I'm sick of people asking me if this is my hair.

Just a few days ago,after my aerobics class this lady with her hair braided into an "up do out do"  was all up in my hair.  I usually exercise near the instructor since i plan on becoming an instructor myself, so everyone in the back can see me.  All i had was a braid out, tied back. Ol'e girl comes up to me and asks how did I get my hair like that. I didn't mind telling her but dang, why did she have to look back at your friend and make a face like ===>. After that she just said oooooooo, ok, its cute! and just stood there...I saw her a few days later without her braided updo and I'm guessing she was waiting to see if I had a weave in. Don't want to assume but the reaction tells alot

Then Monday I had my mom cornrow my hair, cause I can't do it myself.  So I went to work the next day, cornrows to the back, the last loose strands wrapped into a scrunchi.  NONE of the length was showing and this 5th grader  first asked me if the cornrows was my own hair. Then she said I had long hair, just by looking at the cornrows.

I had to stop wearing my hair in a stretched low afro- puff because some 5th grader at another school felt the need to try to "rip my fake puff off"

This is crazy! I know this mind set is common but it's just  wild that so many people feel that we have to have weave.   I just want to shout out, "PEOPLE WE CAN GROW OUR OWN HAIR".

It's getting tiring just thinking about it. I have tried to offer sites but many of those people claim they either don't have the time or they don't need it. Then don't ask me for advice if you don't want it.

It gets old after while and you get use to it, sorry you had to go through that though. 

But, girl I feel the same way when people ask for advice then don't want to take the time to do the research, I am so tempted to make up some business cards with a list of websites and hair albums to visit and keep them in my pocket and go to the mall and just hand them out.

I think its because they think it's impossible for black people to grow hair to the length you have.  Think of yourself as an ad for healthy hair!  Although I must say it must be pretty annoying attracting that sort of attention.  Some days you just want to be a normal joe just going about your business.

@ Tffy passing out cards with hair forum links sound wonderful.  Whenever they ask, I'll just flip them the card.

@Pheonix I know where you are coming from. My hair is pretty much in some type of scrunchi, bun or claw clamp ( while in twists or braids)where my length can't show.  It seems like you have to duck and dodge every few minutes when they notice your hair.

@R2D2inoz  It's good to put a positive spin on it. But I have been chased down at the grocery store over my hair once.  I guess you can say I know what it feels like to be a celebrity.

I've gone up to 2 long haired girls before. But I didn't gawk at them. I complimented them, then I told them my goals and asked if they had any pointers. They didn't seem bothered (or at least they didn't let on to me that they were).

Of course, it may be the whole "vibe" of how it's done. I'm not in awe that they CAN grow their hair that long, so I'm not like "wow, is that yours?"

Renata there is nothing wrong with someone asking. But the woman mentioned made a facial expression that I would find rude, at least to me it was)

Asking a question is also different then someone pulling your hair to try to take the "weave" out. It's painful  since it's not a weave and even if it was a weave It would still be painful; because either way it's attached to your head one way or another.

Oh, hell, NO. PULLING YOUR HAIR? That's just psychotic.

I hear your frustration.  I get sick of people yanking my ponytail just to see if it comes off.  They try to pretend that they're doing it in a playful way but I know why they're doing it.

Oh, here's another one.  When I wear my hair natural I get so sick of people yelling "Oh, you cut your hair!".  Don't they realize curly hair shrinks up, duh!  It dosen't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out....sheesh!

Pokahontas wrote: I hear your frustration.  I get sick of people yanking my ponytail just to see if it comes off.  They try to pretend that they're doing it in a playful way but I know why they're doing it. Oh, here's another one.  When I wear my hair natural I get so sick of people yelling "Oh, you cut your hair!".  Don't they realize curly hair shrinks up, duh!  It dosen't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out....sheesh!

That one gets me too. I always wonder how some people can be so "empty". Pardon my bluntness. (In my case, it's when I wear it curly)

If they think about it for a second, they can compare hair coils, ringlets, or curls to a piece of string or some other item they can wrap around their finger. They can see that when they hold it out straight, it is long, but when they wrap it, or coil it, it looks shorter. That doesn't mean that it is truly shorter though. When hair is curly like in a roller set, it is doing the same thing. An experiment like that shouldn't even have to be acted out for them to figure out how it works.

Phoenix1017 wrote: Pokahontas wrote: I hear your frustration.  I get sick of people yanking my ponytail just to see if it comes off.  They try to pretend that they're doing it in a playful way but I know why they're doing it. Oh, here's another one.  When I wear my hair natural I get so sick of people yelling "Oh, you cut your hair!".  Don't they realize curly hair shrinks up, duh!  It dosen't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out....sheesh! If they think about it for a second, they can compare hair coils, ringlets, or curls to a piece of string or some other item they can wrap around their finger. They can see that when they hold it out straight, it is long, but when they wrap it, or coil it, it looks shorter. That doesn't mean that it is truly shorter though. When hair is curly like in a roller set, it is doing the same thing. An experiment like that shouldn't even have to be acted out for them to figure out how it works.

EXACTLY!   Very well said!

Phoenix1017 wrote: It is very annoying. I'd rather people didn't ask. Better yet, I wish they didn't notice my hair at all and I could wear it anyway I liked. (that's another reason why I like wearing buns. No one notices it)

YOU ARE SO RIGHT!  Why black people walking around with long hair is a big deal is beyond me

Damn straight you think you're cute!!! I'd think less of you if you thought you weren't cute. Sadly, in this society, women who hate what they look like is so normal that people think something's wrong with you if you don't dislike what you look like.

So the next time someone says, "she thinks she's cute," just smile and say to yourself, "DUH!"

Renata you got that right! Just a minute ago, some girl passed me saying, " U think you special with your hair up and all."  My response was, "I sure do, or no one else would."

Well for some these comments could be a mile stone. To those, I wish them luck. But when they try to yank your hair out of your head...you'll know what I'm talking about.