well, i've got a question for a coworker of mine.

for her personal beliefs, she does not cut her hair whatsoever.  no trims, no layers, no bangs(fringe), nothing.  but she's got split ends like you wouldn't believe.  she knows i used to have hair her length, so she keeps asking me what the best solution would be.  i always tell her what she doesn't want to hear, so i was wondering if any of you had any kind of solution.

from my understanding, the only way to get rid of a split end it to trim it.. because if you don't it just keeps splitting all the way up the strand....

Well, let her know that if she don't trim, she just has to live with the split ends.

 

Much love, Shary

thanks for all your suggestions!

 

I know what you mean. My friend (the pastor I mentioned above) is the same way. She is like a mother to me, and a great woman of God. However, it is amazing to see how someone that is so close to him, can take scripture so out of context. My favorite day, was the day she said to me, "you know what? pants, earrings and all, I have to admit I know you are of the Lord, and Jesus really shines through you". My jaw almost dropped to the floor. I could not believe those words came out of her mouth. I mean she is pretty stuburn when it comes to that stuff. But like I always tell her, "you shall know them by their fruit, not by the clothes they wear".

I must admit, I didn't think they came any more fanatic than her when it came to that stuff. But hearing that your friend won't even trim split ends, makes me see that I was wrong.

 

Well, lets hope your friend eventually really finds out what being a christian is all about and trims out those ugly split ends. They will not help her get into heaven. Don't get me wrong. I'm not trying to mock another Christian. That's just my personality. I tend to make jokes out of everything. My whole family is like that. But I would never disrespect someone's believes. It is just frustrating not to be able to make a person understand that cutting their split ends won't send them to hell. But oh well, I guess I have to practice what I preach. Always respect people's right to believe whatever they choose to believe.

 

I hope she at least takes your advice, and uses that search and destroy method. Dave's idea about the candle sounds great, but I think only someone with experience should do that. OMG! imagine what would happen if that long mane caught fire? That poor thing would die.

I guess not everyone has the ability to grow super long hair like Dave's and still manage to keep it looking beautifull. Gosh, I still can't get over how he does it. That is one impressive head of hair.

 

Anyway is great knowing I'm not the only one dealing with friends like that. It is so great to see though, that eventhough you don't agree with her believes, you still respect them, and don't let that get in the way of seeing the good things about her, and enjoying her as a friend for who she is. You are a great friend, and a wonderfull person. There should be more friends like you.

 

Much love, Shary

yeah, i said something about the candle, but the was like "well, i guess i'll have to live with split ends!"

i think the girl in her will come out eventually, and she may try search and destroy.

speaking of trims... i'm hopefully going to a salon this weekend for one.  i've been doing my own for about a year (including a cut of about 8 inches in late january), so i think i need a good trim and shaping.  woohoo!

     Sometimes I think that many women who love lengthy locks don't grow their own simply because they are afraid that their own might turn into "the ratty mess I saw today". I think it is incumbent upon those who wear long hair to aspire to make her hair its most attractive, even if that entails *some* trimming. It is best to turn people's thoughts from, "If only she..." to "if only I"! Blessings, Bob

::sigh::
dave, it's not something i particularly want to discuss... lol

the girl who did it... ugh.  i should have stuck to the rule where you only let someone cut your hair if you like theirs.
well, for starters, she had just had a perm gone wrong done on her head by a coworker.  and she has short hair--always will have short hair.  she did NOT touch the overall length of my hair, which was great.  but when it came to my bangs... well, i have these long sideswept bangs that i kinda curl back (almost like an 80's look), and i was like "sure, they could use a little trim" and she says "great!  now, we've been seeing more and more girls come in with the sideswept bangs like yours, and there's this frayed look that we've been giving them that's great on any face"

i give her permission to proceed, seein' how i had told her to TRIM them.  well, 3 inches later, she's asking if i want them shorter on the side or if the angle's ok on the bangs.  choking back the words i was thinking, i'm like "oh yeah, that's GREAT!"

so now... my happy, springy hair refuses to lay flat against my forehead, so if there's a breeze outside, i just pull my hair up and pin my bangs back, to avoid looking like i'm wearing a baseball cap because of my bangs.

that's the long-winded version, but at least i have "rededicated my life" to self-trims.

thank you.

<3

 

Dave,

This is interesting as I have known of this method for a long time, but never tried it on my hair.  I did have a persian cat who swished her tail over a candle and set her tail on fire- I might add that if you use the flame method, be prepared to RAPIDLY run your finger over the end to extinquish or seal if it just melts.  I was able to put out Sassy's tail before she knew it was on fire by grabbing her tail and running my hand down its length.  She  looked at me like, "What are you pulling my tail for, you idiot?"- so obviously she never knew it was on fire.  Burning hair leaves a most unappealing odor in the air, too.  I had a friend in gradeschool light one of her long hairs and the flame flew up the length but we smothered it out before it got to the scalp and it was only one hair.  But it smelled the same--her mother was quite upset- we just wanted to see what would happen-  we found out. 

 

I do think this would work though if someone's beliefs prohibited cutting, but I would use extreme caution and only as a last resort.  When I worked in the salon, I had a couple of girls whose beliefs prohibited cutting but they would come in for the occasional dusting type trim and didn't seem to have a problem with it, but everyone is different.

 

I don't know why I shared all this.  I've been away from the boards too long, obviously!

 

Hope everyone is having a great hair day. 

 

SF