what do they want?
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Topic: what do they want?
Posted By: femmemuscle
Subject: what do they want?
Date Posted: July 18 2006 at 7:49pm
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i have been going to this beautician for about 1 year, and am so happy with the full cap weaves. My natural hair is now past shoulder length, with a tight curl pattern. The only problem i have with it is styling. I like the low maintenance of wearing weaves because of my sports activities, i am extremely athletic. my boyfriend likes my spiral perm weave style, like most guys. He also knows i have natural shoulder-length hair, yet he wants me to have it permed, flat-ironed, or blow-dry styled...the very same styles i can wear with a weave cap. He says he wants to "run his fingers through it". Well, ladies to be honest about my boyfriend, he's pale, fat and bald, which means i don't have sh*t to run my fingers through, so why is he sweating my head?
My ex-beautician (thank gawd I left her) flat ironed and permed my natural hair, long time ago. Even though i kept up a good regime, it started breaking off. My boyfriend saw the breakage and understood then..now, here we are a year later, and he's starting up again.. Sometimes, he'll even crack jokes about it "looking good, but who's hair is that?"
 which brings up another topic...I take the time out to take care of myself, my looks, hair, education, skin and body. I wonder sometimes when i am approached by guys who obviously don't do likewise - where do they get off? ------------- some days, it's just not worth chewing through the restraints. |
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Posted By: stillinlove63
Date Posted: July 18 2006 at 9:00pm
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if your bf really cared he wouldn't care if you didn't have a hair on your head.....Its YOUR hair not HIS so your're right he shouldn't be complaining especially since you are making an effort for him......imo u should wait for someone who you feel your not settling for
------------- Current: SL Goal: APL by '07 3B/3C thick |
Posted By: Jazzyy
Date Posted: July 19 2006 at 6:27pm
Preach girl! ITA! ------------- Jazzy aka Chai Goals: SL, APL, BSL 
"Those that say it cannot be done, should not disturb those that are doing it." |
stillinlove63 wrote:Posted By: Vanity3
Date Posted: July 19 2006 at 6:50pm
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Men are weird, and we allow them to get away with it. Tell him how you feel, you'll be happier, and maybe he'll lay off. ------------- Natural since March 2006 No "heat" challenge for Winter 08-09 public.fotki.com/Vanity3 keepitsimplesista.ning.com/profile/Vanity1920 |
Posted By: KeishaNSU
Date Posted: July 19 2006 at 7:36pm
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I agree with everyone as well, tell him how you feel and if he is a MAN he should respect that |
Posted By: stillinlove63
Date Posted: July 19 2006 at 8:56pm
 LOL------------- Current: SL Goal: APL by '07 3B/3C thick |
Posted By: babyautumn
Date Posted: July 22 2006 at 10:47am
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Ditto. MeN..some of them have this deep relationship with length and texture of a woman's hair. I don't agree with the bf's problem with the style that YOU prefer for yourself. Hair ain't the thang ..the only thang that defines a woman's beauty it's the mind and heart of that woman that reflects it. ------------- beauty is in the eye of the beholder;make sure that your vision of it doesn't blind anyone elses! |
Posted By: SugarCube
Date Posted: July 30 2006 at 5:35pm
babyautmn I couldn't have said it better myself ; if he insists on you changing your hairstlye even after you told him it hurts your feelings when he says stuff like that, FORGET HIM.------------- JESUS is The Way the Truth and The Life! |