Social questions...
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Topic: Social questions...
Posted By: kristie m
Subject: Social questions...
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 3:13am
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So, when people compliment you on your hair, do you tell them you're wearing extensions? (Personally, I usually do because I feel like I'm lying if I just say "thank you," especially because my hair was a short pixie just a few months ago.)
If you've told them you're wearing extensions and they want to look at your bonds (why do people always want to do this?) do you let them? (It is always kind of creepy for me to have people digging through my hair... I think maybe I need to stop telling them it's extensions??? It is weird how interested people are in this...) Maybe I'm just troubled by this because I'm an extensions newbie... maybe once I've worn them for a year or two maybe I'll just think: "it's my hair, I paid for it, I installed it, it's nobody's business but my own!" ??? ------------- Here's to the end of my BAD HAIR LIFE! |
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Posted By: pinkparadise42
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 8:11am
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I don't tell people they are extensions normally if someone compliments me.
The only people I usually tell are friends, and yes they often want to see the bonds! I do think it is weird, but when I think of it, I would prolly want to see them too if I didn't have them.
However, with strangers, I usually just say thank you and move on.
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Posted By: Kalika
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 8:42am
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"you have nice hair"
"thank you"
I say the same if someone compliments my eyes, I dont feel the need to explain they're contacts.
Its different for people I actually know though.
"Nice hair"
"Oh shove it, you know its weave"
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Posted By: gsmilie
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 10:27am
Oh you wouldn't say that, would you!!!?
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Kalika wrote:Posted By: sarytyr
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 10:41am
If someone just compliments "Your hair looks great" or "I really like your hair" I simply say thanks. But if they say something like "Your hair grows really fast" or "I never noticed how long your hair is" then I tell them that it's extensions. Of course, close friends get all the details!
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Posted By: Divavocals
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 11:26am
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Ahhh weave etiquette!!! Here's the deal.. If you and I are not CLOSE friends, you DON'T need to know what I did or didn't do to my hair.. Co-workers I'm cool with are not CLOSE friends.. Regulars from my local bar are NOT close friends.. So when folks say nice hair, I say thanks and move on PERIOD..
When I put in my current install, I came to work with hair darker, and a little longer than I had the previous week. When folks complimented my hair, I smiled sweetly and told folks that I decided to straighten my hair and colored it. When they comment on how much my hair grew and how quickly it grew I simply smile and say, yes it does.. That was the END OF THE STORY!!!
Now I have picked through other women's hair, and let someone see my extensions up close, but that's cause WE BOTH knew we were wearing extensions, and we were close FRIENDS so we like to see what other folks are doing.. ------------- Check out the 5th So Cal offline luncheon?? For more info: divahairtalk.overthehillweb.com/lunch.html Links to my fav vendors & hair albums + Weave 101 information: divahairtalk.overthehillweb.com |
Posted By: malibu
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 1:43pm
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The other night I went to my husband's work party and I wore a full
head of clip-ins. My hair looked awsome!!!!! A women at the party
commented on my hair saying she wished she had hair like mine. I wanted
so badly to tell her they were extensions but I figured nah!
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Posted By: Koffee Brown
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 3:46pm
Kristie, wow I can't imagine letting someone ramble thru my hair unless it's a close friend. I might or might not say that i am wear ing extensions tho, depends on setting. But the show n tell (and touch, eww) is OUT! Agan, a close friend is different. Once my girl complimented me on my outfit and how it showed off my cleavage, and i popped out my "Curve" silicone cutlet and tossed it to her. and said "shoot girl, u can have cleavage like this too". So friends get all the info! I'm w/ Kalika, to friends i say: "B- u know this is a WEAVE!"   ------------- K-B |
Posted By: Divavocals
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 3:59pm
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Posted By: Cody
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 4:07pm
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I don't ever try to pretend that I'm au natural, because I change my hair so frequently and dramatically that it's obvious. In just the past year I've had blonde, black, purple, dreads, short, long, you name it.
I suppose if I met someone who I'd never see again, I wouldn't feel the need to disclose my extensions. Usually if someone seems really envious I want to share the love and let them know that they too can be this fabulous!
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Posted By: sherrie215
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 4:56pm
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If someone pays me a compliment I just say thank you! OH my gosh koffee....you crack me up girl! I about fell outta my chair reading that! ------------- www.hairextensions101.com - www.hairextensions101.com www.mybeautyaddiction.com - www.mybeautyaddiction.com |
Posted By: nursie
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 5:01pm
| people i dont know too well just get a 'thanks', im such a blabbermouth with my friends that they all know already and yes they do get allowed to 'pick through my hair', ..............but sometimes, there's that one lady who is a perfect stranger and who really does have obviously crappy hair---and i do choose to tell her that its extensions and i do them myself and that she should have a look at hairboutique.com (i wish someone had told me about 15years ago!) |
Posted By: Koffee Brown
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 8:47pm
WE are VERY, VERY close! Longtime gal pals. Couldn't get that personal w/ everybody! . But she ended up getting some too!! ------------- K-B |
Posted By: 222chik222
Date Posted: May 12 2006 at 9:00pm
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LOL @ Divavocals and Koffee Brown, you guys rock!
Whenever i see meet people with gorgeous hair its hard not to compliment, if they say its extensions usually im interested in how the hair feels with the bonds (good extensions that look natural are usually attached well and therefore the bonds cant be easily felt-well within reason). But yeah, i wouldnt like strangers touching my hair its part of my personal space LOL |
Posted By: TanglesRC
Date Posted: May 13 2006 at 12:35am
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i dont tell unless its a client and i want her to see just how natural it can look, otherwise if someone compliments my hair, i say- thank u!
if they say who does your hair, then i say i do and give them my card! ------------- Bringing beauty, one head at a time... |
Posted By: elvira
Date Posted: May 13 2006 at 9:07am
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Always depends on my mood!
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Posted By: kristie m
Date Posted: May 14 2006 at 2:25pm
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Thanks for all your responses. They made this an interesting thread! I think I need to practice saying "thank you" and shutting my mouth to keep unwanted people from pawing my head. I think I'll use the strategy of telling people I'd hug and not telling those I don't feel comfortable getting that physically close to, because almost everyone I tell seems to want to touch my hair and head. It reminds me of when I was pregnant and even people (especially men) I didn't know thought it was okay to come up and touch my pregnant tummy. My daughter-in-law who is an attorney even experienced this from other male attorneys in the courtroom! ------------- Here's to the end of my BAD HAIR LIFE! |
Posted By: bettyblue13
Date Posted: May 16 2006 at 3:10pm
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I know!! i think its totally rude for people to ask...ESPECIALLY if other people are around. What I get more often than not, is the people that don't ask but when they go to hug you goodbye or hello they touch your head... I hate that and its weird. My hair is naturally very thick and long, but I still love putting extensions in cause you can never have too much hair, in my book!
But if I admit to the people who ask...they think ALL my hair is fake. lol
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Posted By: Divavocals
Date Posted: May 16 2006 at 4:59pm
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Posted By: Kalika
Date Posted: May 16 2006 at 5:03pm
Damn, I never got fun questions like that when i wore sew in's. I would take it and run with it.
"they sew it into your SCALP??!!!"
*give them big, sad puppy eyes* "yes, the bleeding usually goes away after the first week or so" then begin to cry muttering "the pain.. the pain"
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Posted By: Divavocals
Date Posted: May 16 2006 at 6:27pm
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As much fun as that approach sounds like.. (and I do like the shock and torture factor in this..) I decided to eliminate the potential for stupid questions to be asked at all.. ------------- Check out the 5th So Cal offline luncheon?? For more info: divahairtalk.overthehillweb.com/lunch.html Links to my fav vendors & hair albums + Weave 101 information: divahairtalk.overthehillweb.com |
Posted By: Koffee Brown
Date Posted: May 16 2006 at 7:05pm
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Kalika! I like that one.. We have a similar sense of humor! .
Years ago when i wore braid extensions, a coworker would ask me
"how do u get your hair like that, u get up every morning and put those
tiny braids in your hair?" And i said "yes, It's a lot of work too
doing this every morning, I have over 300 plaits in my hair can u
imagine how long that takes!" (trying to make her realize the stupidity
in her question).. And for good measure, I added -- "that's why I'm
arrive a lil late every morning to the office" lol
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Posted By: Divavocals
Date Posted: May 16 2006 at 7:17pm
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Posted By: longhairaddict
Date Posted: May 17 2006 at 12:22am
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Hehe, that is funny. I always rat myself out, when someone compliments my hair I do say thank you and often I mention it is extensions. Maybe I feel guilty? lol If they are interested I usually show them my bonds without them asking lol...maybe I am just a wierdo but I like sharing it. ------------- Wearing 22" 8oz Tease I tips installed with silicone microrings. |
Posted By: kristie m
Date Posted: May 17 2006 at 12:26am
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Thanks to Kalika I have a new answer: "Yes, they're extensions and I've sewn them right to my scalp!" (Maybe then no one will want to look at them and touch them.) Too funny! ------------- Here's to the end of my BAD HAIR LIFE! |
Posted By: PRNCEZZRAL
Date Posted: May 17 2006 at 7:44am
| Diva that is so true. My b/f of a few months asked so are you losing your hair. Do you have bald spots ? This is even after he saw pics of me without extensions. I have had quite a few others ask this also. Then this week a longtime guy friend came by and he said my hair looked better and I told him I now have a weave. He got this look of horror on his face and said you mean you got it sewn into your scalp? I had to convince him for 10 min that weaves are not sewn into your head that it is a braid the hair is sewn to. I was so frustrated at him I was ready for him to leave my house. Some people just dont get it! |
Posted By: Divavocals
Date Posted: May 17 2006 at 10:16am
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I do have one friend who's husband thought it was "funny" to out me about my weave in front of a room full of people whenever I came over to their house, until I pulled him aside and told him how rude I thought that was.. I asked him if he was willing to out all of the women wearing breat implants and folks who may have had a "little work done" on their face/body.. and oh how about the men who REALLY have small di*** but were lying to women about it.. Should we out all of them publically??? And how about his fake teeth, should I mention that to a roomful of people AT HIS HOUSE?? If we're going to out "fake" $h!t.. then's let's out EVERYONE!!! He stopped doing it that after that..
I have PLENTY of thick healthy hair and I wear extensions cause I want to KEEP my thick healthy hair, and I wear them cause it gives me OPTIONS.. Short to long... Long to short.. My hair weave whatever.. I used to avoid cutting my hair, but now If I decide to go short short I know ANYTIME I want long hair again, I can have it.. I started wearing extensions again because for two years I wore a SHORT hairstyle (think Halle Berry or Fantasia) and I was ready to grow it out, but HATED having to deal with that in-between period you have with short short hair cuts.. So bottomline is.. I wear extensions because I WANT to.. not because I have to.. BUT if I had to wear 'em?? SO WHAT IF I DID??? I'm glad to know there's options out there.. ------------- Check out the 5th So Cal offline luncheon?? For more info: divahairtalk.overthehillweb.com/lunch.html Links to my fav vendors & hair albums + Weave 101 information: divahairtalk.overthehillweb.com |