crazy dry, brittle, frizzy hair after relaxed(GUY)
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Topic: crazy dry, brittle, frizzy hair after relaxed(GUY)
Posted By: mikeike
Subject: crazy dry, brittle, frizzy hair after relaxed(GUY)
Date Posted: June 09 2006 at 11:51pm
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so, everyone.. let me start off by saying my hair is naturally really really curly and dry and impossible to do anything with, ever. so in jan. of this year i got it relaxed, when it was relatively short (1-2 inches in some places, 3-5 in others). but after a month or two it started to feel like my hair was losing the whole soft and straight and manageable thing, so after dealing with that for a while, i got my hair relaxed again by a friend, who IS a stylist but a cheaper one than when i originally had the process done ($125 the first time, $30 the second time...) she used a child strength relaxer on all my hair, including what was already relaxed once, but it didn't really do much and after a week or two it was like she never did anything to it at all. so, about a week ago, i had my roots relaxed (including what was only relaxed once by the cheap, child-strength stuff, but NOT what was already done twice before), this time at the expensive place i had originally had it done at.
it's probably because my hair was already messed up by that cheap crap, but my hair is STILL really bad. it has weird small, tight waves and it's extremely EXTREMELY dry - if i lift up ANY clump of hair anywhere on my head, it STAYS that way and doesn't move. and that's after i use a ton of different products on it and wear a skull cap for like 20 minutes in the morning after i get out of the shower and put everything in it.
if i don't use a lot of product (garnier fructis smoothing milk and john frieda frizz-ease for relaxed hair, then garnier fructis "surf hair" wax) then just trust me. it's basically a somewhat-straight (but still wavy in most places) afro with crazy pieces of frizzed-out hair sticking up everywhere. the thing is, in the morning when my hair is even just a little bit damp, my hair is awsome and straight and manageable, but after an hour when it's completely dried it looks like crap.
PLEASE tell me there's something i can do. money really isn't an object. i already got this stuff that the stylist made me buy for $47 (Rene Furterer Karite Revitalizer), and i have to put a warm towel over my head for 10 minutes when i put it in, and it feels like it makes my hair a little softer and everything but it definitely doesn't fix it.
i really like my long hair though. if worst comes to worst and you guys think there's absolutely nothing i can do, i guess i'd be willing to straighten it. i would need you to recommend what kind of straightener to use though, because i tried using my mom's Chi once without a temp. setting and it came out like crap. but my friend also used HER Chi on me before with the highest temp setting and my hair was really good after actually..
well. yeah like i said, PLEASE. there's gotta be SOMETHING i can do..
here is a picture of me and my hair (from my myspace)
 but keep in mind, that's in dark lighting and AFTER i've done all the crazy procedures i have to do. that pic was also taken the day after i got it relaxed last, so it looks better there than it does now. way better.
and, this is pretty laughable and unrealistic, but the hair i think would be really really gnarly to have is something like this off the teddy geiger cd:
http://images.barnesandnoble.com/images/11150000/11156868.jpg - http://images.barnesandnoble.com/images/11150000/11156868.jpg
i know i prob sound like one of those vain prissy guys but trust me i'm not, i just wanna be able to run around and change clothes without my hair turning into a huge ball of puffy crappiness.
thanks everyone and sorry for the term-paper-like length :)
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Posted By: TheGame
Date Posted: June 10 2006 at 10:55pm
| Just out of curiosity, how long did it take for your hair to grow out to that length from when it was originally relaxed? |
Posted By: mikeike
Date Posted: June 11 2006 at 6:10pm
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i got it done first 6 months ago @ the beginning of january.. but i had it trimmed a couple times to make the shape look more like a long-hair cut and not a short-hair one that grew out too much i'm still reeeaally in need of some direction. i can't stand how if i run my hand back through my hair it ALL sticks up and is impossible to get back down. it's that bad
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Posted By: 1hairlover
Date Posted: June 12 2006 at 2:10am
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First of all just because a kid is on the front of a relaxer box, that doesn't mean jack, it the same as all the other relaxer, if your hair is underprocess that can cause breakage, and you can't keep relaxing on top of what you have already relax. I love all of the Phyto product line I have very dry hair from birth, and I use the Phytospecific line on my hair. Good luck ------------- lovelove |
Posted By: Jazzyy
Date Posted: June 26 2006 at 1:49pm
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1. Your hair is dry and brittle because you relaxed previously relaxed hair over again, which means it is over processed. You will need to deep condition it about once a week to keep it soft and stop the dryness.
2. Try to hold off from relaxers for a while. Get your roots relaxed at a minimum of every 8 weeks, so that your stylist doesn't overlap onto previously relaxed hair. Also, the chemicals in relaxers break the bonds in your hair, weakening it, so it is best to hold off from them as long as possible. I got my last relaxer (roots only) about 8 weeks ago and I am planning on waiting another 8 weeks.
3. The relaxer itself is probably the main culprit. Cheap child relaxers often ruin hair because they are extremely harsh. I go to a salon and get professional, lye relaxers which make my hair feel silky soft and smooth, without any dryness.
4. Did your stylist neutralize your hair? When you relax your hair, the pH level of your hair goes up and a neutralizer brings it back down to its normal level, stopping the chemicals in its tracks.
Hope that helps. ------------- Jazzy aka Chai Goals: SL, APL, BSL 
"Those that say it cannot be done, should not disturb those that are doing it." |
Posted By: IcyFire
Date Posted: June 26 2006 at 9:47pm
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Okay. Ive been through this, so hopefull I can give you some helpful advice. You've overprocessed your hair with a relaxer and now it has lost most if not all its moisture (I've been trough this).
I also have naturally curly/wavy hair that I relax once in a while( with those cheap relaxers, too) and straighten everyday with a flat iron.
Some people would call me a 'scene guy' so you betcha I know all about hair issues.
 I honestly cannot go outside my doors if my hair is not straightened.
What I do is I use a good moisturizing treatment. Since you said that money is not an issue, you can go to a salon and have a professional deep conditioning treatment. Or you can try to find a good product off the internet. I would recommend Kerasate products. A good drugstore brand Is Neutrogena Triple Moisture Treatment. Its does a really good job of softening up my hair after I relax it.
If you want to straighten your hair, I would suggest you use a really good ceramic flat iron like Sedu or Solia. THey are the ONLY good flat irons that will not burn your hair and leave it like straw. Actually i think my Sedu has improved the quality my hair. I love it.
You can also get aThermal Recondition Treatment, which will straighten your hair for a few months..but its expensive and like I said,its not permanent. ------------- Visit the Bright Skin Forum http://excoboard.com/exco/forum.php?forumid=65288 |
Posted By: babycheeks24
Date Posted: June 27 2006 at 8:35am
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i think you need to get it back to health with moisturizing a lot and some deep conditioning treatments and stop relaxing it you can have nice curly hair without the frizz who said straight is better i think youd look great with curly hair ( i just use a little jojoba oil from a health store on my curls and the frizz goes down 100 percent) STOP STRAIGHTNING UR HAIR and let it be ur causeing more damage then good and flat irons or any other thing you use will still cause more damage curly hair cannot handle the heat. ------------- Babycheeks |