:05pm
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Well, I'm sincerely glad that we are all supporting you Sarah. It's nice;) I wish 10 years ago I was on the net, and discovered this site, it would have spared me alot of Hair Hell, sorry for swearing,. So anyway, if I was blessed with your long tresses, I'd play with different updo's. Plus, it would be great to have your natural curl. In fact when my hair grows about 3 or 4 more inches (at the shoulders), I plan on getting a body wave,.. I can't wait!! I too (as Sarah You know) am also a Natural Redhead, and proud of it!!! I'm mostly Norwegin, then Northern Italian, then Irish, a touch of Scottish, oh and a little French too. I'm not a mutt, just a melting pot,;) Keep in touch, Love Katie;) ------------- God Bless,... Katie |
Posted By: redhairedgirl
Date Posted: February 16 2006 at 12:55pm
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Thanks again for the replies I am so amazed at you all. I love this forum, that you would take the trouble to offer advice is so sweet.
I have stopped straightening now and I am waiting for the curl explosion which is going to happen any time soon. I will see if I can post another piccie when I'm disappearing under a mass of curls. .
Oh and thanks for the compliments saying I look cute and stuff, actually I was feeling pretty low when I started this thread and you've all lifted my mood. I am so much happier now. Love ya x ------------- |
Posted By: Tiramisu2c
Date Posted: February 16 2006 at 1:11pm
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You know what's so funny? My strawberry blonded/red-haired best friend's name is Sara Jayne. Not spelled the same, but still, not a particularly common name. Anyway, she has long, pin-straight, beautiful hair...However, she always wants it curly. I on the other hand have short, brown, curly hair and always want it straight. I used to HATE my curls. I was using the Matrix Sleek Look system of shampoos and stuff, and after months of using it, my hair actually started to straighten. Only then did I realize I missed my curls. I started wearing it curly again, and I actually loved it. See, we have that versatility where we can wear it straight if we take an hour or so to straighten it, and curly if we step out of the shower and air-dry (ok, maybe with a little product). Let your hair go curly, it'll shrink the length a few inches and that may be all the change you need. I also recommend long layers for curly hair...it helped me out a lot. Less thick, not as heavy and easier to straighten when I felt like bringing out the flat iron. Good Luck! Christine ------------- 
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Posted By: lhairfan31
Date Posted: February 16 2006 at 5:59pm
Sarah, help putting a smile on your face or anyone else puts a smile on our face too.....
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